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Twenty Ways to Shorten Long Distance Relationships

Updated on March 19, 2010

If It's a Cool Box, Have Them Fill it and Ship it Back

Can You Tell Me About the Twenty Ways

1. Make a "There's No Place Like Home " box. Make something, Shop at their favorite places. Buy their favorite foods from restaurants they like where you are and send it "next day" to them. Try to pick foods that will hold up for the trip and include pictures of the place with favorite waiters, owners etc. and sounds you record of the place on a cd they can play while they eat.

2. Have a virtual party on myspace or facebook and have balloons and/or flowers delivered while friends and family show up online to wish them happy birthday or groundhog day or some off-the- wall made up occasion.

3. Write a poem or song and read or sing it to them over the phone. If you have friends that they know or family that can help you do this, include them.


4. Start a story that you take turns writing. Whatever books your long distance person likes to read will be a clue. If it's mysteries, start by describing finding a dead body and introduce the first character or two then let them introduce some more and what their part is in the story. You could do it online, but it could be more fun if you each got an installment in the mail---including drawings or photos if you feel ambitious. Read the "Griffin and Sabine" trilogy by Nick Bantock for inspiration.

5. Send them a collection of their favorite songs on a CD you make or ones you buy for them to play and include some pictures of you and favorite spots you visited together.

6. Make a calendar with the above pictures either of the two of you or simply favorite things in photo form and include birthdays and anniversaries of family and friends as well as any special times you spent together.

7. Make a jigsaw puzzle out of a picture of the two of you and send them a few pieces at a time with a letter or note.

8. Send a box full of 31 boxes or letters or scrolls all individually wrapped up and numbered for the day of the month so that they can open them up each day. Let your imagination run wild for what to put in each one.

9. Each of you make a journal of your thoughts every day and either send them once a week or send an email every night.


10. Make a youtube production for them. I have a friend who together with her kids makes hilarious SNL type skits with over-the-top drama and puts them on youtube. You could also sing or dance or use any of your gifts to create a little television show for them.

11. Send their favorite chocolate or candy bar or protein bar with notes written on the wrappers using a Sharpie.

12. Play a game of chess or some online game together. If you are sports fans, make your own predictions and have a prize pool of your own for whoever gets closest to the actual scores.

13. If the two of you are readers, buy the same book and read it together. If you prefer watching your stories, find out what shows you like and watch them together. Many of the TV shows can be watched on Hulu or Fancast online so you can watch older episodes together regardless of your time zones.

Better Still, Send Me Here
Better Still, Send Me Here

14. Order dinner for them from a favorite restaurant where they live and have it delivered. (You might want to give them notice so that it is delivered when they are at home and haven't already eaten.)

15. Be Julia or the Iron Chef. Make them a cookbook with recipes of their favorite dishes you have made for them and illustrate it with photos of the dishes as you like to serve them. Make sure to show other things and home background for nostalgia's sake. If you want to be adventurous, include a video on a CD for any complicated procedures.


Apologies to All My Blond Friends
Apologies to All My Blond Friends

16. My son lives in San Francisco and since we both share a rather off-beat humor, we text each other when we see a personalized license plate that is either cryptic (making it a puzzle) or is funny or weird. This makes for a great, semi-regular, out of the blue personal contact.

17. Adopt a character from the movies or television when you are on the phone with them and let the other person guess who it is by either your accent or the things you say. If that is too hard for you, try to guess what the other person is wearing or try to see how long you each can go without laughing---or without thinking of penguins.

18. Send seeds to each other and plant something that will stand a good chance of growing so that when you see it you will think of the other person. Growing trees and shrubs from seed.

19. Involve other people in unique ways to let your special one know they are not alone. You could make a donation in their name to a very worthy cause or "adopt" a pen pal in a third world country that you both could write to.Start a fan club for them and make buttons and T-shirts.

20. While you really can't name a star after them (see this IAU site) you can send them an astronomy chart so you can both be looking at the heavens at the same time some evening and gaze at star number 359267506398 together.


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    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      7 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Ha ha, well that's the whole idea M. I laughed at your suggestion and started to write a song from that viewpoint. I was having so much fun with it I forgot to respond to your comment. Thanks for coming all the way over here to So Cal to visit. I'm happy you liked it. Maybe I'll post the song when it's done. =:)

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      Mamelody 

      7 years ago

      LOL if this is what all people in long distant relationships do, then they would last very long! I could try it but am too darn lazy. Maybe you can write a hub on "how lazy people can manage long distance relationships!" Great hub, enjoyed reading it.

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      7 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Hi JG, what fun it is to have such a celebrity visiting my hub. I will have to put your name on one of the bronze stars on my virtual sidewalk. =:)

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      JolieGoodnight 

      7 years ago

      This is a great list! You are right, it goes nicely with my article.

