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Updated on August 07, 2015

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How Would you Treat the Uninvited Guest?

Dealing with people you don't like or who come to your home uninvited that can be tough.

Most important you got to deal with such people politely, you never know when you would need their help.

Situations can be complicated or frustrating that all depends on you.

  • Be prepared in advance for the unexpected guests.

We often barbecue on summer evenings and on certain occasions we prefer to just hang out as a family by the barbecue spot for a while before actually starting the barbecue.

We talk about old times and other plans. It always feels good to be able to connect after a long day.

Our neighbors are friendly and always there to help out but there is one specific family they live in the surrounding area.

Often they would make any excuse to come to visit once they see our barbecue grid all lit up.

One evening we planned a barbecue for the three of us, and half an hour later the husband stopped by of that family.

Fifteen minutes later the wife came by, and that was the end of our family barbecue.

I was not pleased about it they turned up unannounced and ruined our evening, that is how I felt about the situation.

I however, was most polite, and went on with the evening they stayed for a while, they had supper and went off.

Uninvited guests to me can be like a thorn in the side especially, if they are people who are not like-able or are not the kind of best of friends.

  • What would you do if you are confronted by uninvited guests?

If you are good friends in many situations there is no need to be unfriendly, instead try to be most friendly.

Handle the situation easily with a real smile after all they are good friends.

When people come to your home uninvited and you are not the best of friends it can be a problem.

Try to be polite and make conversations.

If you don't want these incidents repeated the next time offer them drinks and send them off before you start the barbecue or other meals.

  • Be confidential about your plans.

It is sometimes difficult to explain why you don't want to invite other people, not everyone would understand what you are trying to tell them.

  • Be mature and control the situation.

  • Reasons for not inviting other people to your function or barbecue:

Family time.

Dislike the other person or family.

Troublesome people from previous functions.

A costly affair.

Don't make your uninvited guest feel unwelcome in your home.

If you dislike that uninvited guest, instead of spending time with that person allow them to mingle with others, and you won't have to spend time with those kin of guests.

You can get rid of the uninvited guest by showing them off at the door, this is when you are holding an event. Avoid the attention of other people noticing at the function.

Another great idea is to pretend to be leaving the house with your purse and car keys at hand you act out as soon as you see the uninvited guests arrive.

  • Do you know of the Unwanted-Guest-Basket?

Remember to have this close to the entrance of your front door, when someone comes by uninvited pretend to be going out.

It Works like a charm.

Uninvited guests are often rude and would peep into your home. Try to look as if you are in a hurry and don't give them the chance of coming into your home.

When you hear the voice of the uninvited guest be quiet and stay inside, and wait until they are gone and then come out.

Sometimes these guests don't get up and leave that easily.

Make silly excuses if you don't want to be nasty to them.

Tell them you have a stomach ache, and that you have been going to the toilet all day and advice them not to get close to you.

If you are a good at shouting and have a gift to pretend to be arguing on the telephone then do so to make the guest leave even sooner.

An awkward moment for uninvited guests but that would make them leave immediately.

You can also say your stomach ache is contagious, sometimes you got to say something that sounds terrible to get your uninvited guests away from your home.

Every individual feels different about others and can't all be impolite but the excuses do work fairly well to make those go away.

When you don't feel like being with these guests you got to make something up to get them away.

It does not sound good to lie about your health but other excuses sound a better idea. The Unwanted-Guest-Basket is the best of all. It's how I feel.

People don't like every single person they come into contact with daily, but politely is often the answer to keep them away from your property.

Overall, it is your home and you have the right to allow who comes by, if you don't like a certain person tell them to stop coming by.

Every person is worthy and should not be denied their lives but sometimes it can get too much to cope with, when uninvited guests turn up and make your moment a spoiled one.

I had the experience of uninvited guests with the same people more than once, the last time they got the message.

