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What does Friendliness mean to you

Updated on November 1, 2017
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Be friendly with your enemies


What is Friendliness?

The friendly person welcomes you into their homes and hearts and treats you as one and the same.

You share your life with that person.

When you feel lonely you have this person in your life to share your interests and belongings with each other.

You get to share your friendliness with that person.

· How do you feel when you practice Friendliness?

Once you get the hang of it, you will see how good it will make you feel.

Friendliness starts from day one of meeting someone.

As you get to spend time together you see the kindness of the other person.

Friendliness is not about expecting anything in return from the other person.

The friendly habit kicks in, and you realize how much friendliness matters to you without great expectations.

You feel content with yourself.

Others feel friendly toward you.

When new to a group you feel the awkward moment and look around you with despair.

Your first day at school, be it at kindergarten, or high school, these are experiences that can make you feel alone and put in a corner.

People feel happy and good about themselves when in a conversation and, especially after breaking the ice.

The first words spoken set you free.

Your first day at work can make you a nervous wreck.

The little conversations shows the friendliness in the other person and that continues if you let that happen for you.

If you start being friendly toward someone you don't like, or is not your favorite person. That person won't believe what has happened to you.

They will be cautious and look at you with an opened mouth.

You need to be sincere and have true meaning in your friendliness toward that person. They will open up to you when they feel your true emotions.

You conquer loneliness, the feeling of inadequacy, and shyness when you are open to friendliness.

As a child, I was shy and that held me back from speaking to people.

I had one very good friend at school, and others were friendly but I preferred the one friend I had.

I developed the courage to speak up and to approach other children.

Often I watched others while they laughed and danced at school parties

The need a change at some point in my life and that happened at my first year of college.

I met new people and enjoyed myself more and with new people.

I still had my one friend. The idea of meeting new people was to show my friendliness to others too.

I felt more outgoing and happier.

I prefer to be smiley, friendly, happy, encouraging, positive, confident, close to good people, and to embrace each day with an open mind.

I didn't want to miss out on the good times with friends in college. I approached others in a positive manner.

I decided to speak first, to be courageous, and comfortable with people.

I didn't want to think of how awkward I will feel approaching others.

I showed interest in others not thinking of how they will react toward me.

The sweet an short conversations opened up my voice and I was heard.

Force is not needed to show friendliness.

I focused on the other person.

I remained calm.

Eye contact is good for both individuals.

I had to show I am interested in their conversations.

I learned to be friendly with all ages.

It brightens up my day to be friendly with all ages.

I don't wait for the other person to be friendly at first. I am usually the first one who speaks first.

I make the effort.

I avoid sarcasm and prefer using kind words and to elaborate on conversations.

If I use sarcasm it will make the friendliness disappear.

Short answers are not my style of friendliness.

I connect easily with people I meet daily.

To be friendly you must be faithful.

Look forward to meeting people and make new friends easily.

Enjoy the company of others.

Say hello to your neighbors.

Don't only look to your own interests.

Also pay attention to the interests of others.

Your treasure is your faithful friend.

Grow stronger and be positive in your mind and with others.

Friendliness shows happiness and peace.

Spread the love and be happy with life.

Friendliness comes from the heart.

You can talk to your family about friendliness and to anyone you know but, you won't know what friendliness is, unless you show it from within to another person.

You can be successful with friendliness.

The qualities you share develop the truth in your life about friendliness.

The constant care you have over yourself and what you have manifested in your life shows for your friendliness.

For example:






Good manners.







Personal experiences.


Spiritual virtues.



You become stronger than you really are with friendliness and positive minds.

· What makes you want be friendly?

· What do you benefit from friendliness?

· Are you that faithful friend?

Everybody needs to be warm and friendly.

Some people are only friendly if they need a favor from you.

Others are friendly because they are born with a warm soul.

Your basic desires come from your character which is based on your family traits.

You need to be friendly with people to show your good side and that you are not as they are.

Sometimes friendliness can ruin friendships.

You are the friendly one and your friend is not.

Conversations can lead to wrong directions. You can be supportive and also aggressive in your conversations.

No need to be unpleasant.

Different people view friendliness in different ways as in the following ways:

· What is Obsequiousness?

When someone is very friendly they are described as obsequious, and sometimes as fawning.

Such types will always say, ‘‘Yes,'' and impress others.

These people don't challenge the wrongful behavior to those they impress.

Friendly people care and speak up when something is not right.

· What is Churlishness?

People who are unfriendly are Churlish and are sometimes called contentious individuals.

These people don't agree with anything you have to say to them.

They don't have anything good to talk about anyone.

They are unpleasant to be with and hurt the feelings of others easily.

Churlish people look forward to a challenge and are up for a challenge at anytime, or place.

These types of people are not happy people.

Their behaviors show for it.

Don't use your friendliness to use friends that won't take you anywhere nice.

· Do you think friendliness is a sign of weakness?

· Is friendliness an attempt to use, or please others?

· Can you make a different with friendliness?

Friendliness makes you feel better than the angry person.

You discover new people and ideas.

Opportunities are not missed.

