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WHY DO MEN CHEAT IN A RELATIONSHIP
WHY DO MEN CHEAT?
I am aware of your eagerness to know- why men cheat. Before I continue, I want to assure you that I am going to be honest in every word I put down here, not minding the fact that I am a guy, and I am equally convinced that by the time you finish reading this hub, you won’t be confused again as to why men cheat.
Are you a victim of a cheating lover, husband or fiancé even when you are very sure that you have giving him your best and in most cases your all? Then wipe your tears and read this hub carefully.
A man cheating on his romantic partner, has nothing to do with the woman’s appearance (beauty), financial or social status, this is a trait which every man inherited from birth, don’t jump into conclusion yet, read on.
Men are polygamous in nature; it has nothing to do with personality. What am I trying to say? Every man or boy has the potential of cheating when in a romantic relationship with a woman, but not every man in a romantic relationship cheats, why? Read on.
Like I said earlier, men are born adventurers, always seeking for something new to explore, sometimes they even end up indulging with a woman of lower social status or even uglier than their current date (whom they are cheating on). With this in mind, you don’t need to bury yourself as a lady who falls victim to a cheating boyfriend because, it has nothing to do with you not being beautiful or whatever he may claim.
A cheating man will always find an excuse
In most situations where men are caught cheating or being rather, unfaithful to their partners, they always claim that they were lured into it or tempted as a result of the second woman’s beauty and attractiveness, but I bet you, he doesn’t really know why he did what he did. Give a cheating man a Miss Earth, he will still cheat on her, give him the most influential lady, he will equally do the same. Men have an ounce trait of a dog in them; they are ready to go to bed with anything in skirt that attracts their sexual instincts. If you wish to confirm this as a lady or a girl, try this: dress up cool and attractive, find a place where so many guys are, for the sake of your research, walk up to at least ten different guys asking them to please come make love to you that you are horny and lonely. Your result should reveal 99% of them accepting your sex offer.
On the contrary, get a cool looking guy, tell him about your research, then ask him to do just the same thing you did to the same number of women. The result should show less than 15% accepting the offer. I tried this on different locations and time, and my result was a bit similar to the above. I remember three different girls that gave me a similar response, “guy, go and get yourself a girlfriend, what you are doing will never work because I have a boyfriend that I love, and I can only do what you are asking for with him and him alone, goodbye!” while two more replied, “I am not a dog, I only do such with my man alone!”
On the other hand, none of the men the girl I used for the research approached, ever made mention of the fact that they had a girlfriend, they only went straight to ‘okay, how do we go about it’, ‘when do you actually want it’, ‘are you sure you are not up to something funny, if not, I am all yours’ etc. for Chrissake, where is their girlfriends? Have they all forgotten that they have a girl they love or what? This is the reason I told you earlier today that men act like dogs at times, when it comes to anything relating to sex.
Haven carried out the research, you don’t need to be told again that all men are cheats by nature, but remember, not all men cheat, why? I am gradually coming to it.
APART FROM THEIR CHEATING NATURE WHAT ELSE COULD MAKE A MAN TO CHEAT?
This is another important question that you may be compelled to ask, which I am actually going to answer in steps or numbers.
Reason number one: if you are not his dream girl
A man may cheat on you if he only came to you to while away his time, while waiting to connect with his dream woman. Why must he do such? Majority of men find it so difficult to connect with their dream woman, but they really desire the company of a female, so most end up going for the woman below their dreams and desires just to kill their loneliness while waiting to connect with their dream woman, I know that this would sound unfair to you, but that’s the truth about men. So how do you know if you are his dream woman? Watch out for his characters and actions towards you, better still, you can get a copy of my comprehensive e-book: secret exposure for single ladies at lulu.com, for more explanations on this.
Reason number two: if he lacks self-control
Every man like I said earlier is unfaithful by nature, but the reasonable and good ones reject this abnormal nature by what we call, ‘self-control’. We all are humans, with blood running through our veins, we do, I do also, come across beautiful, sexy and attractive women, all I do is appreciate God and nature for making out time to design such wonders, and that’s it, I move on with my life and business. But when a man has no self-control, he freaks out at the sight of any beautiful looking woman, and he starts imagining the odd things about her; being with her in the same bed, kissing her lips, touching her good looking body, etc, and before you know it, he is craving to have her- the chase begins. Such a man is called, a freak, and entering into a relationship with him, will only hurt you day after day until he eventually changes, God alone knows when. Make the right choice, prevention is better than cure, test before you start trusting.
Reason number three: immaturity
Most men cheat because they are yet to attain emotional and spiritual maturity. Permit me to say that some men are boys. Boys love exploring, they enjoy glancing at pretty high school girls, etc, and they are always having a hard on. When a man is still a boy, he is out for anything in skirt. So what do you do? Avoid entering into a romantic relationship with boys if you are out for something serious that may lead to marriage.
Reason number four: selfish desires
Some men have particular selfish desires they want from women: abnormal sexual demand and competence, class, lifestyle, money, etc. such men will always cheat on their partners unless they change, and it is on rare cases that a woman changed a man’s attitude towards other women.
I shall stop here for now, until then, I wish you the best of luck in your relationship with men. Watch out for ‘why do men cheat, part two’ coming very soon!