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Which Comes First the Dog or Baby
What Comes First
The decision to get a dog or have a baby should be discussed before you get married. There are some people that think having a dog is just to much work with the feeding, walking and not to mention the expense. Those very people might have the same feelings when it comes to having a baby. They don't want to be bogged down with the responsibilities that children require or being constricted in their lifestyle.The idea of having children or dogs can be a deal breaker for some. You want to get it out in conversation so your view is known ahead of time. You want no surprises after you're married.
Mason Showing FashionClick thumbnail to view full-size
Dogs Are Like Children
Dogs are like children in so many ways. The emotional traits that dogs have like people are they hurt, cry when in pain, they exhibit happiness and give you unconditional love.You can dress them in the latest fashions to take them on a walk. A dogs actions can be amusing and funny just by them being themselves. There are many breeds with each having their own characteristics. People like mating different breeds to make what is called "designer dogs". An example a Affenpinscher and a Poodle to produce Affenpoo. The biggest difference between dogs and children is that dogs can't talk or express themselves in any form.
The dogs pictured are GG who is 12 and Mason 5 years old. They are shih Tzu's which means little lion, and years ago they where the dogs kept by Chinese royalty. They are like sibling fighting over toys and hiding things from each other. They are called lap dogs because basically that's all they want to do is sit on your lap and be rubbed. They thrive on attention from their owners..
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Dogs Are Expensive
The expense of keeping a dog healthy can be overwhelming. They require shots on a yearly basis to fight diesases, and monthly heartworm and flea and tick medicine. Their doctor's visit can easily cost a hundred dollars or more. There are times when the veternarian will help with the cost of medicine by telling you what human medicine is safe to give to your dog. My vet has told be about Benadryl for allergies and Pepto Bismal for upset stomach, If your dog needs dental care that expense can run you over five hunded dollars.
They also require grooming to look good but more important it helps keep them in good health. Grooming is a great expensive because it should occur every 4-6 weeks which adds up over time. You can groom your dog yourself to help with the expense which is what a lot of people do.
Children A Needed Discussion
Children are all different in looks and temperament. They show the emotions of crying when in pain, they exhibit happiness and most give unconditional love. They are amusing and the funniest when they are not trying to be. The needs of children can be overwhelming to new parents. The expense that is required to raise children can stretch the budget of any new parents. The medical expense for shots and illnesses can add up as the years go by. There is the clothing expense which seems to grow as they do. Children from birth to adulthood is an expense that some parents are ill prepared for especially if they are un expected.
Dogs and Children The Comparison
The comparison between dogs and children is unbelievable because of so many similarities. The conversation of having a dog or/an children is a conversation that truly needs to take place. The attention they both require will take away time from you and your partner. Dogs and children both need attention, both will have a medical expense and the both need guidance until they reach a certain age.
When you introduce them into the family you need to be at a place where you can devote the time, attention and love they both require. You want to have a happy child as well as a happy dog. The solution might be to either have a dog or child not both at the same time. There are many people that might think it's a no brainier have the child and forget the dog. What they don't undestand is not every couple should or needs to have children. There are couples who have lifestyles that don't allow for kids or they just don't want to,make the huge sacrifice. These couples having a dog is as close to a child is as they want to get. Dogs have no issues with fitting in, expectations or needing the level of attention that children need. Dogs in a lot of ways are less trouble in the long run than children, I hope you see how important this conversation is before marriage. Don't assume one way or another that you know what the other person wants.