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No difference with children today, it's their parents.

Updated on November 25, 2011

Kids today aren’t able to do things the same way like the older generations.

It was a totally different era all together when we were kids. Even our own kids are members

of this seemingly “New” generation that most parents love to call “The Modern Generation.”

We areproducts of olden times, and have taught this new generation the very same ways that we were taught

and are these the results we surrender to while branding our kids as

“The New Generation?”

After knowing that we have shown our kids everything that we know

As the simple truths

Which eludes many parents in these times, it’s rather a very simple problem.

During our times as kids, in the environments that most of us grew up in, just about every adult in our neighborhoods,

pPlayed some role in the upbringing of the kids around that neighborhood.

Without that type general community understanding set in place among the adults, the kids would have simply

set their own ethical standards, as it appears to be the way it is done in these times.

It seems like so many of our kids are not understanding their roles in their own homes andit’s obvious

They won’t truly understand their place out in public.

There is panic and confusion.

Whose fault do you think that is?

Many parents don’t seem to be aware that if they are not the first in line to implement the standards

By which their kids would operate in the home, thus having similar ways and standards when outside, because this is what you

Expect of them, then kids are going to be kids, and with this knowledge of their own, what will it mean to them?

The very first impression will more than likely be the bandwagon they will be riding on.

Parents are expected to play the role of jack of all trades, and most good parents do. This has nothing to do with money, or modern day, and all to do with training and tolerance. When speaking about this kind of topic I am compelled to mention the Army and Boot camp. Though their measure are pretty tough, the very same disciplinary measures that will apply. No outside entity should be authorized to be more of a disciplinary or guiding force than the parent. Unless child is inflicted with some type of disorder, then we can say unless qualified, the parent may be out of their league. But even then the greatest Love and care

Will always come from great parents. Based on our own childhood, we know that all great kids usually always are a chip off the old block and more. No kid in any environment on earth will go on to see things the way adults see them, once there are distractions around.

There are plenty such distractions out here. The Army and Boot camp teaches focus and concentration, which is why

Their measures are most effective. That’s also why parents need to be at the very top of their game at all times,

As leaders. There is no time for complaining about kids of today and kids of before, rather feel blessed that you are the

One that's armed with the necessary instruments of success. Be prepared to show your ability as parents to make yourself

And everyone proud by implementing those tools. You are expected to have those same child-like qualities in you as a parent,

But don’t try to be a kid.There will also be plenty of time to play around with them. Have you ever heard the saying?

“Once a man twice a child.”

Then give God praise and hope for a long life to come full circle. Yes you will someday be looking for your great parents to

Help again, in many ways and with many things.

Know that your children are first your children, never first your friend. That’s already determined

If you think instead of react, same as if you think about the possibilities of being

pregnant or being a father long before this occurs, chances are that you will be better equipped and qualified to be a great parents yourself.

You should know most friendships that situations between you and your child will definitely be a problem relationship because the main concern would be on the friendship, trying to please, trying to be right. You already are, you are responsible for and you are in totally in charge of this Life!

Let the most concern before you be the guidance and wellbeing of that which you have contributed greatly in creating.

Because as that child grows and as the friendship grows, you have unknowingly volunteered to be that child’s friend,

Who then will be the parent? The teachers in school, the other kids and their parents? No! It’s you, but you have

Traded that role to be friends, and in most cases you are caught stuck trying to somehow do both which is impossible,

In today’s environment.

Only if you are in remote areas where there are no other influences, do you stand a slim chance at both.

But in these metropolis and densely populated areas, that is impossible!

Which sits in the minds of both the parent and the child, emphasis isplaced on the preservation of the friendship,

And also in anticipation of when and if that friendship might end.

The understanding should be, that the parent is everything to their children, should be the children’s backup plan, their ace in the hole,

the sharp shooter they will substitute for their soccer coach, their teacher, the police, everything. Not the friend you come home to cry and complaint to , that’s their source of strength, where they ask questions and receive answers that are second to none, and also get that assurance that “everything” is going to be alright.

Parents simply have too much weighing on their shoulders in the lines of responsibility, and worrying about a friendship,

Which can and will easily backfire on everyone, will in every situation be a one sided friendship.

You already know what happens with one sided friendships.

You are already a super parent; therefore, there is no need trying to instill this in your children’s heads also; let that be observed.

Your primary role is being the parent, and it doesn't matter who you are, how much money you have, or where you are from.

You are expected to be everything good to the very best of your ability as parents, no need stressing on being friends

With your kids, so they can look at you as a toy they can play with.

Now in careful consideration for you own self, being already in the position that you are, knowing that you were well trained

By you own parents and now there is timeto look at the future with your children, you must use those examples

Passed on by your own parents over the yearsor even by the other parents you have been around.

Exercise the need to teach those guidelines at early stages to your children, long before problems arise.

