- Gender and Relationships
Tips To Keep Your Relationship Exciting
As time goes by in a relationship, it is very easy to let the excitement slip out of your time together. You exhaust conversation topics, you have had every interesting debate in the book, and it seems like you’ve gone to just about every restaurant that exists in your town. Feeling bored can be discouraging, and really put strain on your relationship. Here are some simple tips to help you keep your relationship exciting.
Go Someplace New
If you and your significant other have been dating in the same location for a while, it can seem like there’s no place left to go on a date that you haven’t already been 20 times. Try planning a day trip, or even a vacation together if it’s in the budget. Getting away and spending time together in a new location can kill that bored feeling very quickly, and give you both a better handle on whether you are bored with one another, or simply with the places and activities available to you at home.
Talk About Current Events
While you may have talked about your likes and dislikes, and your views on major issues, more times than you can count, what is going on around you is always changing, and therefore always creating new conversation ideas. Talk about what’s going on with your family, at work, or in current events politically. These are not static topics, and therefore they will almost always bring something new to the conversation.
Do Little Things For One Another
It is easy to be overly comfortable with a relationship, and to stop displaying little tokens of affection for one another. However, this can detract from the excitement of a relationship, because you no longer feel like your significant other is always thinking of you and always looking for a way to do something for you. Be sure to do little things for one another, such as buying flowers on the way home from work, or unexpectedly cooking their favorite dinner. Get tickets to that movie they’ve been dying to see, or make plans for a romantic evening out together. Doing things you don’t commonly do is the perfect way to break a streak of boringness in a relationship.
Revisit Old Favorites
While it may seem counterintuitive, being able to go back to old places and activities can also be a good way to fight boredom in a relationship. It’s all about mindset. If you always say you can’t go to this or that restaurant because you’ve been there many times, it is likely you will get discouraged or feel bored. However, if you look at it from the point of view of this place being a favorite, and even setting up once a month to go there together as a tradition, it doesn’t have to be a negative that you go there all the time.
Feeling bored in your relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you are bored with one another, or that you shouldn’t be together anymore. It just means that you have been together so long that you have fallen into a routine that lacks new and exciting things. This can be fixed by creating these new and exciting things.