What Do you have in Common with your Partner
Have anything common in your marriage?
Marriage and Compromise
How much do you have in common with your partner?
Sometimes you can feel like you are married to a stranger. Marriages don't always turn out the way you expected.
The high expectation of a marriage can leave you with an empty heart.
Obey your husband and keep quiet.
Why do you need to be silent and let him have his word?
It takes two people to work at their marriage and to respect each other.
The marriage won't work out if one of you respects the other, while the other has to take your nonsense and is disrespected.
The feeling of walking on egg shells when with your partner is not a marriage. You too need to feel needed and with respect.
Feel comfortable around your partner.
When the door opens you walk in expecting too much for yourself. Marriage is a way of life.
A young woman was afraid of her husband. When the front door opened her heart jumped from its place. He walked toward her and starred in her face.
The heavy breathing made the woman feel insecure about his next move toward her.
She remained calm and pretended to be fine, and she starred down at the floor. Eye contact was too scary for her.
He did not have the need for her anymore and decided to sleep in the next room.
Does this mean she has failed her man as a wife?
The woman did not utter a word. The first night of their marriage and he decides to sleep in another room. He wants to treat his wife as a wife and not as a prostitute.
The different mindset here of the man is to not spend the first night of intimacy on the first night of marriage.
The next morning the young woman made herself ready to make breakfast, and to her surprise her husband was there making breakfast.
He made breakfast and served her letting her know she is not a slave but his wife. Little by little she opened up with her husband.
Small discussions got them talking more about each other.
She was afraid to open up at first to her husband. The lack of confidence made her feel this way.
Her mother obeyed her father and did not speak up that had a hold on her life for a long time. The life her mother experienced led to this issue in her marriage.
He didn't want his wife to feel as a stranger in their marriage. To take his permission if he needed to go out with friends that did not fit in with him. As a husband he wanted his wife to have her freedom too.
The woman's childhood memories of her mother and father led her to this strange thoughts in her marriage.
In this case, the husband is trying to teach his wife how to live.
What her parents taught her were little learning experiences from their generation.The past had to stay there and she had to do that for herself.
The man she married tried his best to make her feel calm and relaxed.
Her parents married her off to a stranger but he no longer felt as that stranger. They dragged each other to bed and consummated their marriage. After four months of marriage finally their marriage felt great.
She had fallen in love with a stranger deeply and promised to be there, for always.
In traditional times the first night of a marriage is to understand each other. Lots have changed and not many follow traditions anymore.
I see it a different way.
It depends on the kind of marriage you want to sign into for your long term relationship. If you want a sexual partner without falling in love with that person then you can have that.
When you choose to marry for love and want to be with that person for love then you can have that kind of marriage.
You can't live your marriage without love in a happy way. The many conflicts you share will ruin you.
In this manner you exist separately and not together forever. A couple can grow to hurt each other emotionally, physically and psychologically.
They nag each other, become possessive, violent, oppressive, dominating, and aggressive.
Everybody marries a stranger you don't know your partner right away. It takes forever to get to know what's going on in their minds. Married at first sight is challenging.
How well do they know each other?
What do you have in common with your partner in your marriage?
Life in a marriage all looks nice when you first meet and going through the honeymoon phase. It may feel overwhelming at first but along the way you lose each other to someone else.
If you don't lose your partner to someone else you become detached from each other. You tend to lose interest without you even realizing it.
Whether drew you apart from together eventually is not there anymore. You lose focus of your personal lives and that leads you astray.
Anything you once had in common you don't see happening in your marriage. The spark is lost and parenting is the only common aspect that is keeping you two together.
A couple married for thirty years and they basically existed. The wife became lonely. Two people held on in their marriage to show others they are still together but, they were not happy.
He had an affair and that experience allowed for them to grow apart. She was hurt emotionally and carried on with her life but without the husband.
You need to do something for yourself and don't waste your life with someone like that. Most people who cheat don't change. If they do change you will not trust so easily again.
Staying together with your partner because of a nice house and that you feel age is a problem you must be joking right!
Why would you feel the need to live that way?
Don't live together because something or someone is keeping you together.
You don't need to become depressed, angry and alone for your the sake of your partner. It is easy for you to feel unloved, unneeded, unwanted, but you don't have to go down that lane.
Two people change in their marriage after twenty years together and notice they have nothing in common after five years into that marriage. Finally, these people want to know what is missing in your life.
Do you know what is best for you and your partner?
When did you find out what is best for you in the marriage?
You don't always find a couple with everything in common and still love each other. The idea is to embrace each other's interests. Respect each other's hobbies and be there for each other.
Life is better and interesting if you compromise. Whether you have nothing in common or something in common in your marriage finding love allows you to share your interests.
A marriage is challenging do it if you are up for it and can take on a commitment.
It's easy to love one another but are you willing to take the plunge to marry your lifelong partner?
To share common interests with your partner learn more about each other's needs and hobbies. Don't neglect the fact that you can't hold on to only that part of your life in your marriage. There are lots more you can do than to dwell on sharing the same interests.
Do you need to have everything in common to enjoy your life together in a marriage?
Marriage and happiness
Would you stay in an unhappy marriage?
Marriage is challening
© 2016 Devika Primić