The Power of Marriages
Marriage is a signed contract
Traditional marriages keep spouses in a circle.
It is difficult to explain to a traditional husband or wife of a modern marriage.
The different beliefs keep people apart and from recent observations
I discovered the hardship of a traditional marriage.
To a modern lifestyle the traditional marriage appears wrong or inappropriate.
The way you look at such marriages allows for a better understanding of that culture. You don’t always see the marriage the way persons involved sees their marriage.
The days are long passed whereby a woman is held back from enjoying her life as a mother or wife.
Age has got nothing to do with the way she lives life.
The old-fashioned ones live by the age. In this strategy the traditional way of life is a must for too many marriages. Village life is traditional and unique.
A traditional woman is to marry and raise a family.
What about other needs in that woman’s life?
To have a husband and a family is a choice one makes to grow as a person. Traditional people believe married life is more important than any other part of one’s life.
What is in a marriage requires more than just what is required of you in a traditional marriage
Traditional is having strong beliefs and values of a family.
The customs are forced down to generations.
Tradition is important to any culture.
However, not many hold on to these traditions. The village people in a small community follow their tradition courageously.
A married couple in a traditional marriage in the place I live in is a lot to grasp for me.
I didn't know much of a traditional marriage till I moved to Croatia in the southern part of konavle.
My life changed as did my marriage when I found myself in a traditional lifestyle. The many challenges I faced in my marriage did not make me weak.
Modern times have changed a few traditional marriages.
The small villages have the old practices of a traditional marriage.
The dominance is present by most traditional marriages.
Hard work shows the strength of the many village people.
Traditional lifestyles are present to this day in this region. The traditional dressing and foods are a live and there to stay.
The custom is old-fashioned and not how I chose to live in this village.
I couldn't live in a tradition that makes me feel older than I am.
I respect other cultures and people’s beliefs. In most traditional marriages couples are not always the happiest.
It is shown in their behaviors. I call it People Pleasing! Most of the women work for most of the day in fields. Cooking, cleaning, and entertaining guests.
She has no choice but to continue her daily chores. Time for her is not possible in a traditional marriage. In a marriage you need to be at peace with yourself.
You can't make each other happy. Each of you needs to be happy in your comfortable zones. Change your mind set. Positive energy works from both sides stick to that mode.
An open mind begins with peace. What you perceive creates reality. If you perceive peace in your marriage then that's what you will get in your marriage.
I believe what I see is what I get. You either accept what is in front of you, or be miserable with what you dream you should have in your marriage.
Every move you make toward your partner explains your behavior and attitude towards the relationship in the marriage.
There are the annoying moments experienced in any marriage. It is up to you to choose your path.
You can choose to be annoyed with everything in your marriage or choose to be at peace with yourself.
The habits you don't prefer will be there right in your face.
There is something about you that your partner is annoyed with and won't say a word to you. You need to maintain a peace of mind in all cases.
You must realize your marriage is no marathon. Whatever you have in mind you are in a marriage together.
Two people have important issues to resolve and should do it together.
I know nothing can ruin my day unless I let it ruin my day.
A little teasing from your partner shouldn't ruin your day. Sometimes the little things are left better unspoken of in a marriage.
You don't need to bicker about every little issue.
Problems get bigger when one of the partners sees everything as a serious matter.
The dirty laundry left on the floor is annoying.
Talk about it and let out the steam that bothers you. Be responsible for your content. The choices you make allows for a better relationships in marriages. You choose to be part of another person's life and to be there for your family.
The power you have allows for the handling of such moments. You don't need to depend on your partner to make you happy.
Remember you are in charge of your own happiness. You become a victim when you make others responsible for your needs. Maintain your power.
You choose what you need in your life to be yourself and not someone else. It is you who deserves to be happy and in love. Both partners deserve each other.
Communication is power.
Why do you need to shut your mouth during communication?
You need to listen to your partner. Let your partner speak uninterrupted. I understand that you will find it difficult to allow your partner to speak uninterrupted.
It happens to me sometimes that I interrupt the conversation.
I learned to slow down my thoughts and thinking when formulating a response.
You need to validate your speech to inform your partner you know what is mentioned.
The lack of understanding and communicating can allow for poor relationships in a marriage. It is possible that you could hear your partner differently.
To be able to listen to each other is very important.
Make sure you heard correctly before responding to conversations. Be honest and open in communication. You got a problem get rid of that problem.
Partners fail in communication when they use their words as a weapon to destroy the one they love.
Whatever you have on your mind should be told with encouragement. In this way you strengthen your marriage. The hurtful words can't be reversed.
What you say stays with that person forever. Once the words are uttered it stays.
The heart takes the pain of your hurtful words and keeps it there. You must know what you want from your partner. Always speak the truth.
To speak truthfully you honor your partner and yourself. You must be honest with yourself before being honest with your partner.
Speak from the heart with your partner to create that honest friendship in your relationship and marriage.
The moment you show the truth in yourself everything else falls in place in your marriage. The little irritations grow to big lesions.
Time is required to heal from those experiences. You and your partner must be willing to speak truthfully.
Be respectful and set boundaries.
You are worthy as your partner is worthy to you. Try to reasonable and calm in free speech. Be free to speak up if you don't prefer a certain type of behavior.
It is important to talk of what bothers you. There is no need to be inappropriate about it. Be yourself and use your skills to avoid this type of behavior for next time.
The way you live your life is entirely up to you. To become part of a family and to include children in that family shows your potential in the marriage.
You are responsible for your own behaviors. Often when I brush my hair strands do fall in the wash hand basin. I don't do that intentionally.
He thinks I left my hair in the sink deliberately.
When two people stay together through all times they know their choices are good for each other.
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© 2016 Devika Primić