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How to Keep the Romance in a Relationship

Updated on May 25, 2014

Sometimes all it takes is a little appreciation. If you begin to take advantage of your significant other and the role she has in the family, you may find yourself in the dog house a time or two. Every person needs a break from their daily routine from time to time. The easiest way to do this is to do something you normally wouldn’t do that your wife does daily or weekly. For instance, my wife does a lot of the cleaning and I usually do more of the handy work around the house. I know she hates to vacuum and clean in general, but the good part about this is I know the days she will be cleaning, so I will go ahead and vacuum and/or clean the bathroom prior to her doing it. This helps make her feel better knowing that I am willing to chip in and perform duties that she doesn’t like to do. I also either go with her grocery shopping or I do it myself.

Every wife deserves to smile at least once every day

As the husband, I know that she doesn’t always have a good day. This in turn goes for the same for me, but I can handle a bad day a little differently. If I know my wife is not having a good day, I will stop by a flower shop and get her a potted plant, rose, or some other flower just so she smiles at least once during her horrible day. And there are other times when I just do it to do it. I will even stop by and get her a cool, funny gadget that she can play with.

Also, to let you in on a little secret, flowers on a non-special day will be remembered longer than flowers on a holiday. I refuse to get flowers for my wife on a holiday and she knows this. However, I do get my wife flowers at least 4-5 days out of the year that have no significant value what-so-ever. Those are the days she feels more appreciated, because I have no reason to do it other than I love her. This all doesn’t mean I don’t do anything for her on holidays. It just means on holidays, I give her cards, fun gifts (random things that she wants), or even taking her to a nice restaurant for the evening.

What does it take to show my love?

You should already know this answer, it’s easy. Make yourself available. Sometimes all it takes is for you to just sit down with your wife and watch television. She wants your presence with her in the same room. Even though there may not be much conversation, she knows you are an arm length away. And if she is having a bad day, she probably wants you to listen while telling you about it. But remember this; if she does vent her problems to you do not try to solve them. She just wants to express her frustration and for you to take her side and listen. Listen, listen, and listen some more. She understands that you are not superman and cannot fix everything.

Another thing that can go a long way is a hug. Sometimes out of random, I go up to my wife and give her a hug and/or kiss for nothing. This will also make me feel good, because her grip in the hug can show that she loves you back and does not want to let you go. She pulls you in tighter to show the symbol of her love. This is not always the case, especially if you do this a lot. She may want to roll her eyes like you do it all the time. Do not be needy, just do it out of random. This will show you care and that she is special to you in more ways than one.

In conclusion, your wife only wants you to be yourself. She married you knowing who you are and everything you are about. She doesn’t care about tons and tons of money. She just wants you to show her that you love her on occasion, because she may not feel pretty every day. Showing your appreciation to her shows you care. Once in a while, before I go into work, I write a small love note to my wife before she gets up for the day:

To my beautiful wife,

I wake up every day loving you. Today was no different. You are my world and you amaze me. I love you deeply and I miss you already.

Love, Me

This is all it takes to show your love and it puts a little romance into your marriage. She knows you love her, just show it a little more often.

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    • MarleyOz profile image

      MarleyOz 6 years ago

      Thank you. I am and always was one of the guys you would call a "nice guy." The good thing is, I was able to finish ahead instead of last. Thanks for the comment.

    • Christine P Ann profile image

      Christine P Ann 6 years ago from Australia

      Wow Marleyoz you sure do know what makes a woman happy. Lovely hub, very insightful.