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Settings for Seduction a How to!

Updated on September 12, 2014

On Reading Issues Articles

During that "fun" time that I had, during What-Happened-to-a-Month-of-my-Life which resulted in numerous visits to Doctors, Radiographers waiting rooms, that I had inadvertantly been exposed to so much propaganda about female issues on relationships, communication and sex issues, that it dawned on me, that the hub pages has been carrying the same messages.

Like in all those Eureka moments, we read about throughout history, simply put I dont recall reading many of the other sexes viewpoint in an actual hub or article, other than posted comments!

What We Are

 

Insensitive

If, we males are then thought of as:- numb, unfeeling, insensible, insensate, not sensitive, tactless, and also thoughtless. I do not know about the rest of the male population, but I may on occasions be a bit tactless, in making some of my sharp (which I most probably think as witty) comments on relatives, personal attire choices, cooking and that host of other minefield subjects that us poor mortal males must avoid especially during that time!

That again puts me in the target zone for being a tactless and crass unsympathetic chauvinist.

Inconsiderate

We males are considered to be uncaring in what is directly personal, to the woman's perception of what we do and say. We are all guilty of leaving that toilet seat up, toothpaste lid off, toothpaste tube squeezed in the centre. Not picking up our socks and under garments up from the bathroom floor, guilty too, of a myriad of other similar day to day life threatening crimes.

Lousy Lovers

We are also, as all those Woman's Issues Magazines that we are lousy defiantly all fail as lovers as those carefully designed simple Your Man .... In bed? These tests, that woman find fascinating and fill out with a pencil and then frantically rub the answers out with a frown or scowl.

Ever wondered why we Men fail those tests, in a woman's eyes the tests are compiled by cunning sexologists, who have been hired to promote another book by someone who has seen a niche, money making market.

Sex is on most peoples minds most of the times.

Woman, including our wives, have that incorrect perception about us?

Give her Something Soft - Not that Guys, Femine type of Things

Show Her You Care

We all think that we are exempt from this and think we are compassionate, loving and considerate towards our woman, are we really?

Do we treat and care for that important woman in our lives?

Do we not grumble and moan and take out our days frustrations, at someone who had nothing to do with any of your work issues?

Are we not too easily tempted by nubile Eve's and have had or seriously considered infidelity?

Too many of us, as get married, unwittingly and unknowingly for all the wrong reasons.

In reflection of the past, faced with the facts we all need to sit back, assess the importance of those issues that are real, and disregard messed up toothpaste and raised toilet seats.

So do the following:-

  • Switch off the television
  • Switch off the cell phones, phones
  • Switch of the PC
  • Hide the car
  • Lock the doors
  • Keep the house dark

Preparation

Prepare ahead of time a whole range of cold snacks and finger foods, all the favorites, either made by yourself or shop bought this makes no difference.

Lay the food out on a low coffee table, or similar. Have a couple of bottles of wine, nicely chilled or opened to breathe

Go out and buy matching dressing gowns or other matching loose fitting outfits

Make sure that no one will disturb you.

The two of you are now alone in your home.

First

Have a warm bath or shower together, in a candlelight bathroom, with scented candles

Take your time and wash and groom each other

After bathing dry each other off

Put on the dressing gowns or chosen garments

Go to the room where all the food and wine is laid out - choose a restfull place!

Switch of all the lights

Light the candles

Put some of your favorite music, very softly

Feed each other the small tasty morsels of food

Share the wine

Relax

Be yourselves

Enjoy

GO ON SHOW HER YOU CAN BE SENSITIVE CARING AND A GOOD LOVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Hi there Karen, when you mature you realise the mistakes that were made, then it was to late for regrets. Therefore now is important. Watch these hubs

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      Karen Ellis 8 years ago from Central Oregon

      Hi Rodney,

      I love that you still think about how to create romance in your marriage. You're a good guy - a keeper.

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Sixty, thanks for the commenr, sometime the simple things in life work as well. Sorry abouit the expensive internet charges.

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      Clive Fagan 8 years ago from South Africa

      Great hub! I have just got it all wrong . Sea Cruise, Romantic ports of call. Special dinners trips into foriegn ports, All the shopping her heart can desire! LOL from Athens, Off to Venice tomorrow after a day at sea. all things must come to an end too.Alas! Sorry about sporadic commemts. Limited and very expensive internet access.

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Yes, Imagine a slide viewer presentation your choice of romantic scene flashing by with your and significant others fav music background, viewed by candlelight.

      The mind boggles.

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      terenceyap07 8 years ago from Singapore

      I'd never thought of that. LOL!

      *grins*

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Terence, the swtching off of the PC is so that we do not suffer from commentitus and dash off to check Hub Pages. However if you are a wiz and have created a good Mpvie maker slide, video and seductive music, it could be left on as backgound. LOL

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Constant, a sex game is indeed what can create the corrrect balance for such an evening. Do it!

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      terenceyap07 8 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Rodney,

      A fine hub, my friend. Good advice; especially about switching off the PC.LOL

      *smiles*

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      Constant Walker 8 years ago from Springfield, Oregon

      All great suggestions, and I like the new pic.  Might I offer a sex game?  They're very playful and romantic... even classy!  Not at all tacky or crude, like one might imagine.

      Trust me, women love them!

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      Correct i couldnt have put it better

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      BizzyMuse 8 years ago from Southern California

      Great Hub! There is a lot to be said for a romantic man...and you have definitely shown yourself to be one. I've always found that when the wine bottle is empty and the candles have burned out, true romance is most evident in the bond that two people share.

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      G-Ma, thanks very much for the comment, flattery will get you every where! As long as romance is alive the world can be moved and swept off its very axis.

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      Rodney Fagan 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

      rb77, agreed with those sentiments and ways of handling things. In this is I was trying to create that quite corner of nurturing intimacy, refreshing and reafirming all, an outlet to to be.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      wow you look so different without your hat..humm not bad looking there hey?  and a bit of  a romantic I see...how very sweet and charming..lucky wife..Thanks for a nice evening....LOL  G-ma :o) hugs

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      rb77 8 years ago from Las Vegas

      Rodney, we must enjoy what we have for now days it is so easy to anger over what we don't have. Also, if you argued make up before you both sleep. A rule i stand by even today. We can't predict death, but we can settle our differences by the time we say goodnite and then whatever happens no regrets. Good thought provoking hub.