- Gender and Relationships
The worst reasons to marry
Many young women grow up with the soul purpose of finding Mr Right and do not see the dangers. They cannot distinguish the good and bad things about this new romantic person entering into their lives. We all need to learn to look beyond the whirlwind feelings of love that tends to grip a couple and sweep them off their feet.
Look hard and long at the wonderful person, you are thinking of marrying. There are so many reasons not to marry in a rush. Herre are a few reasons why:
- Never marry anyone without knowing the person explicitly.
- If you have just met them, you need to meet their friends, learn all you can about them. They could be married to someone else.
- Beware of the person that you met on the Internet not everything may be, as it seems.
Never marry for money
Money is just that, it will give you everything you want of material value. Statistics tell us, that not many people winning lotto are happy. You can have the best of cars, or a house and spa. Everything but what you really wanted, love, friendship, and companionship.
You cannot face living alone
You married for companionship, so where is he when you need him? Oh, yes. He went to the racetrack early this morning, and you have not seen him since. Sure, he comes home at night and is still there in the morning, you may have some fun times together. Although he never takes you with him, so how do you amuse yourself, you spend each day on your own, unless you finally wake up and make a life for yourself without him.
Do not marry for the wrong reason
You were doing the right thing, you were on the pill, and then you went night clubbing with the new boyfriend. Sometime later, you realize that you had missed taking a pill. You have known this boy for two months and now you are pregnant. What can you do? He is a great person, because he has offered to marry and support both you and the baby. Think hard and long about this. Do not rush into marriage. You could continue to see him, or even live together, to see what this person is really like. If it does work out then marry him, if you truly love one another.
Never marry an abusive person
If a person hits you when you are dating, then he will not change after the wedding. If he is an alcoholic, or a smoker and you expect him to change his lifestyle for you, think again. If a person you meet cannot give you the kind of life, you expect when you are dating, a few printed words on a marriage certificate will not change anything.
If you choose to marry a person for one of these reasons, then you are heading for a disastrous marriage. Take a good hard look at yourself and seriously rethink your motives for marrying. Do you think you can really live like that, and what about the children, what would their lives be like?
Never marry for anything less than true love. Even then, all marriages take work, a lot of give and take on both sides, and thoughtfulness between the two of you to make it work.