Some people can be most difficult and with your willpower you can take on that challenge with respect.

Treat others with respect and care for others too.

Your friendly behavior shows your personality to other people in a different manner.

Happiness is felt in your good deeds.

If you are friendly with people in hope of them returning the favor that to me is selfish.

To be true and friendly to another person you must express that from the heart not from what you want for yourself, or of what you will gain from it.

When you show your friendliness in a truthful way you tend to be with same types.

Everything in life is a challenge you just got to do what makes you happy.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for comments always appreciated.

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      Patricia Scott 19 months ago from sunny Florida

      The photo is adorable that opens this hub. What a perfect way to demonstrate friendliness. We can all treasure a really special friend. They help us to stay grounded and focused.

      Well said.

      Once again Angels are on the way to you ps

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Larry Rankin thank you kindly for commenting at my hubs. I appreciate your efforts.

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      Larry Rankin 19 months ago from Oklahoma

      Very interesting perspective.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Perspycacious thank you kindly for sharing your comment. A topic sometimes ignored.

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      Demas W Jasper 19 months ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      You are making good progress and this Hub shows it.

      Friends are careful not to shut others out from the friendship they share.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Nadine May, having you on my list of friends has shown me your kind effort in commenting on my hubs.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi aviannovice nice to have read your comment it's is a pleasure to have you on my list of friends thank you

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      Nadine May 20 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      A very nice hub DDE. I understand that the people around us are like a mirror. They reflect who we are. That is why I want to learn what my friends their interests are in order to inspired them. I like to get that from my friends so I return this in order to support each other. That is why commenting on Hubpages is so important. Sometimes longstanding friends move on, or you have moved on, so they are not in our reality anymore. That is OK as well. Glad you are my H writer friend!

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      Deb Hirt 20 months ago from Stillwater, OK

      I am shy by nature, but making a little effort will usually see you through with the more outgoing people. Then it makes it so much easier to speak with the shier people, too. Great topic!

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Chitrangada Sharan Thank you very much for sharing an encouraging comment always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sgbrown Thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko, You answered so well! A thoughtful comment from you and with great encouragement. I appreciate you taking the time to share your wonderful thoughts here. Cheers my friend! Thank you!

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Mel Carriere I agree with you and thank you for sharing that.

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      Nithya Venkat 20 months ago from Dubai

      A great hub about friendliness and what it means. Being friendly we reach out to one another and make this world a better place.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 20 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Great hub!

      You have described friendliness in a very appropriate manner.

      I am a very friendly person by nature. Fortunately I have many good friends. By good I mean who are sincere, trustworthy and do not become friends to take advantage.

      As usual a very well written and insightful hub! Thanks!

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      Sheila Brown 20 months ago from Southern Oklahoma

      I try to be friendly to everyone I meet. It is a matter of respect and good manners. Just being friendly to someone can change their attitude and improve their day.

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      Shyron E Shenko 20 months ago from Texas

      Devika, wonderful questions here and yes I know what churlish means. I have met enough churlish people in life time.

      Do I think friendliness is a sign of weakness? No, absolutely not a sign of weakness it is a sign of courage.

      Is friendliness an attempt to use, or please others? No, friendliness show that you/I have a good up-bringing and manners and that we care about our fellow man/woman.

      Can you make a different with friendliness? Yes, how you make others feel can make a difference.

      Blessings always.

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      Mel Carriere 20 months ago from San Diego California

      I think the ideal friend is one who will tell the truth, even if it hurts. Great hub!

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Venkatachari M thank you very much for sharing your opinion on this important topic. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi AliciaC Thank you for commenting. Always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi rajan jolly Thank you for commenting. Good point mentioned.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi always exploring, thank you very much for stopping by. Friendliness is important though sometimes it can most difficult to be with certain types.

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      Devika Primić 20 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello FlourishAnyway Thank you for commenting. Friendliness should be honest from within. I so agree with you!

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      Venkatachari M 20 months ago from Hyderabad, India

      It's a very good topic here, Devika. You have described the essence of true friendliness in full details. I always try to be friendly with all types of people. But, I don't like deceit or cunning mentality of people. I try to avoid such people. But, I always remain helpful to others.

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      Linda Crampton 20 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You've included a lot of good points about friendliness in this hub, Devika. Friendships are important in life. A good friend can be a wonderful companion.

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      Bill Holland 20 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I have always tried to be friendly and respectful of everyone I meet....that seems, to me, to be the minimum we should expect of everyone. Love the message here.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 20 months ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Though I'm friendly I avoid people who try to be friends to take advantage at a later date. For the same reason I avoid being friends with mean and spiteful people.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 20 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I always try to be friendly with new people I meet. Sometimes we become good friends, sometimes not. I would rather have one or two close friends that I can trust than a bevy of people I'm unsure of. Interesting topic DDE. Well done!!

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      FlourishAnyway 20 months ago from USA

      I'm friendly for an introvert and have always gotten along well with folks, but I no longer invest my my time and resources in being friendly towards mean and spiteful bully types, enemies basically. You run into them on occasion. I just don't have time for their emotional baggage.