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Too much of a good thing can be bad

Updated on April 19, 2010

When too much of a good thing goes bad....

When a person stays so busy they can't miss what their missing. That is for starters. Wow do I remember the day! In the salon I made sure I was back to back appointments. So when I went the was great..... and time for bed most evenings. So when my single friends would ask me to go out.....I could honestly say" I am so exhausted and just need to go to bed" In my heart I knew I was missing little and feeling very productive in my choice to do a few extra perms and cuts. The salon was my social life, in fact I did the books there and cleaned this 2 story home turned modern salon. There at 8am and left by 9 or 10 pm.

Ofcourse everyone had a boyfriend or husband. Then they all tried to set me up with some "great guy". Many a first date I had...however no matter how great they were..........I wasn't really that interested. To be honest, I couldn't tell you if I or the guy was interested in a date or some recap of our day. That was all it was to me anyway. Which would have been better to have done alone. My feet hurt and I smelled of chemicals. Hairs were all over me and I really just wanted a hot bath.

My social functions I arrived at to better my business..........although I was very busy as it stood.....but you never know when a lull might hit. I couldn't let that happen. There was no worse thought in my mind. During this time I would even babysit for my clients. As if I really had extra time.

Then one dreary, rainy day , My car would not start and this nice guy from the business next door came over to assist me in getting my car up and running again. He was able to help out much and I thanked him, and ofcourse mentioned that I would love to return a favor by giving him a free hair cut.

At that time I could not have told you what a great looking guy he was or the fact that he really was trying to get to know me better. I was in a rush to the next routine on my agenda. In fact I heard he came in for 2 weeks hoping to talk to me. My place was upstairs and I didn't know his name or that he even existed. Finally he talked to my girlfriend that was a manicurist downstairs to ask me out!

Well then my response was "if he doesn't have the nerve to chat with me on his own...I would never go for such a passive guy" Now I am sounding like a complete bitch.........however I felt I knew myself well and that would never work. What I am seeing that I had blinders on.....needed to stay so busy keep from feeling so lonely.

Well we did finally meet..........and he wasn't passive at all. In fact he was very ambitious. We dated for a few years......and he showed me some balance. It is great to work hard and help others when you can. Family always came first with both of us and we loved lake and beach trips...with and without family around. He ask me to start working less and tie things up with my clients near the Salon closing hour. We could grab a bite or prepare dinner together.

This was so wonderful!! I felt that now I had it all.........

This is the part when I tell you" It was a great few years"............but he was more ambitious than I ever was....... and had roaming eyes too. Maybe if I had not been too busy....I would of seen that too!!


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    • Momma Mia profile imageAUTHOR

      Momma Mia 

      8 years ago from North Carolina

      Thanks again Saddle ride..........To be happy single is little diff from being happy in couple.....just more time to enjoy me.........and have high hopes that you are enjoying you.............I know you are fun guy with much art in your heart !!

      Thanks again


    • saddlerider1 profile image


      8 years ago

      Hey Momma life is full of experiences and surprises. I've had enough of my own the past 10 years since my divorce.The one thing I never wanted to do was get married to become divorced down the road. They say you never know where or when the love of your life is going to appear. Reading further I was surprised when he turned out to be just a casual. What's the old saying you don't really know a person until you live with them. Sometimes it's best not to even go down that road for the experience. I hope you either are a happy single or a wonderfully love crazed happy wife. Life is to short not to be fulfilled. I like this post, hope more read it and give you comments. You have my vote, thumb up.


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