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No difference with children today, it's their parents.
Kids today aren’t able to do things the same way like the older generations.
It was a totally different era all together when we were kids. Even our own kids are members
of this seemingly “New” generation that most parents love to call “The Modern Generation.”
We areproducts of olden times, and have taught this new generation the very same ways that we were taught
and are these the results we surrender to while branding our kids as
“The New Generation?”
After knowing that we have shown our kids everything that we know
As the simple truths
Which eludes many parents in these times, it’s rather a very simple problem.
During our times as kids, in the environments that most of us grew up in, just about every adult in our neighborhoods,
pPlayed some role in the upbringing of the kids around that neighborhood.
Without that type general community understanding set in place among the adults, the kids would have simply
set their own ethical standards, as it appears to be the way it is done in these times.
It seems like so many of our kids are not understanding their roles in their own homes andit’s obvious
They won’t truly understand their place out in public.
There is panic and confusion.
Whose fault do you think that is?
Many parents don’t seem to be aware that if they are not the first in line to implement the standards
By which their kids would operate in the home, thus having similar ways and standards when outside, because this is what you
Expect of them, then kids are going to be kids, and with this knowledge of their own, what will it mean to them?
The very first impression will more than likely be the bandwagon they will be riding on.
Parents are expected to play the role of jack of all trades, and most good parents do. This has nothing to do with money, or modern day, and all to do with training and tolerance. When speaking about this kind of topic I am compelled to mention the Army and Boot camp. Though their measure are pretty tough, the very same disciplinary measures that will apply. No outside entity should be authorized to be more of a disciplinary or guiding force than the parent. Unless child is inflicted with some type of disorder, then we can say unless qualified, the parent may be out of their league. But even then the greatest Love and care
Will always come from great parents. Based on our own childhood, we know that all great kids usually always are a chip off the old block and more. No kid in any environment on earth will go on to see things the way adults see them, once there are distractions around.
There are plenty such distractions out here. The Army and Boot camp teaches focus and concentration, which is why
Their measures are most effective. That’s also why parents need to be at the very top of their game at all times,
As leaders. There is no time for complaining about kids of today and kids of before, rather feel blessed that you are the
One that's armed with the necessary instruments of success. Be prepared to show your ability as parents to make yourself
And everyone proud by implementing those tools. You are expected to have those same child-like qualities in you as a parent,
But don’t try to be a kid.There will also be plenty of time to play around with them. Have you ever heard the saying?
“Once a man twice a child.”
Then give God praise and hope for a long life to come full circle. Yes you will someday be looking for your great parents to
Help again, in many ways and with many things.
Know that your children are first your children, never first your friend. That’s already determined
If you think instead of react, same as if you think about the possibilities of being
pregnant or being a father long before this occurs, chances are that you will be better equipped and qualified to be a great parents yourself.
You should know most friendships that situations between you and your child will definitely be a problem relationship because the main concern would be on the friendship, trying to please, trying to be right. You already are, you are responsible for and you are in totally in charge of this Life!
Let the most concern before you be the guidance and wellbeing of that which you have contributed greatly in creating.
Because as that child grows and as the friendship grows, you have unknowingly volunteered to be that child’s friend,
Who then will be the parent? The teachers in school, the other kids and their parents? No! It’s you, but you have
Traded that role to be friends, and in most cases you are caught stuck trying to somehow do both which is impossible,
In today’s environment.
Only if you are in remote areas where there are no other influences, do you stand a slim chance at both.
But in these metropolis and densely populated areas, that is impossible!
Which sits in the minds of both the parent and the child, emphasis isplaced on the preservation of the friendship,
And also in anticipation of when and if that friendship might end.
The understanding should be, that the parent is everything to their children, should be the children’s backup plan, their ace in the hole,
the sharp shooter they will substitute for their soccer coach, their teacher, the police, everything. Not the friend you come home to cry and complaint to , that’s their source of strength, where they ask questions and receive answers that are second to none, and also get that assurance that “everything” is going to be alright.
Parents simply have too much weighing on their shoulders in the lines of responsibility, and worrying about a friendship,
Which can and will easily backfire on everyone, will in every situation be a one sided friendship.
You already know what happens with one sided friendships.
You are already a super parent; therefore, there is no need trying to instill this in your children’s heads also; let that be observed.
Your primary role is being the parent, and it doesn't matter who you are, how much money you have, or where you are from.
You are expected to be everything good to the very best of your ability as parents, no need stressing on being friends
With your kids, so they can look at you as a toy they can play with.
Now in careful consideration for you own self, being already in the position that you are, knowing that you were well trained
By you own parents and now there is timeto look at the future with your children, you must use those examples
Passed on by your own parents over the yearsor even by the other parents you have been around.
Exercise the need to teach those guidelines at early stages to your children, long before problems arise.
Listening to your children tell you the things friends don’t do to friends.
Example,when they won’t do their school work and they are bluntly refusing to do so even after being told to do so. As a parent,
Are you asking your kids questions?
Remember, who is the parent?
Make that understanding quite clear early in the relationship between you and your children, before it turns into a
Misunderstanding which can only is your fault because it’s these early times that are the most important in children’s lives.
If you had parents like mine, you would hear these words as rationale: Bend the branches while the tree is still young.
What a child will grow to expect from a friend, is quite different to what that child "needs" from his/her parent.
A parent can be everything to their children but children cannot be the same to their parents.
Armed with proper knowledge from their parents, children should be able to grow and have friends, equally with disappointments,
But those necessary guidelines would have already been in place to help ease that which have already been expected
As a part of life.
Parents should be given one thing and one thing only from their children and that's “Honor and Respect”
It seems like its two different concepts but when understood, it’s rolled into one and translates into love and admiration.
If you are only a friend to your child, when a child thinks that their friend did them something wrong,
What do you know their reaction will be?
You the parent, your experience should already be telling you that it will never work, swapping parenthood for friendship.
Can you imagine a child growing up being sure that it’s ok to be mad at their parents because their parents did
Them something wrong?
Now hear what that wrong actually is: