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The Thin Line Between Love and Hate

Updated on April 16, 2013

Mike's Common Sense

There is an old saying, "There's a thin line between love, and hate". The more I ponder this, the more I believe it to be true. Hate is a strong word, and I can say that there is no one that I truly hate, but there are a few that I dislike a lot. Of this list of people, most, if not all of them, are people that I was enamored with, infatuated with, or in love with.

Why is this? When we have a falling out with someone we care about, why do the scales in our minds make such a drastic swing, from love, all the way to hate? Why don't they swing from love to ambivalence? Is the ego so vindictive, that when it is hurt, or senses an injustice caused by someone who supposedly cares about it, that it must seek revenge in the form of hate?

Apparently so.

When someone we like, or are indifferent to, wrongs us, we merely slot them into the asshole file and forget about them. It is hardly a blip on our radar of life. When someone we love, whether or not that person loves us in return, wrongs us, we immediately take all the emotion sitting on the "love" side of the scale, and dump it on the "hate" side. We do a 180 degree, about face on them. This causes a 8.0 on the Richter scale change in our lives.

Why don't we just slot them into the asshole file, and forget them?

Eventually, we do; time does heal all wounds. I believe it is the shock, surprise, and the ensuing hurt, that brings about such a drastic change in our feelings. I don't believe it is in the human makeup to be able to go from love to ambivalence, or from hate to ambivalence. Once we reach one extreme emotionally, such as love, the only change that can be made is to the other extreme...hate.

That is why, even though they are worlds apart, there is a thin line between love and hate.

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      Michael A Muehleisen 

      9 years ago from Miami,FL

      Hi G-Ma! I think I side with you. You really can't hate someone without loving them first. Look at the relationship between Lucifer and God.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 

      9 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      I don't think you can hate someone without loving them first...and as you say time erases it cause the line is very thin...to me there is no in between...G-Ma :O) Hugs

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      Michael A Muehleisen 

      9 years ago from Miami,FL

      Hate is a very strong word, and I agree that it takes too much energy to hate someone. But then again, some people will expend it. Thanks for stopping by female Prophet.

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      Feline Prophet 

      9 years ago

      Hate is such a strong word...do many people actually experience it? In my case dislike is as far as I go...and you're right, if people didn't matter in the first place one doesn't even expend the little energy that disliking them would take.

    • muley84 profile imageAUTHOR

      Michael A Muehleisen 

      9 years ago from Miami,FL

      hi VioletSun, thanks for the probing, insightful comment.

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      VioletSun 

      9 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      This is a thought provoking hub and have shared with my circle of spiritual friends so I can get their thoughts on the subject.  As for me, when I had a breakup, I felt resentment for the things that were hurtful, but never a hate- I went from love to relief in being out of the past relationship. I tend to agree we don't go from love to ambivalence, but on he subject of hate it depends on the emotional and spiritual makeup of the person.

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