In the beginning I didn't say anything it was difficult for me to mention harsh words to those people, and I did not. One day I politely said ''I am not used to having people stopping by at my home at any time of the day, as I don't want my time to be disturbed by anyone.''

I grew up in a different culture and not familiar with another way of a new culture.

Since then they did not come by uninvited, and we are still neighborly-friendly.

Certain problems can be solved the simple way and sometimes with neighbors you can't be awful in any way.

  • Do you hate the idea of uninvited guests in your home?

Some people love it when guests just drop by uninvited it makes them feel good.

  • Culture does play a big part in all of this, doesn't it?

The uninvited guest can be welcome if the person or persons is good company.

  • Ever had a drunk in your home, uninvited and who won't stop talking too much?

He helps himself to your cigarettes and slobbers all over the seat and talks with slurry words. It can be most frustrating to have people of this kind in your home.

The uninvited guests waiting to eat at a barbecue is more pleasant than having a drunk guy sitting at your side and irritating you with his less useful conversations.

The kind of people you associate with also has a huge part in your life.

It can be pleasant surprise or a rude moment.

You have prepared dinner for four people and three other people show up at the very moment of when you have just started eating.

  • What would you do in that situation?

One can be under-pressure and would have to prepare something else for the uninvited guests.

If you go to a home while they are eating and you sit there and watch them eating that can be most awkward.

Some people don't mind the uninvited guests but always put yourself in that situation, look at it in both ways and decide for yourself.

You could tell them you could have called first, so next time they get the hint and would call first rather than to stop by unannounced.

Your personality shows here and if you can be direct good for you. Uninvited guests can also be like freeloaders they will eat at your place, and prey on drinking even more, wine, beers or, whatever you have to offer. Overtime that can all that add up to an expensive deal.

I once knew a couple who often had friends over but gradually, they made that a habit stopping by for a meal on many occasions and the couple couldn't continue like that anymore.

The woman had enough of them stopping by, so one day she put the empty plates on the floor for the dog to lick off. The friends didn't show up for a while after that incident.

  • Showing up on odd times and not having the guts to tell them not to come by is a problem for many people.

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    • billybuc profile image

      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bev has much more patience with uninvited guests than I do. For the most part I am respectful, but if they overstay or if they show rudeness, my patience can wear out very quickly.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      It amazes me how nervy people can be..Imagine just dropping in for dinner..and very often these people do not extend invites, and would be annoyed if you showed up.. Why not go over to their house uninvited.. and find out.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Well now...if it's family I'll just have to grin and bear it. :0

      Anyone else, and I'll make my excuses. They do say that "unwanted guests like fish, begin to smell after three days" Why would anyone wait that long ? :). Nice work.

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      Great article! For me it really depends on who it is. Certain people such as close family members are welcomed anytime. However, I have had the displeasure of knowing people that felt it was unnecessary to call before coming and almost always showed up at dinner time. When I was younger, we had these cousins that always came uninvited at dinner time. They would always say, "Oh we are so sorry for showing up at dinner time". Then they would sit there and eat because my parents never wanted to be rude. However, my father had less patience than my mother so once his buttons were pushed, watch out! So, one day these people showed up again and said the same thing. This time my father had had enough and said, "Well, it seems to me that you continuously time your visits right at dinner time. In the future, we would appreciate it if you would call before you come". They never came back again unannounced, however, their visits were fewer and far between, lol. Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      DDE, I only have one regular uninvited guest. I'm getting my basket ready. Another one of your neat ideas! Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc so agree with you sometimes one can lose their patience nicely said thankks

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      carol7777 thanks for commenting and very true I don't think they would like an uninvited guest.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness if it is family and close friends I tooo won't mind but other people outside my circle definitely will push my buttons. Thanks for sharing your opinion here have nice weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rose-the planner so nice of you to take the time and comment on my hub, thanks for your continuous support, and yes I would be the same if I had the same kind of people stop by so often. Have a nice weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thanks for commenting and have a good day

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      For 4 years I threw BIG parties for the masons (100 and up). Never (luckily) had a problem.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great comment thanks Mhatter99

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      Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

      I don't like to have uninvited guests either. A quick phone call to see if it is convenient is more acceptable. Fortunately, we almost never have uninvited guests, except occasionally close relatives will drop in but they do not necessarily assume they will be fed. We never drop in uninvited to other's homes either. Good topic for your hub. Voted up!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Pamela99 how nice of you to stop by and comment on my hubs thanks for the comment and the votes up. have good weekend.

