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Things to do when you feel taken in by yourself

Updated on May 15, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Life can be great if you make it that way

I felt miserable, sad, and most unhappy in a new place, and did not know what to do with the new arrangement.

The first three years in Croatia was sad, and unhappy for me, and I felt hopeless and detached from myself.

It was not only of not knowing the language.

There were many other obstacles that made me feel unhappy.

The long wait for documents, a different lifestyle, and the alone time which I did not know much of from my past life.

I felt bored on most days.

I felt taken in by myself. I had this load on my shoulders that won't go away, and I had no one to talk to for most of the day.

My life at that at that time just felt discouraged.

Too much to cope with in a new place, and not having to spend the alone time for most of the day did not make me feel any better.

To live life as normal as could be I had to focus on my life.

I focused on the good and let the bad out of my mind.

Each day got better with my positive mind.

I slowly moved on without focusing on the wrong or the negative stuff.

I had to get rid of that sudden unhappiness and sadness in my life.

I overcame the sadness with great laughs.

I felt my happiness come back to me after many busy days.

I found that when I paid attention to what was right for me and good for me, my life just improved.

I had to stop thinking everything in my life was wrong and started thinking of what is right.

I felt good about my day when I walked along the bay and captured the beautiful sights of Dubrovnik.

The idea of a day out in exploring the Old Town or City made me feel happier, and less sadness worked wonders for me.

I got to know more people and learned to speak the Croatian language fluently.

I did not want my child growing up with an unhappy, or sad mother.

I showed my strengths to my child to avoid him being in the same situation as I was in at that time.

It encouraged me to look forward to each day to enjoy the time with my child.

When I failed in certain activities I chose new options and tried my best to succeed.

My social life improved with ease.

It is very important to have friends and good communication.

To have had someone to talk to, that made me feel better.

In meeting the different people at a church, at the library, at schools, or parties, are good public places to meet people, and make sure you don’t speak to strangers.

Also, it depends on where you live and the kind of people you come into contact with on a daily basis.

For me, meeting the local people felt easier only when I started speaking the language fluently.

I live in a crime-free region of Croatia and had no problems with meeting people and talking to people in a small community.

Everybody knows each other quite well.

Remember lessons learned each day.

There are two kinds of teachers in life.

One who teaches how to make a living, and the other who teaches you how to live.

Everything has changed in my life.

I spoke it and did it.

I don’t believe in all talk and no action.

I have to show what I am capable of to others.

I was once told not to show my intelligence to the local people and I should not let others know I am a smart person. Well, I did just the opposite, I chose to let them know of my smartness.

I did not think that was right for me to pretend that I don’t know when I do know.

My stepping stones

An opportunity to see more in my life

Just about everything in life is a stepping stone, only if you see it this way.

An opportunity, to a new job, to getting married, having a new car, to achieve something in life is a stepping stone to a new future.

Chances are that it may or may not be possible, but, if you go toward that, then there is a possibility, to get what you want out of life with determination.

Every new attempt is a stepping stone, with confidence, to create a new effect or a new experience.

Gaining positivism to achieve your new idea, don’t give up on what you want in life, there is always a way to get to it.

Teach yourself to achieve something in life.

You got to be courageous, do a good deed, always with a smile. It will be a successful one, and if attempted with a simple attitude.

To be a selfish person, it would hardly go your way.

Have an open mind about issues is a feeling of hope and not to hold you back from going ahead.

When you have good things appreciate it, because, when you don’t have it, then you will really wish you didn't take it for granted.

I feel like I am an old tape warped and going on and on about my challenges my life was not always challenging only over the recent years.

Lots have improved and when I write ABOUT my great challenges my thoughts get on with a greater confidence.

I accepted my new life and have learned what got me here, love is the answer. Love can take a person any were in this world with love you can be strong and happy and overcome any obstacle.

Never fear your moment the best is to go for what makes you feel good to forget about what you know is going to cause you problems the main focus on life is to be happy and confident.

Don't feel taken in by yourself.

I speak directly and do not hide my true feelings. I learned to speak up when I had gained my confidence and knew no one can take away what I have, my dignity and my own person.

When I feel my day is not going well, I get involved with activities that make me most happy as the following:
I take a walk into the wild and smell the fresh air and observe the greatness around me to feel good again.

It is normal to be upset and let your heart out do this with control.

Calm down with yourself it is not the end of the world.

Life is about obstacles how you choose to pass through those obstacles is entirely up to you.

Don't make a fuss on everything you hear or know of.

Cool down and figure out why you need to take part in an activity.

Confront your challenges with hope and courage.

Can you overcome obstacles with courage and hope?

Do you feel taken in by yourself?

What made me get myself back?

I used daily walks to get connected to me and found my way around the daily issues to go forward.

