What I Learned About Great Romantic Relationships
The Different Styles of Love
I believe that romantic love is the source of the most intense light that life has to offer.
It is easy to fall in love.
Myths still exist about the nature of Romantic love.
The Three Beneficial Common Misconceptions about Romantic Love
Love can only be experienced in a heterosexual relationship.
Romantic beliefs are similar in all historical periods.
All cultures view love in the same way.
True romantic love is exclusively heterosexual.
Historical beliefs about romance are unchanging.
Another common misconception about love, it has an unchanging nature, from one historical epoch to another.
Westernized people do believe that love can be found in all recorded time periods.
Cultural views of romance are unchanging.
Most people view love as a positive experience, and others view love as a down side of their culture, for example Chinese are pessimistic about romantic love.
To them Love is looked at as sadness sorrow and pain.
I say there is only one happiness in life that is to love and be loved.
Initial Romantic Encounters are often Ambiguous
Although cultural differences exist concerning the nature of romantic love, one quality of romance is universal.
When two people who are potential romantic partners meet for the first time their social reality is often ambiguous one of them develop an interest in the other without knowing whether it will be reciprocated.
The Distress of Unrequited Love
Loving someone who doesn't love you or being loved but not returning the love occurs much more frequently than reciprocated love.
It not surprising that people with an anxious-ambivalent attachment style are the most likely to be the victims of Unrequited Love.
If you love someone who doesn't love you back is like shaking a tree to make the dewdrops fall.
If you have no love how can there be any pleasures in your life?
Different Types of Romantic Love
What does Love feel like?
How do you experience love?
The seven distinct kinds of love made up of different combinations and proportions of these components.
An experience of intimacy without passion and commitment, more of a friendship.
Here you have passion without intimacy and commitment something called puppy love.
A commitment without passion and intimacy, just like stagnant marriage.
One experiences passion and intimacy but without commitment, as the extramarital affairs.
A love about intimacy and commitment but without passion.
For example, many long-term happy marriages.
Passion and commitment without intimacy love at first sight gives you that experience.
Intimacy, passion, and commitment good luck on this one!
The Three Primary Styles of Love
These are added to the liking of three primary colors, of red, blue and yellow.
The Three Primary Styles of love can be combined with the Secondary Love Styles
Pragmatic love which contains storge and ludus elements.
Possessive love, which is a compound of eros, ludus and agape, an altruistic love which combines elements of eros and storge.
All of the different love styles are equally valid ways of loving and thus one can have a relationship that is tense and passionate, eros. Something that develops or that starts as a friendship and slowly leads to a lasting commitment, Storge.
People can experience many different kinds of love during their lives.
Six Basic Styles of Love
An immediate attraction to one another, after your first meeting.
Lovemaking is intense and satisfying
Your lover fits the ideal standards of physical beauty and handsomeness.
Try to keep your lover a little uncertain about your commitment to them.
Sometimes you had to keep two lovers from finding out about each other.
You enjoy playing the game of love, with many different partners.
It is hard to say when you and your lover will fall in love, as your friendship merged gradually into love.
Love is really a deep friendship not a mysterious mystical emotion.
The most satisfying love relationships have developed from good friendships.
You consider what a person is going to become in life before committing yourself to them.
In pragmatic you try to plan your life carefully before choosing a lover.
A main consideration in choosing a lover is how your partner reflects on your family.
Sometimes you get so excited about being in love that you can't sleep.
When you are in love the individual has problems thinking of anything else.
If your lover ignores you for a while you sometimes do stupid things to get their attention.
You would rather suffer yourself than to let your lover suffer.
It is not your place to be happy before your lover has found happiness.
You would endure all things for the sake of your lover.
Passionate Love is Most Intense Early in a Relationship
It is the last and first thing on your mind. A state of intense longing for union with another.
A type of love that one feels with their bodies a warm tingling, body rush, stomach-in-a-knot kind of love.
Passionate love is experienced most intensely during the first romantic encounters, due to a rather interesting transference of arousal from one stimulus to another.
Most Individuals don't believe in love until they have their first attack.
Companionate Love is more stable and enduring than Passionate Love.
A kind of love that exists between lovers, and close friends. It develops out of a sense of certainty, in one another's love and respect, and a feeling of genuine mutual understanding.
The other difference between Passionate Love and Companionate love is the beliefs that one has about their partner.
In the early stages of romantic relationships, when passions run high lovers tend to see their partners, through arose colored glasses. Their partners are just perfect, the ideal partner for you, a dream come true. As passion fades couples develop.
Companionate Love based on mutual understanding this idealization of one beloved often gives way to a more realistic view.
Companionate Love is more reality based love, successful and happy romantic partners are those who tend to see each other's imperfections in the best possible light.
Love and relationships can be challenging but it also depends on what you really searching for in life.
A relationship can work out if you grow old together in experiencing life's great adventures. You can break up once you realize that the understanding of one another is not working out.
If you are not on the same page things can become stressful. The lack of confidence can make you feel lonely or disappointed.
If you are looking for a romantic relationship you will get what you deserve.
Love is important in every relationship without love you don't have much.
One can only have what they choose and if you don't choose correctly life can be more than complicated. Not every choice can be the right one, so don't look at yourself as a failure just don't give up on trying for love.
Finding love in the different styles is not easy. May be you already have love in some of the above styles as I have mentioned,
If you can hold on to love you are lucky to have it be happy, appreciate love and happiness.
Do you think Love is worth waiting for?
How many of you are still waiting to share your love with someone special?
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© 2013 Devika Primić