Trust: How it can make or break your relationship
To trust or not to trust?
Trust is a touchy subject for a lot of couples in today's society. With the media portraying sex all over the place, I don't blame everyone for being so confused. But the reality is, if there is no trust in a relationship, then there can be no relationship. In order for a relationship to be true, loving and healthy, there needs to be trust between both people involved. Relationships take a lot of hard work to maintain happiness for both parties, and that hard work means trust, love, compromise, etc.
Unless it's a secret surprise or something, your significant other should not be kept out of your loop, meaning you should not have any secrets kept from your partner. Of coarse most people have a stupid dark secret or two that they keep to themselves, but for the most part- don't deceive your partner by keeping secrets. That's not real. Your fooling your partner, and when they find out, which they will- it won't be too good and your partner will find it hard to ever trust you again afterwards. Remember, nothing stays hidden forever, secrets always come out in in the end, one way or another.
Don't keep your problems to yourself!
If you find that you have a problem with your partner, you should try to resolve the problem as peacefully and as soon as possible. The more you hide or avoid the issue from your partner, the more the issue is going to come out but in different forms of expression. Repressing your feelings only makes them come out stronger and crazier--and in the most irrelevant situations. You don't want this to happen. It will ruin your relationship, or just cause silly problems that could have just been avoided in the first place by acknowledging the issue. And then this may also lead to mistrust in the relationship. If you trust your partner you should try talking to your partner whenever you find that you have any issues with them. If you don't do this, your partner may feel you are holding back and hiding feelings from them and this may cause your partner to have trust issues with you. If you love your partner and want it to work, both of you should want to resolve your problems as soon as you can. Relationships involve work. If you don't work at them, they will not last. So talk it out as soon as you can!
Listen and be UNDERSTANDING
I find that a big problem in a lot of relationships is that 1 or even both parties don't actually listen to each other. They talk over each other or may think they are right and the other is wrong. That is the wrong thing to do, it is important to listen to each other and understand each other. If you don't listen to your partner, they may find it hard to express their feelings to you the next time around, which means they may find it hard to TRUST you!! Forget about who's right and who's wrong, set that aside and work at resolving your issues, not figuring out who's right or wrong. Sometimes we all mess up, WE ARE PEOPLE, it happens but working out your problems TOGETHER is the important thing to do in the end. Forgive and learn how to move forward. Relationships are hard, and if you don't work together, by completely trusting one another and trying to understand one another than your relationship will not get that far, it will just be a disaster.
Let your partner be...
When in a relationship, most people get jealous, they don't want their partner to go out without them. BUT, if you do trust your partner, you must let them be. You don't have to be stuck like glue to your partner, unless you both want to be. Let each other have space. Let each other live happily, without jealousy, or control. You both love each other and want to be with each other. This means love, trust, honesty and commitment. If you don't trust your partner alone without you, then you shouldn't be with them at all. Sorry. Both of you have to work at trusting each other because that is true love, and I believe if you don't trust your partner then why keep wasting your time? Move on and find someone you can just let be and still be happy and you must be able to trust them without worrying all the time. Once you start showing your partner signs that they cannot trust you, things will start to crumble. You will be fighting constantly, you will be distant, you will be anxious and worried constantly and so much more negativity will come along with this. Be happy and trust the person that loves you, unless you have reason not to, then you should evaluate your circumstances and figure them out before you get crazy! Trust is what makes your relationship, and once it's gone, it's what will break your relationship!