Tips To Write A love Letter
I have been writing love letters to help my friends for quite some time. One thing that I have learned is that all relationships are different and using the same old lines from the internet will not do you good. You must remember that when you are writing a letter you are actually selling your personality to someone and the letter needs be damn good (if you want him/her to be with you). Here are my tips for writing a love letter-
#1. Understand the current nature of your relationship - Write a letter based on where you stand with the other person. If things are new, keep the intensity low ,otherwise he or she will run away from you, thinking you are crazy. If you’ve been together for more than a year then a little intense letter will be good (or he/she will think that you don’t care).
#2. Play the Underdog- Write the letter to show as if you won’t be able to live without him/her. Show that you crave for you two to be together. BUT! Don’t make it creepy or idiotic ( Remember, Intensity depends upon the stage or level of your intimacy) Express it in a manner that he/she feels guilty even with the idea of leaving or rejecting you. Mix this with a pinch of my next tip.
#3. Be playful with words- Not only do you want to influence her(or him) but you also want to express your charm, your sense of magic and your intelligence. Use your own lines (don’t copy the old generic ones). One way is to modify the ones you can find on the internet. Expressing your sense of charm does require a little effort.
#4. Reality and Honesty- Love is not all universe, poetry, magic, etc. It is very real and also very practical. Don’t just depend on poetry and magical words throughout the letter. Tell him/her about your life,,, How it has changed since you two met. Tell what you want to do in your life ,and how you see the other person with you as you do those things. You may also share your problems (just a little bit).
#5. Trap the animal- Everyone wants a beautiful wife, a comfortable life etc. That is why you need to sell the idea that you can provide for these things. Show how accomplished or beautiful you are but don’t show off. Rather than writing “I have a successful job and I can give you the life you want” or “I think I am very beautiful” write “ (Her Name) before I met you I thought I had everything, career, money and what not ,but for the time we have been together I care nothing about these. All I want is for us to be together”.
If you are a girl you may say “ Many men have said that I am very beautiful but I feel that it is only with you that I feel enriched” This way you are selling him/her the Idea that you can provide him/her a comfortable life but at the same time you are not being creepy.
#6. Use poetry and quotations but.. - It is fine to use famous pieces of poetry and quotations but use these as an opportunity to make the letter more honest and to show your charm. for instance say “I can talk about you for a hundreds hours but as I write this letter no idea strikes me, I want to use the following piece of poetry/quote to express my love for you. It expresses an idea of what I think of ‘us’ but please don’t think that my love is limited only to what it conveys”
#7. Start with it- Start if you want to finish.