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Values 101: Friendship -Through Thick and Thin

Updated on August 7, 2011

I've been straining, sifting and weighing the comments that I received on the post I've written on our people site on Facebook.

I started the thread that "Friendship is boundless." Less than a minute, I already received reactions coming from my kababayan (countrymen) who are working abroad regarding the topic. Funny thing, they can't get away with their laptop or mobile phones just to get updated regarding the situations back home.

It so happened that a national television program of Ms. Kris Aquino (President Noynoy Aquino's youngest sister), KrisTV, had just tackled FRIENDSHIP throughout the show. She summed up the day by saying that "Friendship is acceptance."

Accepting friends in who they are; not looking at their stature in the society, is what counts most when engaging into a lifetime commitment on friendship.


Opinions on Friendship

Fellow Filipino overseas workers have provided me these insights:

  1. "Brother Ino (that's what they call me), sadly, those whom I consider best-friends didn't lasted in my life. It's either no contact or misunderstanding occurred between us. That's why, I'm back with my family. Whatever 'dirty laundry' I brought home, they still accept me. I cannot fathom their support and care they're still giving for me."
  2. "We were three best of friends during high school years. All of a sudden I just knew that we're not classmates anymore because I was transferred to the upper section but the two were retained at my former section. It also hurt me when I found out that one of them befriended the more intelligent one in our class. The other one remained to mingle with me; nothing changed although, I was reprimanded by her adviser because I seated in at her class. I even answered back and insisted to remain in the class, but to no avail."
  3. "I remember my friend, whom I considered my best friend. One time, we didn't greeted each other because she got angry when her basketball team got defeated. We had a laugh after that incident. I have no contact with I decided to work abroad after finishing college."

Stages of Friendship

I don't know if there's such a thing like, leveling friendship. As if, I'm going to categorize all kinds of friendship that come my way.

Friendship involves emotions and values. I tend to value friendship more coupled with emotions itself. Does the heart feel obligated to care? I think so, because you cannot cope up with friends, if you don't have the heart to show that you care about this kind of relationship.

  1. Getting-to-know stage - When does your friendship with someone started? This is an awkward stage during your first search on the so-called friends in the community and school. I still have my best friend today. He's a very good family man, now. Although, his time is mostly concentrated on his family, he always find time to send text messages.
  2. Blooming stage - How does your friendship grow? This is the stage where you started opening up and showing your true self. Friendship among men is also similar with women. Secrets are always best revealed in the circle of friends.
  3. Longevity stage - What pact did you made regarding friendship? Most of friendship groups often have a lifetime pact, through thick and thin. It's like about marriage; true friends will stick with you as you grow older.

I can't get away with friends. Since, I am one of the social beings frolicking social sites online and involving myself at the local activities of the community, I see to it that I am connected with my friends whether online or at the actual setting.

How about you. How do you value friendship? Is there a chance that you cling more to friends than your family when you have personal problems?

Closer than association, rather than intimacy

There's a very tiny line separating friendship and intimacy. The thinnest of line that I could not see, and yet I can feel it that it's there.

Take for instance, it's like sealing a contract with others, aside from your family, that you intend to keep for life. Getting into this relationship requires no rules as long as you will not reach the level of intimacy. Although, intimate friendship is yet another stage of serious relationship.

Friendship also involves love. Love at this stage is the so-called filial love. You care for your friend, that you will even risk your life just to save him/her.

You can call it platonic love when it comes to friendship. There's no faking when you praise or criticize one's mistakes. You can lean on to him/her during your most sad moments.

Friendship will not even cling to your status in life. It's about camaraderie, an association that you can compare on fraternities of men and sororities of women.

There's a risk to maintain a longtime friendship. The road is not perfect, because of he humps and bumps of misunderstanding. At one point, you'll be thinking of giving it up. But if you care for another human soul to be productive, then you'll work it out to be smooth sailing until it reaches the sunset of your life.


You cannot hide from me

because I'm inevitable.

I will make your life exciting

with lots of tales to share.

We're into it, all the time

facing the perils & triumphs of life.

I never hear you whine,

Not even a flinch of disgust.

We may face all the trials

and tribulations this life may bring

Yet you're always there

Your energy never falter.

Through thick and thin

you're up for the askin'

all I can say is "thank you"

words are not enough, but it's true.

(Written by travelman1971 - August 01, 2011)

Quotations about Friendship

These are some of the quotations that we can live by with having friends. There are lots of comparison in giving definition about friendship. Yet, it falls into one, a friend is a mirror of one's self. That's why, there's a saying that " Birds of the same feather, flock together."

"Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you."(Elbert Hubbard)

What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies. (Aristotle)

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.

Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.

Just walk beside me and be my friend. (Albert Camus)

The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend. (Abraham Lincoln)

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe unto him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up."
-- The Bible: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10.

"I shot an arrow into the air,
It fell to earth, I knew not where;
For so swiftly it flew, the sight
Could not follow it in its flight.

I breathed a song into the air,
It fell to earth, I knew not where;
For, who has sight so keen and strong
That it can follow the flight of song?

Long, long afterward, in an oak
I found the arrow, still unbroke;
And the song, from beginning to end,
I found again in the heart of a friend."
-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Praising Mr. Longfellow

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (February 27, 1807 – March 24, 1882) was greatly admired by his fellow poet and author, Edgar Allan Poe. He was also praised by his friend and fellow poet and author Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Longfellow was popular with lyrical poems, where you can sing his composition by creating your own music along with it.

I will never forget how my English teacher in high school tested us by memorizing one of Longfellow's poems.

It's all about friendship. I know you've grown up with this poem that I hope you can memorize again by heart.

Most of his poem tells about an adventure or even, like the subject on searching for a true friend.

You're my Best friend by Nelson Del Castillo c/o mindslife


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    • travel_man1971 profile imageAUTHOR

      Ireno Alcala 

      7 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      @earthbound1971: You said it right. It's like searching for one tiny needle amid the lawn of thick grasses.

      Lucky you if you found someone who'll stick with you through thick and thin.

      Thanks for the hub-visit.

    • earthbound1974 profile image


      7 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      True friends are hard to find. I am slowly understanding what friendship truly means in my life.

      This is very timely, travel man. Thanks for sharing!

    • travel_man1971 profile imageAUTHOR

      Ireno Alcala 

      7 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      @laidbacklady: Thanks for this awesome story of friendship. Sharing your own personal experience regarding this topic refreshed my memory on my search for true friends.

      You can easily open up your problems and secrets to your true friends.

    • travel_man1971 profile imageAUTHOR

      Ireno Alcala 

      7 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      @thesailor: I remember a friend opening up all his intimate secrets and sexual preference. He cannot share it with his family for fear of being alienated in the end.

      Truly, true friend is a shoulder to lean on, so they say.

    • laidbacklady profile image


      7 years ago from Plumsted Township, NJ

      "Better a true friend close by than a family member far away." A quote from the Bible, but don't ask me what book (Though I think it's from Proverbs)

      Life would have been unbearable for me throughout my childhood and teen years without the my two best friends. One I was friends with for around 8 years before I met the next one. As we each grew up, the openness and transparency never wavered. We went through a couple of rough patches; jealousies of teenage girls--how come you are spending more time with her than with me? That kind of thing, but always quickly gotten over. We have moved apart, but are still close knit. One is in Missouri, one in New Jersey, and one in central New York. I see my NY buddy a few times a year, but we email, text and call a lot. Our Missouri friend we FB with, but don't see nearly as often. We are all still close, and when we get together, even after 5 years of not seeing each other, it is like no time has passed and we are the same as we were as young girls. A seamless, flowing relationship through time, no love lost--familiarity continuous. A really uplifting feeling as I am sitting here writing this. Thanks for the hub. Voted up, awesome and beautiful!

    • thesailor profile image


      7 years ago from Seven Seas

      Friendship is openness. If you're a reclusive person, you'll never find friends. You have to mingle with others and find the one the jives with your character.

      Thanks for sharing!


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