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Trust Issues

Updated on March 9, 2021

Emotional Baggage - Trust Issues

We all have trust issues due to past experiences with people users, abusers and manipulators in our lives. What is the healthy balance of emotional boundaries for self protection and being able to trust people again in order to have a close relationship with anybody?

Sigourney Weaver said, "Sometimes you trust someone who turns out not to be honest. I think we've probably all been hurt."

No kidding, when someone we've known for years and they are found out with a serious lie - it hurts. Betrayal of a close friend makes you wonder if you are able to perceive people as they really are and you begin to question yourself in order not to get caught unawares again. The emotional baggage of trust issues due to past relationships will cut you off from a healthy partnership that will fulfill your life. Without trust there is no love, "The best proof of love is trust. " (Joyce Brothers)

Brooding and morose, scared to trust anybody with an open heart and wary to let anybody get to close ends up being a very lonely existence. How to learn to be able to trust again knowing that, "The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.", (Stephen King), feeling completely separated from others, "You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don't feel like you can trust anybody or talk to anybody, you feel like you're really alone." (Fiona Apple)

How to break free from this self-imposed loneliness and make an effort to have close relationships with others? Wearing a brittle exterior a person will eventually have a the personality of the average Vogon, cruel and insensitive and cantankerous. "To go through life without trust: that is to be imprisoned in the worst cell of all, oneself.", (Graham Greene), nobody wants to live by the creed of Joseph Stalin who once said, "I trust no one, not even myself."

From the following quotes it appears that the first step is regaining trust in yourself.
Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live .- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Trust not yourself, but your defects to know, make use of every friend and every foe. - Alexander Pope

Trust your hunches. They're usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level. - Joyce Brothers

Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do. - Benjamin Spock


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