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How Would you Treat the Uninvited Guest?
Dealing with people you don't like or who come to your home uninvited that can be tough.
Most important you got to deal with such people politely; you never know when you would need their help.
Situations can be complicated or frustrating that all depends on you.
· Be prepared in advance for the unexpected guests.
We often barbecue on summer evenings and on certain occasions we prefer to just hang out as a family by the barbecue spot for a while before actually starting the barbecue.
We talk about old times and other plans. It always feels good to be able to connect after a long day.
Our neighbors are friendly and always there to help out but there is one specific family they live in the surrounding area.
Often they would make any excuse to come to visit once they see our barbecue grid all lit up.
One evening we planned a barbecue for the three of us, and half an hour later the husband stopped by of that family.
Fifteen minutes later the wife came by, and that was the end of our family barbecue.
I was not pleased about it; they turned up unannounced and ruined our evening, which is how I felt about the situation.
I however, was most polite, and went on with the evening they stayed for a while; they had supper and went off.
Uninvited guests to me can be like a thorn in the side especially, if they are people who are not like-able or are not the kind of best of friends.
· What would you do if you are confronted by uninvited guests?
If you are good friends in many situations there is no need to be unfriendly, instead try to be most friendly.
Handle the situation easily with a real smile after all they are good friends.
When people come to your home uninvited and you are not the best of friends it can be a problem.
Try to be polite and make conversations.
If you don't want these incidents repeated the next time offer them drinks and send them off before you start the barbecue or other meals.
· Be confidential about your plans.
It is sometimes difficult to explain why you don't want to invite other people, not everyone would understand what you are trying to tell them.
· Be mature and control the situation.
· Reasons for not inviting other people to your function or barbecue:
You need family time.
Dislike the other person or family.
You don’t need troublesome people from previous functions.
It can be a costly affair.
Don't make your uninvited guest feel unwelcome in your home.
If you dislike that uninvited guest, instead of spending time with that person allow them to mingle with others, and you won't have to spend time with those kind of guests.
You can get rid of the uninvited guest by showing them off at the door; this is when you are holding an event.
Avoid the attention of other people noticing at the function.
Another great idea is to pretend to be leaving the house with your purse and car keys at hand you act out as soon as you see the uninvited guests arrive.
· Do you know of the Unwanted-Guest-Basket?
Remember to have this close to the entrance of your front door, when someone comes by uninvited pretend to be going out.
It Works like a charm.
Uninvited guests are often rude and would peep into your home.
Try to look as if you are in a hurry and don't give them the chance of coming into your home.
When you hear the voice of the uninvited guest be quiet and stay inside, and wait until they are gone and then come out.
Sometimes these guests don't get up and leave that easily.
Make silly excuses if you don't want to be nasty to them.
Tell them you have a stomach ache, and that you have been going to the toilet all day and advice them not to get close to you.
If you are a good at shouting and have a gift to pretend to be arguing on the telephone then do so to make the guest leave even sooner.
An awkward moment for uninvited guests but that would make them leave immediately.
You can also say your stomach ache is contagious; sometimes you got to say something that sounds terrible to get your uninvited guests away from your home.
Every individual feels different about others and can't all be impolite but the excuses do work fairly well to make those go away.
When you don't feel like being with these guests you got to make something up to get them away.
It does not sound good to lie about your health but other excuses sound a better idea.
The Unwanted-Guest-Basket is the best.
People don't like every single person they come into contact with daily, but politely is often the answer to keep them away from your property.
Overall, it is your home and you have the right to allow who comes by, if you don't like a certain person tell them to stop coming by.
Every person is worthy and should not be denied their lives but sometimes it can get too much to cope with, when uninvited guests turn up and make your moment a spoiled one.
I had the experience of uninvited guests with the same people more than once, the last time they got the message.
In the beginning I didn't say anything it was difficult for me to mention harsh words to those people, and I did not.
One day I politely said ''I am not used to having people stopping by at my home at any time of the day, as I don't want my time to be disturbed by anyone.''
I grew up in a different culture and not familiar with another way of a new culture.
Since then they did not come by uninvited, and we are still neighborly-friendly.
Certain problems can be solved the simple way and sometimes with neighbors you can't be awful in any way.
· Do you hate the idea of uninvited guests in your home?
Some people love it when guests just drop by uninvited it makes them feel good.
· Culture does play a big part in all of this, doesn't it?
The uninvited guest can be welcome if the person or persons is good company.
· Ever had a drunk in your home, uninvited and who won't stop talking too much?
He helps himself to your cigarettes and slobbers all over the seat and talks with slurry words. It can be most frustrating to have people of this kind in your home.
The uninvited guests waiting to eat at a barbecue is more pleasant than having a drunken guy sitting at your side and irritating you with his less useful conversations.
The kind of people you associate with also has a huge part in your life.
It can be pleasant surprise or a rude moment.
You have prepared dinner for four people and three other people show up at the very moment of when you have just started eating.
· What would you do in that situation?
One can be under-pressure and would have to prepare something else for the uninvited guests.
If you go to a home while they are eating and you sit there and watch them eating that can be most awkward.
Some people don't mind the uninvited guests but always put you in that situation, look at it in both ways and decide for yourself.
You could tell them you could have called first, so next time they get the hint and would call first rather than to stop by unannounced.
Your personality shows here and if you can be direct good for you.
Uninvited guests can also be like freeloaders they will eat at your place, and prey on drinking even more, wine, beers or, whatever you have to offer. Overtime that could all that adds up to an expensive deal.
I once knew a couple who often had friends over but gradually, they made that a habit stopping by for a meal on many occasions and the couple couldn't continue like that anymore.
The woman had enough of them stopping by, so one day she put the empty plates on the floor for the dog to lick off. The friends didn't show up for a while after that incident.
· Showing up on odd times and not having the guts to tell them not to come by is a problem for many people.
How would you treat an Uninvited Guest in Your Home?
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