Trust is Lost

You deserve better than to be treated as an ornament on the shelf by your partner.

A married partner is not often in the same mood. It is normal to be in different moods.

The problem is when the mood affects the other partner. Sometimes these moods are changed due to telling lies.

These reasons are not always seen unless one decides to change their behaviours.

The pain stays with you for a long time when trust is broken, and you keep this grudge for a long time too. You feel like everything around you is falling apart when it is only you who feel that way.

Trust is about two people being faithful to one another. It is at times misunderstood when you love each other. Love and trust are what binds two people.

When trust is lost, then love slowly disappears from that commitment. People don't understand the meaning of trust. A few people feel love can override anything troubled in a marriage. Love is not about everything that happens in a marriage.

Love couldn't hold your commitment if you don't have trust for each other. Think of what makes you feel at best when together with your partner.

Some moments would not be forgotten, especially if these moments hurt you the most. A grudge against your partner would ruin everything else too.

Be calm and keep communication open between you. There shouldn't be any hassles about understanding the reason for loving your partner and being able to trust your partner.

A flirt turns out to be a liar and thinks what they are up to is a normal part of their committed relationship. It has been months since you found out more about his flirting with the other woman.

He denied it even though you had proof. You have proof of your partner flirting with another woman and you watch his actions which make you feel hurt. Through his behaviours, you fall apart. What may seem silly to your partner means something else to you.

These flirting behaviours are never right in your eyes, while in your partner's eyes everything about that behaviour is fine.

How can you live with him?

It hurt you and for that, you won’t forgive your partner because you felt pain like never and only you know what that felt like at that time. Trust feels different toward your partner.

After all, you didn't expect your partner to behave in this way. He doesn’t see that and doesn't consider your feelings.

Sometimes you wonder if is it better to be single and to avoid these issues or if is it worth your good energy to be married and go through these challenges.

Either way, you will have challenges to face up to in your life. Someone will lie to you or treat you worse than you deserve to be treated.

Life has its surprises and with a positive mind, one can feel better after the hurt. You can try avoiding pain, but you will still pain in other ways if not from a cheater or a flirt.

Do you trust your partner?

Be it your strengths or weaknesses, no matter how you see life, everything depends on yourself. You grow and learn from mistakes and experiences from the day you are born.

These little experiences allow you to be confident about yourself. Be that strong one through all tough times.

You meet the one you feel is right for you and who understands you through thick and thin.

In this time, you feel finally you got that special person in your life. Trust comes later in the relationship. When you fail to see this, you realize everything is lost before it starts between you.

You need to treat each other with respect and with love. Make your focus on your daily actions. Take your time with each other and be able to gain your strengths together not only your weaknesses.

Based on what I have researched I see that couples need more than just love to hold them through tough times in a marriage. It is easy to think love is everything in a committed relationship.

What you fail to see is how you handle the situations in a relationship.

Love and trust are joined for better communication, to gain respect and to allow for a proper understanding of the situation.

Couples I interviewed!

A couple started dating while in their teens and married in their twenties. She wasn't ready for marriage. He was in love with her and they did everything together and went everywhere together.

The couple spent six years together and broke up for two years. They dated other people while they were apart. She went off to college for a few years. He chased after her and got back together and spent time together for ten years.

Her marriage has become unbearable. She was married for eleven years to an alcoholic. The couple did spend time together, but he was a drunk.

It is sad when you feel your marriage is dead after many years of battle, especially through daily experiences together. Your husband shouldn't please and pamper you for every little thing you nag about in your marriage.

When you settle for that relationship you are making a mistake.

A marriage is about two people working through their love and actions as a team. Sit and discuss your issues together as a couple not alone.

Choices are made according to your ideas and decisions make the most of your life together.

Excuses are made for every inappropriate behaviour and there is only that much you can take, grasp or handle from your partner.

The problem is denied, not admitted by your partner, or apologized for but for some reason, you can't get your partner to admit his actions were wrong in your view.

Why won't your partner admit it?

Blame hurts and that is just an excuse to get out of trouble. He has an excuse and answers for every question that can make you a bit suspicious of what is going on with him and the other woman. He feels free to be alone with her but in the presence of his wife.

Is he guilty or trying to hide it?

What makes one a faithful one when all your partner is doing is avoiding questions?

It is often a painful experience for the first time in a marriage that would make one partner see how wrong the other is.

However, for the flirtatious behaviours, nothing in your eyes is right. being married to one person your whole life has been about that person and you.

To flirt with another in front of you doesn't feel good. Trust in your marriage is what makes two people feel stronger and worthy of each other.

No matter what you try to do to regain trust once broken, it would be most difficult to have that hold on each other again.

You can choose to be with anyone for the rest of your life. What matters most is how you decide to live together. Your character shows out when you become a liar or a cheater.