What I Learned About Great Romantic Relationships

I believe that romantic love is the source of the most intense light that life has to offer.

• It is easy to fall in love.
• Myths still exist like Romantic love.
• The three beneficial common misconceptions about romantic Love.
• Love can only be experienced in a heterosexual relationship.
• Romantic beliefs are similar in all historical periods. All cultures view love in the same way.

Myth One

True romantic love is exclusively heterosexual.

Myth Two

Historical beliefs about romance are unchanging. Another common misconception about love, it has an unchanging nature, from one historical epoch to another. Westernized people do believe that love can be found in all recorded time periods.

Myth Three

Cultural views of romance are unchanging.

Most people view love as a positive experience, and others view love as a downside of their culture, for example, the Chinese are pessimistic about romantic love.

What I Learned About Great Romantic Relationships

To them, Love is looked at as sadness, sorrow and pain. I say there is only one happiness in life which is to love and be loved.

Initial romantic encounters are often Ambiguous

Although cultural differences exist concerning the nature of romantic love, one quality of romance is universal.

Two people who are potential romantic partners meet for the first time.

Their social reality is often ambiguous; one of them develops an interest in the other without knowing whether it will be reciprocated.

• The Distress of unrequited Love

Loving someone who doesn't love you or being loved, but not returning the love occurs much more frequently than reciprocated love.

It is not surprising that people with an anxious-ambivalent attachment style are the most likely to be the victims of Unrequited Love.

If you love someone who doesn't love you back is like shaking a tree to make the dew drops fall.

If you have no love, how can there be any pleasures in your life?

Different Types of Romantic Love

What does Love feel like?

How do you experience love?

The seven distinct kinds of love are made up of different combinations and proportions of these components.

Liking

An experience of intimacy without passion and commitment, more of a friendship.

Infatuated love

Here you have passion without intimacy and commitment, something called puppy love.

Empty love

A commitment without passion and intimacy is just like a stagnant marriage.

Romantic love

One experiences, passion and intimacy, but without commitment, as extramarital affairs.

Companionate love

A love about intimacy and commitment, but without passion.

For example, many long-term happy marriages.

Fatuous love

Passion and commitment without intimacy, love, at first sight, give you that experience.

Consummate love

Intimacy, passion, and commitment good luck on this one!

Three Primary Styles of Love

Eros

Passionate love

Ludus

Game-playing love

Storge

Friendship, love

These are added to the liking of three primary colours, red, blue and yellow. Parents love for children.

The Three Primary Styles of love can be combined with the Secondary Love Styles

Pragma

Pragmatic love contains storge and ludus elements.

Mania

Possessive love, which is a compound of eros, ludus and agape, is an altruistic love that combines elements of eros and storge.

The different love styles are equally valid ways of loving and thus one can have a relationship that is tense and passionate, eros.

Something that develops or that starts as a friendship and slowly leads to a lasting commitment, Storge. People can experience many different kinds of love during their lives.

• Six Basic Styles of Love

Eros

An immediate attraction to one another, after your first meeting. Lovemaking is intense and satisfying. Your lover fits the ideal standards of physical beauty and handsomeness.

Ludus

Try to keep your lover a little uncertain about your commitment to them. Sometimes you had to keep two lovers from finding out about each other. You enjoy playing the game of love, with many different partners.

Storge

It is hard to say when you and your lover will fall in love, as your friendship merges gradually into love.

Love is a deep friendship, not a mysterious mystical emotion. The most satisfying love relationships have developed from good friendships.

Pragma

You consider what a person is going to become in life before committing yourself to them.

In pragmatism, you try to plan your life carefully before choosing a lover.

The main consideration in choosing a lover is how your partner reflects on your family.

Mania

Sometimes you get so excited about being in love that you can't sleep. When you are in love the individual has problems thinking of anything else. If your lover ignores you for a while, you sometimes do stupid things to get their attention.

Agape

You would rather suffer yourself than let your lover suffer. It is not your place to be happy before your lover has found happiness.

You would endure all things for the sake of your love.

Passionate Love is Most Intense Early in a Relationship

It is the last and first thing on your mind. A state of intense longing for union with another. A type of love that one feels with their body is a warm tingling, body rush, stomach-in-a-knot kind of love.

Passionate love is experienced most intensely during the first romantic encounters, due to a rather interesting transference of arousal from one stimulus to another. Most individuals don't believe in love until they have their first attack.

Companionate Love is more stable and enduring than Passionate Love. A kind of love that exists between lovers, and close friends.

It develops out of a sense of certainty, in one another's love and respect, and a feeling of genuine mutual understanding.

The other difference between Passionate Love and Companion-ate love is the beliefs that one has about their partner.

In the early stages of romantic relationships, when passions run high lovers tend to see their partners, through rose-coloured glasses.

Their partners are just perfect, the ideal partner for you, a dream come true. As passion fades couples develop.

Companionate Love is based on mutual understanding this idealization of one beloved often gives way to a more realistic view.

Companionate Love is more reality-based love, successful and happy, romantic partners are those who tend to see each other's imperfections in the best possible light.

Love and relationships can be challenging, but it also depends on what you are really searching for in life.

A relationship can work out if you grow old together in experience life's great adventures.

You can break up once you realize that the understanding of one another is not working out. If you are not on the same page things can become stressful. The lack of confidence can make you feel lonely or disappointed.

If you are looking for a romantic relationship you will get what you deserve. Love is important in every relationship without love, you don't have much.

One can only have what one chooses and if you don't choose correctly life can be more than complicated.

Not every choice can be the right one, don't look at yourself as a failure just don't give up on trying to love.

Finding love in different styles is not easy. Maybe you already have love in some of the above styles as mentioned, if you can hold on to love you are lucky to have it be happy and appreciate love and happiness.

Do you think Love is worth waiting for?

How many of you are still waiting to share your love with someone special?