The Wild World
Amidst the hustle bustle of everyday life includes many decisions that surround, “Water shortage,” “Poor sanitation,” “Corruption,” “Suspicion.”
One of the households in the urban part of South Asia is heading towards the hospital, and after a few hours of anxiety, sweat, heavy breathes and hard pushes.
"It's a girl" the nurse beckoned with a gentle smile to the anxious dad that was strolling the sterilized corridors of a private hospital.
"Yes!" he shouted and laughed gleefully.
The nurse was delighted to see that gesture but got a little confused when she heard him mutter, 'Finally, after two boys!' A little dazed, she walked in the room that occupied the mom, the newborn, and the doctor.
Soon this infant girl was taken home. Society swung by either to eye this baby's features or complexion. Girls are always the victims with regards to skin color and appeal. The Mother-in-law and the Mom used to this ritual wore a short and a constant smile.
Life went on!
This infant became a kindergartner and school started, however; the schedule for her was different from her two elder brothers. There were discussions such as what the society will think; comment and the decisions were made accordingly. There was a STOP sign at every junction in her life. Mom got used to her daughter's rolling eyes and initial whining, but as the years rolled by this teen gave up hope and agreed to her demands of curfews and time limits since there was no turning back thus, relieving mom and the family.
A young adult now, this lady had blossomed into a young damsel. A flourishing career in spite of steps and stones all the way. Now the neighbor's eyes rolled for different reasons while the women folks at home coaxed her into the prospect of 'settling down.' The young lady agreed to matrimony after lots of coaxing and the repeated dialogue, 'years old culture, and tradition got to be preserved' by the emotional grandmother.
Promises that she can work after marriage go awry since responsibilities crop up. Egos never clashed since the women folks in her household never let them arise. She put her priorities on hold while lending out her delicate hands into the hustle bustle of cooking, cleaning and the daily chores that run a household.
Eventually, a baby is welcomed. This young lady is a mom. Unknowingly she is walking the same path that her mom did by putting restrictions on the growth of her baby girl even though she loves to coo along her drools and teehee's.
The same boundaries are set for her toddler as decisions are made for her upbringing. Life unintentionally was repeating its course, and this young lady is walking the same path as her mom did years ago. As a girl growing up, she compared her upbringing with her friends at that time, but when life threw her lemons, she preferred to make lemonade in the same style that her family used to make i.e. by adding a pinch of salt, sugar and some crushed and grounded cumin. Thus, today as a mom she preferred to adapt to the age-old tradition thus eliminating any possibility of endangering the life of her baby girl.
- Humans of New York
“I was taking a law school admissions test in a big classroom at Harvard. My friend and I were some of the only women in the room. I was feeling nervous. I was a senior in college. I wasn’t sure how...
Life for all genders is similar to Solomon Grundy's poem where there is birth, christening, and marriage, illness followed by death. But still, the challenges that life throws at each at every step of the way makes an individual cautious, scared, vigilant. Some dare to be adventurous, and gamble on the if's and but's that life throws at them while most of them want to follow the path their elders took more so since the end product was foolproof since they are the living examples. No doubt times are changing, and not all decisions could be dated to the eighteenth century.
Whether it is East or West part of the world; unfortunately, a woman is still considered a second class gender thus, having to prove her mark in all aspects be it her safety, security, freedom, and success especially when she decides to quit baking cookies and step outside her home.
Lately, even the Democratic candidate for President, Hillary Clinton opened up.
"I had to learn as a young woman to control my emotions. And that’s a hard path to walk. Because you need to protect yourself, you need to keep steady, but at the same time you don’t want to seem ‘walled off.’
As a woman, she had to work even harder than what her husband did to reach that position.
Every year our planet rotates 365 times around the sun but sadly the mind of the man has yet to turn around as each girl is still trying to conform just to be able to survive and flourish in this wild world that is primarily governed by man and his massive production of testosterone that makes him macho and egocentric.
Should I add that the above challenges the fairer sex to ignite and continue to strive to touch the stars.