Listening to your children tell you the things friends don’t do to friends.

Example,when they won’t do their school work and they are bluntly refusing to do so even after being told to do so. As a parent,

Are you asking your kids questions?

Remember, who is the parent?

Make that understanding quite clear early in the relationship between you and your children, before it turns into a

Misunderstanding which can only is your fault because it’s these early times that are the most important in children’s lives.

If you had parents like mine, you would hear these words as rationale: Bend the branches while the tree is still young.

What a child will grow to expect from a friend, is quite different to what that child "needs" from his/her parent.

A parent can be everything to their children but children cannot be the same to their parents.

Armed with proper knowledge from their parents, children should be able to grow and have friends, equally with disappointments,

But those necessary guidelines would have already been in place to help ease that which have already been expected

As a part of life.

Parents should be given one thing and one thing only from their children and that's “Honor and Respect”

It seems like its two different concepts but when understood, it’s rolled into one and translates into love and admiration.

If you are only a friend to your child, when a child thinks that their friend did them something wrong,

What do you know their reaction will be?

You the parent, your experience should already be telling you that it will never work, swapping parenthood for friendship.

Can you imagine a child growing up being sure that it’s ok to be mad at their parents because their parents did

Them something wrong?

Now hear what that wrong actually is:


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    • Sky9106 profile image

      Sky9106 6 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      Thank you greatly bolt , this sounds liker the person who saw both sides of the fence .

      May the Most High God bless and protect you and your family. It is extremely beautiful to hear an adult as huge as he may be , to remember the words of his parents ,and knowing in his heart that it was most definitely these handed down teachings , more so than anything else that is responsible for those long lasting good and gracious qualities still existing in the adults today.

      My Mom is sill here , she is 91 and doing pretty well .

      I really do appreciate your comments , because I know beyond a doubt , it will do great thing here.

      Truthful words have a way of resonating and staying with you.

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting


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      bolt1951 6 years ago

      So, so true, I was raised by my mother alone, my father was not much around for they divorsed when I was very young. However my mother grew up in the mountains of a place called Aguada Puerto Rico, she had a hard life but well disaplained, only went to fourth grade, yet had the teaching of a college degree within. knows math in her head and writes beautiful in spite of the fact that she was force to right with her right hand even though she was left handed. Those were the days ways. she taught us about God, family, how to hold a utensil, how to behave in front of adults, never to enter someone room unless invited and never sit on any ones bed. Never open someone elses refrigerator, or speak in between when adults are having a conversation. To bath daily and don't forget to was good behind your ears. to brush your teeth and don't forget to brush the toung, it is because of her teachings that I have values and strong beliefs, in God, however things are rapidly changing in this world and the time's they are changing awfully fast. I am prepared for the coming and tired of the evilness of mankind, the only hope I see is intervention that only nGod can make the change, for we as humans are blinded and the effects of times have effected our children our families and our view of life, I worked with children for awhile for the City of New York and always wanted to make a difference and thought I could change things. I was Young and was not as familiar with politics, I learned the hard way. and almost got killed by a kid because he was beating on a much smaller one when I interveined was the begginning of by decision, and realization that I alone could not change the world. i had a theory that you learn from the children not you showing them but taking in what they were trying to tell you and teach them from that point of view. Needless to say things don't always work as planned.

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      Sky9106 6 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      Thanks for reading Eddy and thanks for the comment , as we get in to the season couldn't see a better way of starting it than with a poem like the one you have written , so I looking forward to many more .

      A great day to you also .


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      Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

      Hi Sky,

      A great article which leaves much food for thouhgt.

      Thanks for sharing and I now look forward to reading many more by you.

      Take care and enjoy your day.


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      Sky9106 6 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      Thanks so much chiefmomofficer . Thanks for the sincere comment . I know it is , and I am not taking it from your name , that comment comes from a mother or a teaches .

      Hope am correct in both. Great strong confident words.

      Blessings to you and yours.

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      chiefmomofficer 6 years ago from Massachusetts

      Agreed. I get so frustrated when I hear parents complain about how their child behaves. Consider whom that child is learning from. Discipline begins at home and those examples have to be set very early on. Very interesting hub.

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      Sky9106 6 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      As old as we may get .Some great one before me saw it also , that it always seem to be,

      " once a man and twice a child."

      So as old as we grow, if that real child in us don't get that necessary feed and remains sort of confused locked in infancy, there will always be people like us , who actually gives a #%&*%$ because it's a beautiful thing to leave the children ranks and rise to our calling , while teaching those coming up the seriousness and repercussions for not.


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      Frank Atanacio 6 years ago from Shelton

      So.. children are what you do and teach? like Vicktor Frankenstein's monster? you teach and teach.. but why if they don't learn.. what then.. sometimes it just turns for the worse.. but sometimes Great write up Dr. Sky