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The Secret way to a Man's Heart

Updated on December 8, 2018

Some people say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Well, It is not entirely wrong. Men love good food, but so do women. It's certainly not enough to get him to fall in love with you.

I would like to say that we're a little more complex than you have been made to believe. Beauty alone isn't enough. You definitely have to up your game a bit, in order to get him to fall for you, and if you want to keep him, you have to put some work into it. Here is how.

How to get a man to fall in love with you

There are times when you meet a guy and there is instant chemistry. But as you start to think that the two of you make a great couple, he starts pulling away leaving you wondering what you didn’t do right. It can be devastating.

It is worse if you have slept with him a few times, because you will start to lament about how he used you, and then disappeared. Men are naturally less expressive than women (and this is a big weakness) which makes us even more complex especially to ladies who are less experienced. So how do you keep him interested and get him to stay?

Be a happy independent woman

Most men find independent women really attractive, and great to keep. Independent women have confidence and positive energy which is magnetic. You need to have a life, and try to enjoy it. He needs to see that you don’t depend on his presence to be happy. Even if he is the most fun person to be around, there will be times when he will be unable to make you laugh,and may need your positive energy to get him back in the right mood. If you depend on him for your happiness all the time, he'll be overwhelmed. This can come off as counter productive, but it works.

Engage your self in hobbies and spend quality time with your friends. Avoid being too needy or clingy. He needs to feel that your presence in his life adds to his own happiness.

When a man sees his woman happy and having fun, he will be compelled to crave her company, and will do everything in his power to keep her by his side. You may have problems and he will want to help you with them. But don’t be too quick to show desperation especially for financial assistance. Show a desire and ability to deal with your problems without affecting your happiness. By doing this you will appear to be strong minded and independent. Don’t forget however that your man has a natural instinctive desire to be your provider and knight in shining armor. So as you show off independence, don’t push him away too much.

Make him laugh

Do you want your man to make you laugh and make you feel good about being around him? Chances are high, the answer is yes. Its the same for us. Its not our sole responsibility to come up with moments that get both of you to bust out loud in laughter.

We need to feel good about you and being around you. Be playful and be creative.

Don’t be controlling

Men (like women) need their independence. Show concern about his lifestyle, but don’t try to be his mother, choosing what he should and shouldn’t do. The quickest way to lose a man is by taking away his freedom.

If there is something you’d like to change about him, be gentle, mature and patient about it. If you get moody or pissed every time he’s out watching soccer, or you come up with excuses to try and prevent him from doing some activities away from you, chances are high you are being a little selfish and this is a complete turn off for most men.

Don’t require him to take you with him whenever he wants to go out? Let him desire it. Try not to get hurt because he hasn’t taken you with him. Instead go out with your friends and have some fun. When you appear, happy he will want to be with you. Women believe that men are naturally promiscuous and so the best way to keep a man is by tight marking him. This is wrong.

There is little if anything; you can do to prevent him from cheating if he wants to. In fact the harder you try to stop him, the more you will push him into it.

Be a lady with Character

This cannot be emphasized enough. Physical beauty can attract a man but it won’t keep him for long. No serious man wants to be associated with an obnoxious woman who shouts and jeers at waiters, or taxi drivers, or colleagues at work.

You need to be a lady in order to keep him interested. Mind your language and how you express yourself both in public and in private. This doesn’t mean you should be walking on egg shells whenever you are around your him. Rather be natural and comfortable being courteous to others.

Avoid using offensive language while talking about other people. Talking ill of your ex-boyfriends, even if they hurt you so bad will scare him into thinking that he is no exception. Mind your appearance and social etiquette.

Always be well groomed, well dressed and organized. Try to be mindful and respectful of other people’s feelings. Apologize whenever you do something wrong, because you are not perfect and he doesn’t expect you to be. Try to stay composed even in highly exciting situations. Losing your head in public over a small matter is highly unacceptable.

Prepare good food

On top of the above, it is essential that you have some decent cooking skills. Men are attracted to women who can cook good food (but not because men love food much more than women do). In a man’s instincts, a woman who cooks well provides nutritional security in the home. This is essential for healthy development of his offspring.

Remember that the natural reason for his attraction to your beauty and your great character and personality is to mate, and there after produce strong healthy offspring. A woman who makes good food brings a sense of stability in the home. Her children will always be satisfied and will grow strong and healthy. Her husband will be proud to work hard every day to bring food home and have his meals at home.

There is certainly no full-proof way of keeping a man, but If you can keep these tips close, you will almost certainly find the way to his heart.

© 2016 Ian Batanda


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