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I like when people call ahead of time instead of coming unannounced! I would never go to someone else's place uninvited either! But some people are rude unfortunately!

      Thanks for sharing, DDE!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts so nice to read a comment from you one of my great supporters and I totally agree with you, but somehow I feel culture has lots to do with the habit of uninvited guests thanks very much for stopping by.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 3 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      When I'm home I never want uninvited guests because I like to be comfortable and at ease and that means most of the time I'm walking about like a slob not to mention the house isn't in great shape either.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Gypsy Rose Lee it is so true and what a lovely surprise to read a comment from you so pleased you stopped by thanks and have a lovely day.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      I believe most of us have had to deal with uninvited guests at some point in time. This is a comprehensive list of tips to do incase one needs to get rid of them fast. Thanks for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi rajan jolly great of you to stop by thanks or being one of my good supporters

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago

      You have some great ideas here DDE, voted up, interesting and shared.

      --Shyron

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      Richard Ricky Hale 3 years ago from West Virginia

      DDE, this article is right down my alley. My neighbors are bums, literally. Their always asking and wanting something. I don't mean to judge, but it's everyday. Most cases, I'm rude, only because it has been going on for over a year. These tips are certainly useful. Voted up, useful, interesting, and shared on twitter.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko Thanks for votes up, interesting and shared so glad you commented

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thelyricwriter some people can be rude and lack respect for others such behaviors can be monotonous and annyoying htanks for commenting, and all votes, including sharing on Twitter you are right

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      I don't like uninvited people. That does not include my family. I like to have my home ready for company and myself.

      We had old friends we use to call before going for a visit which wasn't often that we went because they lived a distance aways and we aren't the kind to hang out at someone's house all the time. They would say come for a visit. I realize they were watching the clock when we were there and I wondered why. Their grown son told us his parents liked to go sit at the bar until closing time. We kept them as friends but never went for another visit. We didn't want to ever ruin their evening. He is now bedridden and she takes care of him.

      We use to have friends drop by for mealtime. One day I served some awful tasting food. They never came back.

      Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      moonlake so agree uninvited guests can be annoying, iI don't mind so much about the house which is often neat and tidy but when we plan our time and then they show up it does ruin the evening or day. good idea about the bad tasting food, thanks for the vote up and commenting have a great weekend.

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      Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

      I don´t like uninvited guests too. My reaction depends on a person who will come and it depends in which country I am. When I´m in the Philippines I´m polite and tried not to be rude, but when I´m Germany I can say to the unwanted guest than I have no time for them at the moment and please call first before he or she comes. That´s the way it is in Germany. Thanks for sharing this hub. Have a great day!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Thelma Alberts, so true it depend son culture thanks for leaving your valuable comment

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      Tirralan Watkins 3 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      DDE, good topic for discussion! The uninvited guest basket is a very idea. Thankfully, we live too far away for those "unexpected" guests.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Careermommy so glad to see you stop by, thanks very much for commenting

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      Paint your guest room yellow. Unwanted guests, and all guests, will leave shortly after arriving. Yellow is a color that subconsciously makes people nervous so don't ever paint your nursery this color. It's a nice color in small amounts, but research shows it can have an adverse affect in large amounts.

      Interesting and thought provoking as always!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Au fait great idea at first it made me laugh I learned something new about the color yellow. Thanks for sharing a helpful idea

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