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The Sensitive Man and You
It’s the new era: men who write poetry, knit socks and wear women’s jeans are so cool right now. All of a sudden, I see just as many men at my hair salon as women, and men are expected to tweeze their eyebrows and wax their chests. A little unibrow-tweezing never hurt anybody, but I think this new sensitivity has confused the male population.It’s not that we’re wishing you’d go back to being cavemen, but a little sensitivity goes a long way, guys. Men are supposed to be men. You’re not supposed to go shopping with me. If you agree to watch a romantic movie, it’s cute…but if you’re crying as much as I am, that’s a turn off.See, it’s okay to be a guy. You shouldn’t change your biological makeup because of some trend. And I truly believe this has caused a problem. For example, a lot of men aren’t asking women out anymore; they ignore their male prowess and just sit around, or they get close but can’t pull the trigger. Somehow, men have lost their balls (and it’s irritating women everywhere). With female rights abound, it’s possible that some guys think women may be offended by their advances. Please don’t feel that way. It’s still your job to ask women out. Even though we’re fully capable, we prefer you to make the first move. This eliminates so much confusion when you’re dating, it’s not even funny. If a woman thinks she has to act like a guy and ask YOU out, a) she’s not going to like it and b) it won’t work to your advantage because women are not meant to play that role. It’s much easier when we don’t have to. By being the guy, you’re helping us out. By figuring out what to do on dates, you’re actually offering up your maleness. It’s what you bring to the relationship. When a woman doesn’t have to take action, she can relax; men are better at action than women are. It’s about making her comfortable. And if she has to decide everything in the relationship, she’s going to be very uneasy. A little sensitivity to women is a good thing, but don’t take it too far. Good sensitivity is buying your girl flowers, or holding her while she cries. Bad sensitivity is taking longer to get ready than she does, or yelping at her to kill harmless moths for you. Make her think that there’s more to you than football, beer and hunting things, but protect her the way only men can. Just don’t make yourself look like her girl friend rather than boyfriend.