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Traveling Together for a Healthier Long Distance Relationship

Updated on October 22, 2017
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Abigail A. Sabijon is a team counselor, trainer and instructor. She has worked in an international institute and has taught at a university.

Globalization and a greener pasture often entail sacrifices, and among these are romantic relationships. However, love knows no bounds. With the help of the Internet, long distance relationships become a growing trend. This so-called LDR is a delicate one. Sustaining it takes more effort and dedication. Constant communication could falter, let alone trust and fidelity. I’ve personally known people who are working on an LDR, and a few who fought for their love but lost to the distance.

Interestingly, a few of them are even working on their wedding details at the moment. Nosy as I usually am, I couldn’t help but ask how they made it work. Some of them gave me clueless looks and then laugh at each other. Some were just absolutely delighted to share a few tips. But one couple mentioned something rather startling: traveling.

Traveling has become an integral part of every millennial’s growth and self-realization. A whole new experience awaits curious souls, promising everyone with a renewed outlook on life and self. The fresh scenery, new friends and discoveries, exotic food, and an outside-the-comfort-zone experience breathe life to a dying soul and enthusiasm. Who doesn’t need a momentary escape from this overwhelming society we are in right now?

These are the usual eager responses of fellow travelers. And it is within this premise I discuss the correlative effect of traveling in a healthier long distance relationship.

Traveling Forges Teamwork and Trust

Most of my friends are controller type of girlfriends – controller in the sense that they want things to be ducks in a row. Well, most women are like that, but some men are also innate leaders. My friends are pretty much aware of their partner’s and their own tendencies and if they allow their pride to prevail, they’ll definitely head on to a collision course.

There are tons of travel planning apps online, so brainstorming and discussing until you come at a decision is vital to maintain equilibrium. Two heads are always better than one. Hearing each other’s comments and preferences also gives you a chance to know more about your partner. On your usual set up, you don’t have the chance to really share responsibilities, talk about plans, or make decisions for the two of you. Traveling is a great venue for growth in your relationship because you’re away from your family and trusted friends, you’re in a foreign land, and you only have each other to rely on.

A lot can happen in the actual setting, so traveling calls for teamwork and utmost trust in each other because you’re both stuck in the situation anyway. If you don’t trust your partner, things will only get even more stressful for the two of you.

Traveling Can Bring Out the Worst in Us

Things don’t always turn out the way we want them to. Unfavorable circumstances test our character and attitude. Keeping your cool is tough. Patience and understanding could be pushed to the limits. All of us have peculiar pet peeves and sometimes, our significant other does things that completely annoy us. According to Huffington Post, traveling together allows both parties to see the real person and this can either strengthen or ruin the relationship. The results of these crises depend on how both parties react to and approach the situation.

The weather could be harsh, adjustments could be stressful, the budget could turn out to be tight, or the itinerary could be in disarray. These things get into our nerves and we tend to get sensitive. In most cases we vent and blurt out things we regret saying. And before you know it, you’re already in a full-blown argument.

Traveling Compels Us to be Mature

However, disagreements and nuisances are natural and integral parts of a relationship. If you’d let it, your confrontations will eventually lead to reconciliations. Give each other much needed space and talk things out when you’ve cooled down. There’s still beauty in every disagreement – it’s the fact that you’ve learned a valuable lesson… together.

Our independent and controlling nature can get the best of us, but if you really love the person, you’re very much willing to compromise and understand. Being in a foreign land compels us to be independent and dependent on your partner at the same time. Decision-making does not end at the booking of flight tickets but rather continues until the end of the trip. Many would attest that things often get messy during the trip. But when you arrive at a consensus and manage things the way they’re supposed to, you’ll only love and respect each other more than ever.

Traveling Ensues a Sweet Aftermath

Aside from the souvenirs you bought, you are bringing home the experience and memories. A few of my friends have this habit of decorating their rooms with pictures and wall arts. Others even buy scents and oils not only for well-being but also to remind them of the place, and reminiscing the times spent together make the heart grow fonder. The heart starts to long for the time you’ll get to see each other again. You start to count the days (again) of your beloved’s return. Despite the ache of parting, you’ll continue to look forward to being in each other’s embrace once again.

Why are you in a relationship? Is being in love enough to lead you to a life-long commitment? How can you possibly get to know each other thoroughly when you’re oceans apart? That’s why traveling is an ideal way to make the most of the often limited time together, for it requires you to get out of your comfort zone, be independently dependent, moves you to accept your beloved wholly, compels you to synergize, mature, and long for your presence once again. You’ll know when it’s the real deal when it’ll make you feel like you’re partners in crime and that you’re better with the other person around.


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