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The battle between love, marriage, and religion
The battle between Love, Marriage, and religion.
Truly love is difficult to find yet we know that love is one thing virtually everybody believes should be shared by human. That is we believe it is good to love and to be loved because love can heal all wounds. However, it seems there are situations where love is ignored specially by those who preach and teach love to humanity. That is those who claim to be religious are those who frequently deny love its rightful place just for religious reasons.
There are cases of love being denied because of religious differences. For instance a young man who is a Christian fell in love with a Muslim girl. The family of the girl insisted that the man must convert to Islam before he can marry their daughter. The man could not do that so that was the end of the relationship. Christians are not excluded in this issue because they are also involved. It is said that the Jehovah’s Witness do not allow their members to marry a non-member except if the person will convert and become a witness.
Some youths were discussing this issue; one of them is a catholic while the others were protestant. From their argument it was clear that each Christian sect would not like their member to leave for another sect even though it is another Christian family. The reason is not far-fetched. They do not teach the same doctrines.
A religious mother would like to see her children follow her footsteps. May be that is why it is difficult for parents to allow their children take another path that is different from theirs. Yet, we know that few parents do give their children the liberty to choose what they want in life so it means that at times it is even the lovers themselves that would want their partner to convert before they can get married or start any meaningful relationship.
The young single men and women that are so religious will always want to find a partner that shares their religious point of view. That is why most of them always want to know the faith of the one they meet. It is a fact that a relationship may work better if both partners are of the same religious sect but does it mean a relationship between lovers of different religion will not work out even if both partners agree to respect each other’s religious view. Then another question may be what faith the children will be introduced to since it is parents that first point a religious path for the children.
Well, it is possible for lover to get married despite their religious differences and I trust some people have tried it and it work. This is because people still change their religious faith even after many years of marriage. That is a husband or wife can see reason to change church or religion after many years of marriages and I trust the other partner can live with that.
In my research for ways to improve religious tolerance among humanity, it was noted that inter-religious marriages is recommended because if we can learn to live happily with a partner that is of another religious sect then the external world and their struggle for religious superiority will have no effect on us.
Finally, religion is the only source of hope to many people so they placed it above every other thing even above love. So any time there is a battle between love and religion. Religion wins most of the time. It is only in few instances has love proved to be stronger than religion. Is there anything we can do to reverse the trend and confirm that love is the greatest of all commandments or do we continue to allow love to weep each time religion stands of its way?