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We Must Act Like Ladies, But Think Like Men

Updated on September 16, 2011

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. “Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes. Charles R Swindoll-

Looking back over my life I remember the days when women where real ladies. They stood with their heads held high, kept their personal business to themselves, dressed in the manner in which men had to imagine what they looked like underneath and most of all never embarrassed themselves with foolishness such as barely dressing, partying with their children friends, proudly sleeping around with married men and fighting with the wives of the married men, etc.etc.. My grandparents called these types of women "loosed women" and believe me they stuck out like sore thumbs back in the day. They where like black plagues and everyone ran for the hills when they came around. Wives pulled their husbands closer, children where sent either inside the house or to another area as if the loose woman had some type of stench that would infect the innocent ones. Well, now that I am older and much wiser....I now know better. The stench was not in their smell, it was in their attitude and these days the stench lingers long after the loose woman has gone. The reason being her attitude about life leaves no respect for herself nor others.

Her mouth is full of vulgarities and her body diseases, some known and unknown; but the deadliest one is lurking-w aiting patiently for when she least expects it; but that's another day, another story. The point I am trying to make is this: Ladies, we need to get back to being ladies. We need to respect ourselves and become someone our daughters and other girls can look up to. We need to get to the business of mentoring our girls by being positive role models. Stop teaching them how to ruin some one's marriage, having their bodies on public display and most of all please teach them to think like men. If you haven't noticed men do not fall in love easily. They are very disciplined when it comes to the matters of the heart. Another quality men possess that women need to incorporate is the art of accurately communicating. Men communicate without the drama and I understand why. Drama, tangles the lines of communication; but once again that's another day, another story. Being a female I was once myself filled with "drama," but one day it became too hectic.

That day instead of arguing.....I listened . Instead of accusing.....I asked . Instead of being needy....I gave. Instead of walking out.....I stayed. By removing the drama from my life, I found peace. I found me. Things became clearer with my freed mind therefore I freed myself. I do not fall in love easily and now I leave my options open in getting to know a person. By doing this, I no longer live under the pressure of having someone to love. I love myself. I no longer seek love at all cost. We all as women have lost our way at some point and it was due from heartbreak. When I think of a loose woman, I compare her to the lesser of two evils, love and hate- with her being hate . It's not that she's only hated by others; but she hates herself more than anyone else ever could. She's the product of bad love. As with anything else: love itself can be bad because it's a form of deception used to break another person down and this is exactly what a loose woman is- broken .

She tries to find another love to replace the love she lost. We all have encountered a broken woman whether she's a stranger on the street, a family member, a best friend or she's the woman looking back at you in the mirror.Therefore, we as women must come together in support of one another; because there are far too many of us losing our way and it's spilling over to the younger generation of women. We must teach our young women their true worth. Make them understand we are jewels in the crowns of men even if they don't know it. We must teach them to stop answering to the names of b*t*c*h*e* and w*o*e*s, as well as calling one another those names. Stop giving men the upper hand in the games they play with us. Stop letting this world tell us we are nothing more than marinaded slabs of meat on the market to be sold to the highest bidder. Sex slaves to be traded like worn out shoes. Let them know they are not alone. Tell your story so they can be inspired enough to rise from the ashes of their shame and become women of greatness.

We are women and we are beautiful! God Bless....


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    • SweetMocha-Monroe profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank you.

    • breakfastpop profile image


      8 years ago

      Fabulous and wise hub. Let your words reach women everywhere.

    • SweetMocha-Monroe profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank you for reading.

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      8 years ago from carthage ill

      super amazing hub thoughts glad I read thanks


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