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Marriage and Men

Updated on May 10, 2009

What do Men generally want out of marriage?

Ask any woman and they will say SEX.  All a man wants from his wife is SEX.  SEX in the morning, SEX in the afternoon, SEX at night, SEX in the middle of the night. 

From my experience it is not just sex. I really do believe that men want companionship and somebody to be their number one fan and admire them and support them in all they do. Most men want children so that they can have their family line continue, and so that they can feel that there was a purpose to life.

They want a warm bed and a warm meal at night. They want to be loved and appreciated. I suppose you can say that they can get that without being married. But, if they get married, then they are looking for commitment, because if you are committed to them, then they feel that they have the freedom to be themselves around you. If it is just a live together relationship without marriage, then they still have to hide some of their flaws from you as you could walk at any time.

If a man marries you, he wants a life partner, someone to share his interests with.  Someone to get up with him at 2am in the morning when there is some great sport on TV.  Someone to give him a beer when he's in the hot sun mowing the lawn.  Someone to tell him they love him and he looks great even if he's wearing a hideous Hawaiian shirt that bearly covers his paunch.  They do not want someone to ask them to justify their every move.  A man likes a bit of space, so avoid nagging.  He'll get round to doing things when he's ready and thought about it enough.

So, to sum up, marriage for a man is regular sex so that they don't have to impress others, a way where they can be themselves, procreate to carry on their line, have someone to share their interests with and bring them a cold beer.  Oh, and for the occasional bit of rumpy bumpy.  Oops, did I say that already?


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    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      8 years ago from Cape Town

      Jamaica Weddings, it does vary from individual to individual. I still think that many people marry because they are in love with the idea of being in love, and when they get to know their life partner they're not the person they imagined.

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks for dropping by Sbeakr! Maybe your ex hasn't come to terms with his issues himself?

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      9 years ago

      'If it is just a live together relationship without marriage, then they still have to hide some of their flaws from you as you could walk at any time.'

      Ah, my even now ex-husband STILL hides his issues, which might indicate he doesn't really believe in the 'unconditional love' he claims to.

      This hub/answer was light and heart-warming...really nice!

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Motherhubber, we want to keep our men happy so that they look after us. Isn't that what we were taught to believe?

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      9 years ago from Southern California

      Cindy, thanks for the advice! I like to hear people's take on the topic. I think I have a general idea of the things my own husband wants out of the deal, but sometimes you need a reminder from an unbiased party.

      Tom, the football is a given! But what else. . .???

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Yeah, sorry, forgot about that! Men also want a best buddy to watch football with, and someone who understands that it's not a good idea to want a conversaton or ask them to do something when the football is on!

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      Tom Cornett 

      9 years ago from Ohio

      I want all the stuff you said and football on Sundays! Thanks!


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