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Ways We Torment Men...Unaware

Updated on September 9, 2014
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Ways We Torment Men…Unaware

There are some things women are simply never made aware of until perhaps it’s much too late, (and men are on the verge of an emotional breakdown that may start off as anger but quickly evolves to tears). There are things we simply do to torment our husbands or boyfriends, or male friends in general that we are simply unaware of. For one, take grocery shopping. I admittedly love when my husband goes grocery shopping with us. I think it makes things easier, since from my rationale, two heads are better than one when you didn’t take the time to create a shopping list and can’t remember what we need more of. Also, I can get the stuff he likes when he goes with us, since when people go shopping they usually have a one tracked mind, revolving around what they like to eat. And thirdly, his attendance prevents me from buying up the whole store. But whether you know it or not, not all men are cut out for this task and find it torturous.

Whether it is the annoyance of walking down long extended isles, full of the same product over and over again, packaged differently by brand, trying to avoid other baskets, running children, or isle blockage in general, or the time it takes a woman, who, let’s face it, makes long methodical decisions about everything she picks up and might possibly purchase, be it browsing the ingredients, the calories, the expiration date, the number of pieces inside the package, how quickly it cooks, is it microwaveable, will I need more ingredients to make it, is the price reasonable compared to the other packages, etc., etc… I don’t know… To a man: picture on package looks delish, I’m going to put it in the basket… That alone should detail the annoyance a man feels when grocery shopping with his woman. And in all honesty, my husband leaves every grocery store expedition we have ever had, upset…

Another thing women do to annoy men, I suppose goes hand in hand with nagging, or is a form of it. I can’t even explain why we do it. Have you ever asked your man to do something and then asked how he did it or had verifying questions to ensure he did it properly, or at least to your standards? For example: "Honey, can you feed the fish tonight?"


Then when he comes into the bedroom later on that night, "Did you feed the fish honey?"

"Yes dear."

"Did you give them the algae pellets or the tropical flakes."

"A little of both dear."

"Were they receptive, did they come to the top of the tank immediately?"

"Yes… I mean… I guess…I don’t know, I didn’t wait around to see."

"Did you turn on the Aqua light?"


"Was the filter still going strong."

By this time he’s livid with annoyance if not anger, I’d presume… thinking, you should have done this yourself if all the other little things were such a concern… And I can go on and on and on…Why we do it, I know not. Just a bad habit or a woman’s nature I suppose, but I’m sure you can see how this can be annoying.

Another way we annoy our men, not always aware is our little comments that we say humorously, but really mean. For example, you might call your man Oscar the Grouch on occasion when his monster can, I mean man cave gets messier than usual, even though we aren’t allowed as women to ease drop in…

On occasion you might refer to his feet as bear paws given the length and sharpicity (new word just invented by me just now to exude extreme sharpness bordering on dangerous) of his toe nails. Why is it annoying to the point of tormenting? Because the truth is, this is him, you may have discovered it after the honeymoon was over, but it’s known, he knows it, and you know it, so why bring it up at all, right?

Eventually he’ll clean up the man cave, maybe when he has Grover, Elmo, Big Bird or another man visit and eventually he’ll cut those bear paws down to size after he has cut up your legs to bleeding during play fighting or coitus, whichever comes first. (Guess we’re both annoyed on that one, which should make it okay to torment, unaware or not…) I’m sure the list goes on. Thus, to summarize how we annoy men unaware, and to provide some solutions:

When grocery shopping with a man, K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid). If we adopt the same thought process: that the picture looks good enough to eat on the package and pick it up, we could have a shorter trip. Sure, you can’t do that with all products with the way we think, but try it out, live a little, you might be pleasantly surprised. The simple truth is we aren’t disarming a bomb and we aren’t making a life altering decision, its groceries, get it and go.

Ask your man to do something and trust that he will do it, even if he’s skimped in the past or did something wrong from your eye view. Just either provide implicit instructions or catch him later in a lie, because the truth always rears its ugly head, then you can give him a spanking and put him on time out.

If you know the nature of the beast why comment on it? Tell him his boy Snuffleupagus is coming over and that he cut your leg up last night with his bear paws, while cuttin’ it up. Whatever is clever!

Comments welcome…


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      Elaine Flowers 3 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Voted up and funny!

      Oh, my goodness! All this time I had no idea I was being annoying and not helpful.

      I loved the fish story...

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      Robert E Smith 3 years ago from Rochester, New York

      I saw some things that happen in marriage and other relationships. It is just a matter of watching what you say, or not allowing something said to bother you. Much of anger and irritation is simply not allowing irritants to irritate. I know when fatigue or distraction is in the air it is easy to respond to these type of interactions but if an honest effort is made to get along, it makes things so much easier. Reminding myself that this is the love of my life being irritating helps me to just disregard the irritations and just love her. Bob.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      I loved the gold fish inquisition, the poor chap. :) However, I'm not sure about the spanking, he'll probably enjoy it far too much. Thank you for the smile.

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      Yoleen Lucas 3 years ago from Big Island of Hawaii

      I would not inflict shopping on my man!

      My ex-sister in law was like that. You'd think she'd know what to buy, since grocery shopping is a regular chore. But every time she went, she'd spend an hour or more comparing brands! It drove me nuts - and I'm a woman!

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      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      Voted up and interesting!

      Shopping together is something most men do not enjoy with their wives. Men primarily want to get in and get out with just the products they have on their list. Women tend to want to look around at other things in the store stretching what should have been a 15-20 minute trip into an hour or more.

      A lot of women also have this habit of talking down to their men as if their man was a child and doesn't know how to do anything. Meaning the way (she) wants things. It's very insulting to say the least and often reminds them of their (mother). Not many guys want a second mother! Not sexy at all.

      The worst shopping experiences are in a department stores. The three words most men dread hearing their wives say are: "Hold my purse." :)

      Usually there is a group of men congregated in the waiting area waiting for their wives to come out the dressing room to ask their opinion about a dress, pants, or whatever. No matter what the man says the wife goes with the opposite thought. If says he likes it then she doesn't and so on.

      Very interesting topic! Not long ago I wrote something along the same lines.


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