Communication is key to a better person and to a better person. I found myself when I focused on my life.

When I felt I was taken in, I had to let go of my past to move on in peace and happiness and my way worked out perfectly.

The view of a peaceful surrounding in Dubrovnik

The bay is  situated in Dubrovnik
The bay is situated in Dubrovnik | Source
The  view of the old castle surrounded by many Cyprus trees
The view of the old castle surrounded by many Cyprus trees | Source
A view of the mountainous area close to my home
A view of the mountainous area close to my home | Source

The Countryside of Southeastern Europe

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you very much

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      5 years ago

      Confronting challenges with hope and courage as you have suggested is a good idea. Voted up and interesting!

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito it has been challenging thank you

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      5 years ago from USA

      Moving so far from home must have been incredibly difficult. I'm happy to hear you've adjusted to this new lifestyle.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ubanichijioke thank you kindly for sharing your comments on my hubs have a lovely weekend

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 

      5 years ago from Lagos

      I love the determination you showed to overcome all odds. left alone and lonely, you braced the odds and came out a most wonderful person. Carry on!

      "I found that once I paid attention to what was right for me and good for me my life just improved."

      thanks for the encouraging words.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnyway you are so right and most important I have my happiness.Thank you

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      5 years ago from USA

      Great hub, Devika. If you don't like something change it, and if you cannot change it change your attitude. You have faced so much with your move. Many people would have run, given in. You are strong and resilient. I wish you well.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi grand old lady, thank you for the kind comment I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      5 years ago from Philippines

      I think you have great courage and strength. It must be so hard to be alone in a foreign country where you don't speak the language and you don't know anybody. But you refused to get taken in, as you say, and you made yourself strong and found happiness and love and courage in your child. I just realized that "Bravo" and "Brave" are so similar, except for the last vowel. They both apply to you.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Faith thank you very much for all votes up and more, so kind of you to share your experience I understand your point of view

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you kindly Sparklea for the vote up, useful, interesting your comments are well appreciated

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AudreyHowitt definitely not the same for everyone thank you kindly for commenting on my hubs

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      savvydating thank you kindly for such an encouraging comment I have passed many obstacles along the way

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi pstraubie48 thank you for sharing your comment on my hubs have a lovely weekend.

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dear Devika,

      I am so glad you went out and met people and made friends, as it is so important to not stay isolated from the community around you. Moving to a new country is a scary thing, especially leaving all you know behind and having to learn a new language and such.

      When I was first married and my husband was in the Air Force and would be shipped off to many places around the world for who knows how long, I would love just going to the beach and listening to the waves and hearing the birds ... just enjoying my surroundings. I think getting out of the house is a good step and enjoying one's surroundings and then slowly getting to meet new people you can trust to talk to about things.

      I am glad you are feeling better now and enjoying this life.

      Up and more

      Hugs and blessings,

      Faith Reaper

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      5 years ago from Upstate New York

      What a beautiful write, DDE. You are such an inspiration, and there is something so calming about nature. So many have been able to travel around the world, what a great privilege. I don't have the funds to do that...if God intends I see more of the world He will provide a way. ...Your living in a foreign country is HUGE. I walk every single morning and focus on my Creator. I take a thermos of coffee with me, a great way to start the day. Voted up, useful and interesting. God bless, Sparklea :)

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      Eric Dierker 

      5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well done good friend. This old life just keeps on rolling along!

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      Audrey Howitt 

      5 years ago from California

      You are such a smart and courageous woman--it takes a lot to be comfortable within your own skin--and like you, I think we all walk this road--sometimes it is easier and sometimes more difficult--

    • savvydating profile image


      5 years ago

      I think you were very brave to live in a foreign country and learn a new language. Being alone most of the day in that kind of situation is terribly lonely for anyone... even a natural loner. I liked your idea of taking long walks and enjoying your beautiful surroundings. You're a strong woman to have kept your son's happiness as a priority as you found a way to move forward with a positive outlook. Bravo to you!

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      Patricia Scott 

      5 years ago from sunny Florida

      You are so right DDE....thinking positive keeps us out of the dark places we go if we are 'taken in by ourselves."

      Angels are on the way to you today ps

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi kidscaraft thank you for sharing your continuous comments I appreciate your time and effort

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for participating in the Hubpages community.

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank you very much for commenting

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      5 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Life can teach us several lessons for sure. I know what you went through by moving in a new place because I went through the same process first as a kid and then as an adult. It's never easy but when we succeed in that transition we empower ourself!

      Have a nice day, Devika!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Another great message here my friend. Well done once again.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thank you I write from my heart and like to express my thoughts in a special way

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, you teach so much from your own experience. Your courage and positivity are inspiring. Thank you for sharing.


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