- Gender and Relationships
Main Reasons for Divorce
There are many reasons why divorce happen to people. In US about 50% marriages end up in divorces. The similar rates are in Sweden, Finland, Luxembourg, Denmark, United Kingdom, Russia and other economically strong countries. The lowest divorce rates are in India, Sri Lanka, Macedonia, Georgia, Armenia and similar countries.
It is very hard to find the most popular reasons for divorces because each case has some personal aspects like each new marriage. When two people come together to create family, many compromises must be done to keep the marriage strong. If this do not happen, the marriage breaks.
There are some reasons that can be stated as the top 5 reasons for divorce. These reasons are statistically most popular reasons. So, it is important to know why marriages beak to be able to avoid some critical mistakes while building relationships.
Reason #1: Infidelity
Infidelity, or simply speaking "cheating" is one of the most popular reason why divorce happen in USA. I suppose that infidelity is reason number one, because there are many marriages that still happen without love. When expectations how your spouse should act fail, the divorce happen, because the new partners appear.
Another reason for cheating is high libido. This is caused by quick marriages. Partners do not even try living together. After the marriage, the routine kills passion, partners cannot stay loyal to each other, because their high libido. And if there is no passion between husband and wife, the cheating happens.
Reason #2: Communication Brekdown
Have you ever heard someone saying that he/she cannot communicate with a partner anymore. Such people often complain about his/hers partner, that they do not understand each other, yell to each other, have different opinions and cannot come to the solution. The communication in a family is not about agreeing with your partner or disagreeing. It is eternal search of the middle point. This middle point is the position, or solution which is acceptable to both partners. It the husband and wife fails in searching this middle point, the communication breakdown happens and this leads to divorce.
Reason #3: Abuse
Abuse can have various forms. It can be physical, psychological or emotional abuse. It may take various forms. It can start with telling a spouse unwanted things and end up with beating. It also can be a name-calling, ignorance to partner's opinion, terror, force, monitoring personal letters or messages. In various families abuse take various forms. Abuse can be dangerous to person's life or mental health, so this is a big reason for divorce. In cases of abuse, psychological help is mostly always
Reason #4: Financial Issues
Money is always delicate subject. Usually people control their finances in completely different ways. So it is natural, that married couples often come to disagreement about various financial issues. In conflict situations a middle point must be found. Otherwise this will end up with communication problem. It is a little bit difficult to find the middle point is partners share completely different financial responsibilities or have unequal monetary status. In most cases financial disagreement in family causes another reasons for divorce happen. Yes, money not always is the most important thing, but solutions concerning financial issues must be deliberated.
Reason #5: Sexual Incompatibility
Sexual compatibility is one of the key factors that holds family together. In most cases love is not enough. If partners are not satisfied with each other sexually, it is possible, that such lack of satisfaction will lead to infidelity, and then to divorce. This problem can be sometimes solved by honesty. Partners should talk about their feeling, wishes and problems. This help to reduce unsatisfactory. Professionals also can be consulted.