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Things to do when you feel taken in by yourself
Life can be great if you make it that way
I felt miserable, sad, and most unhappy in a new place, and did not know what to do with the new arrangement.
The first three years in Croatia was sad, and unhappy for me, and I felt hopeless and detached from myself.
It was not only of not knowing the language.
There were many other obstacles that made me feel unhappy.
The long wait for documents, a different lifestyle, and the alone time which I did not know much of from my past life.
I felt bored on most days.
I felt taken in by myself. I had this load on my shoulders that won't go away, and I had no one to talk to for most of the day.
My life at that at that time just felt discouraged.
Too much to cope with in a new place, and not having to spend the alone time for most of the day did not make me feel any better.
I had to do keep occupied daily.
I focused on the good and let the bad out of my mind.
Each day got better with my positive mind.
I slowly moved on without focusing on the wrong or the negative stuff.
I had to get rid of that sudden unhappiness and sadness in my life.
I overcame the sadness with great laughs.
I felt my happiness come back to me after many busy days.
I found that when I paid attention to what was right for me and good for me, my life just improved.
I had to stop thinking everything in my life was wrong and started thinking of what is right.
I felt good about my day when I walked along the bay and captured the beautiful sights of Dubrovnik.
The idea of a day out in exploring the Old Town or City made me feel happier, and less sadness worked wonders for me.
I got to know more people and learned to speak the Croatian language fluently.
I did not want my child growing up with an unhappy, or sad mother.
I showed my strengths to my child to avoid him being in the same situation as I was in at that time.
It encouraged me to look forward to each day to enjoy the time with my child.
When I failed in certain activities I chose new options and tried my best to succeed.
My social life improved with ease.
It is very important to have friends and good communication.
To have had someone to talk to, that made me feel better.
In meeting the different people at a church, at the library, at schools, or parties, are good public places to meet people, and make sure you don’t speak to strangers.
Also, it depends on where you live and the kind of people you come into contact with on a daily basis.
For me, meeting the local people felt easier only when I started speaking the language fluently.
I live in a crime-free region of Croatia and had no problems with meeting people and talking to people in a small community.
Everybody knows each other quite well.
Remember lessons learned each day.
There are two kinds of teachers in life.
One who teaches how to make a living, and the other who teaches you how to live.
Everything has changed in my life.
I spoke it and did it.
I don’t believe in all talk and no action.
I have to show what I am capable of to others.
I was once told not to show my intelligence to the local people and I should not let others know I am a smart person. Well, I did just the opposite, I chose to let them know of my smartness.
I did not think that was right for me to pretend that I don’t know when I do know.
My stepping stones
An opportunity to see more in my life
Just about everything in life is a stepping stone, only if you see it this way.
An opportunity, to a new job, to getting married, having a new car, to achieve something in life is a stepping stone to a new future.
Chances are that it may or may not be possible, but, if you go toward that, then there is a possibility, to get what you want out of life with determination.
Every new attempt is a stepping stone, with confidence, to create a new effect or a new experience.
Gaining positivism to achieve your new idea, don’t give up on what you want in life, there is always a way to get to it.
Teach yourself to achieve something in life.
You got to be courageous, do a good deed, always with a smile. It will be a successful one, and if attempted with a simple attitude.
To be a selfish person, it would hardly go your way.
Have an open mind about issues is a feeling of hope and not to hold you back from going ahead.
When you have good things appreciate it, because, when you don’t have it, then you will really wish you didn't take it for granted.
I feel like I am an old tape warped and going on and on about my challenges my life was not always challenging only over the recent years.
Lots have improved and when I write ABOUT my great challenges my thoughts get on with a greater confidence.
I accepted my new life and have learned what got me here, love is the answer. Love can take a person any were in this world with love you can be strong and happy and overcome any obstacle.
Never fear your moment the best is to go for what makes you feel good to forget about what you know is going to cause you problems the main focus on life is to be happy and confident.
Don't feel taken in by yourself.
I speak directly and do not hide my true feelings. I learned to speak up when I had gained my confidence and knew no one can take away what I have, my dignity and my own person.
When I feel my day is not going well, I get involved with activities that make me most happy as the following:
I take a walk into the wild and smell the fresh air and observe the greatness around me to feel good again.
It is normal to be upset and let your heart out do this with control.
Calm down with yourself it is not the end of the world.
Life is about obstacles how you choose to pass through those obstacles is entirely up to you.
Don't make a fuss on everything you hear or know of.
Cool down and figure out why you need to take part in an activity.
Confront your challenges with hope and courage.
Can you overcome obstacles with courage and hope?
Do you feel taken in by yourself?
What made me get myself back?
I used daily walks to get connected to me and found my way around the daily issues to go forward.
Communication is key to a better person and to a better person. I found myself when I focused on my life.
When I felt I was taken in, I had to let go of my past to move on in peace and happiness and my way worked out perfectly.
The view of a peaceful surrounding in Dubrovnik
The Countryside of Southeastern Europe
Do you Feel Taken in By Yourself?
© 2014 Devika Primić