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Top 5 reasons for divorce

Updated on July 19, 2007

Divorce reasons

1. Infidelity It could be argued that infidelity within marriages is a reaction by a spouse to the real breakdown of the marriage, and is not itself the cause. Either way, it is cited as the cause of almost one third of divorces ins the USA (making it the most common reason for divorce). Surveys have shown that adultery occurs in over half of failed marriages. Spouses may be unfaithful consistently during an affair, intermittently, or just once in a one night stand. Common explanations for unfaithfulness include resentment or anger (with the other spouse) and sexual boredom.

2. Communication breakdown Commonly, couples become unable to communicate in a normal, meaningful fashion. Either spouse's inability to avoid exchanges which invariably result in conflict is representative of a communication breakdown in the marriage. In extreme cases (especially if accompanied by abusive tendencies), a growing inability to deal with any verbal exchanges without conflict could be indicative of a much more serious problem that requires the attention of a mental health professional. More often, however, growing differences between the spouses which may have their roots in other mentioned causes are to blame for communication breakdowns.

3. Physical, psychological, or emotional abuse Where either spouse is frequently abusive towards children or each other, the other spouse has clear grounds for divorce. Physical abuse includes all types violence (fighting, manhandling, and physical bullying of an individual). Emotional or Psychological and abuse can be as seemingly innocuous as verbal insults, and can range to taunting, humiliation, intimidation, and consistent negative reinforcement.

4. Financial issues One of the most common reasons for divorce is economic strain or collapse of the family. Every couple has to deal with money at some stage, and when there is not enough to go around, differences in temperament and priorities are brought to a head. Even if there is no debt incurred, disagreements over the allocation of money often be enough to end an already irritated relationship.

5. Boredom Biologically speaking, humans' preference is to pair for about seven years before changing mates. While well matched couples will, naturally, stay together for much longer than this, and possibly for life, most do not. Some couples will eventually grow distant, disinterested, and eventually bored with each other. Such divorces are often the least bitter of all, and often end amiably enough.

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      On The Back Burner 

      7 years ago

      To "Not Important":

      Good question: "when is enough enough? I'm far from perfect. Together, we have 4 children. ALL of us come second to his parents, his siblings, football, and fishing. He has no relationship with any of his kids, except to discipline them when they do something wrong. I don't even like the guy. So, why do I stay married?

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      not important 

      7 years ago

      I am torn...when is enough enough? I am not perfect. My husband never puts me and my son first. When he gets mad he is mean. Not physically. He even makes my son feel bad. If I could I would walk out today.

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      Alex 

      7 years ago

      "While well matched couples will, naturally, stay together for much longer than this, and possibly for life, most do not."

      This is COMPLETELY false! 80% of FIRST marriages remain for life. People who repeatedly divorce bring the statistics way down. Don't be fooled. Most people who marry succeed in their marriages.

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      Save My Marriage Today revew  

      8 years ago

      the best web site that helpeed me to save my marriage was http://savemymarriagetoday88.blogspot.com/

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      ms. m 

      8 years ago

      i defintiely fall into 5 categories, what to do with life now is the question im 37 we have been married for a year and in our relationship for 8.

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      Shivon 

      9 years ago

      Great posts- pretty informative

      Regards

      shivon

      http://loveurspouse.blogspot.com

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      Gareth 

      9 years ago

      Marriage is not the answer in today's society, I really cant understand why some people continue to marry after devorce. And internet dating is also a leading contributer to many new problems that will arise in the future.

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      Sherri 

      10 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

      25 years ago, the top three reasons for divorce were, in this order: financial difficulties, renovating the family home, and infidelity.

      Communication, abuse, and boredom didn't make the list then.

      I really identify with your hub. There's lots to think about here.

      Thanks, basspro.

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      soyelude 

      10 years ago from Lagos - Nigeria

      This is a very insightful hub...keep it up.

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