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Hey CW, nice to see you and thanks for the comment. Hope your new location is conducive for writing, looking forward to more hubs. =:)

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      Crazdwriter 

      8 years ago

      Yep Winsome that does sound interesting. Be fun for you to write and fun for others to read. :-)

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Hey Rebekah, you are the nice and sweet one, but thank you. I was so thorough when I wrote it that I mentally bookmarked it and said I'll be back to put this into action. Oops I guess it's time. =:)

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      rebekahELLE 

      8 years ago from Tampa Bay

      ah, so nice and sweet. I once experienced a very long distance relationship that finally came to a close. We were simply too far apart and although I love France, I could not justify making the move! LDR are difficult, but not impossible as long as you can see each other relatively often.

      you have some wonderful ideas here!

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Hi CW, thank you and yes the G&S books are the perfect mixture of exotic graphics and mystery as well as a window into intimacy we rarely get to see. Maybe I'll do a similar treatise with the letters between Elizabeth and Robert Browning--sounds interesting huh. =:)

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      Crazdwriter 

      8 years ago

      I'm glad to see someone else enjoys the books Griffin and Sabine Trilogy. I love those books and reading them again in a few minutes. :-) Your hub is a great one. I do these things with my husband when he is on deployment. Great hub!

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Ha ha, no JamaGenee, I no longer text while driving--I do however,text when I stop before I forget. Thank you for your great comment and the Google Earth suggestion--I love that application and you're right, it would enhance the experience--too bad it can't be in real time. =:)

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      Joanna McKenna 

      8 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      Wonderful suggestions, but may I add Google Earth?

      A friend I met online lives 1200 miles away and has made the trek to my city, but I haven't been to hers. By googling her address, I was able to see her house and how it relates to the area. I then googled (or she sent links to) websites of stores and restaurants she frequents. Now when she says she's walking to CVS or a certain shop, or having lunch or dinner at a certain restaurant, I can picture her in those places (and I with her).

      As for watching YouTube "together", I and a cousin who lives across town but is physically unable to get up to my third-floor flat have done this for hours several times. (Just occurred to me this would also be a way to do a bit of armchair traveling "together", for instance full episodes of Rick Steves' program on PBS's site.)

      btw, Winsome, I fervently hope you're NOT texting vanity plates to your son while driving! ???

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Thanks Janny, some of these could make someone's day or week. I think I know what would be on your music CD. =:)

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      JannyC 

      8 years ago

      Aww these are so sweet!

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Aw Rebecca (he said blushing) =:)

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      Rebecca E. 

      8 years ago from Canada

      love it love it love it.

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      You are so welcome HimeKo. Good luck on the transition. You know love is a dimension that is more real than the three we know--it transcends time and space and distance, but throwing in a few props doesn't hurt. =:)

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      HimeKo 

      8 years ago from Indiana

      This is actually really useful. I'm leaving for college in August and my boyfriend and I have been having doubts about how it'll all work out. I've done the long distance love before and I didn't think it was awful, but it'll definitely take some adjusting to before it becomes easy with someone I've spent sooo much time with!

      Thanks for all the tips, I'll try them all out.

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Lol--RRG I didn't notice that. It figures because I love good food and restaurants spoil you with all that good service and scrumptious food---ok I'm hungry now too. =:)

      Thank you for the kind words.

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      rocknrodeogirl 

      8 years ago from The Columbia Gorge

      Great ideas to keep a relationship going!! So many to do with food, hmm...now I'm hungry! ;)

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Thank you Pamela, since I know you have this talent, I'll suggest a 21st way just for you--make a stained glass that fits one of their windows so they can think of you when the sun shines through. =:)

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      8 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Winsome, So many great suggestions. Good hub.

    • Winsome profile imageAUTHOR

      Winsome 

      8 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

      Hey Micky, glad to help. Oh btw, how many gears does it have? =:)

      Cosette, we were just tracking. Hope the rest is helpful and thanks for inspiring this hub by your article on your relationship with your son.

      Sweet, huh? Ok back to the drawing board with my hub on "How to Overhaul a Monster Truck During Lunch Break" =:)

      GL I would love to hear your CD. Do you have them on a hub yet? Thank you for stopping by and for your kind words.

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      Hillary 

      8 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      What great suggestions Winsome. This Hub is bookmarked! I've done the favorite songs on CD and it has always been appreciated. Now I have a lot more to try. Thanks!

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      cosette 

      8 years ago

      'k, this is really cosmic. i have done a few of the things you mention here, including the seeds and the little cookbook of favorite recipes. that way they have flowers that you gave them growing all the time, and a taste of home. your hubs are very sweet, i have to say. p.s. love that painting. i have it hanging in my bathroom :)

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      Micky Dee 

      8 years ago

      Thank you. I will now put my butt in gear and do this for someone I love.

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