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What made me stay Focused on Life's Experiences

Updated on January 6, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Great Surroundings

My beautiful view of Pine trees
My beautiful view of Pine trees | Source
The  exotic site of the sea and trees
The exotic site of the sea and trees | Source
A Jacaranda tree  from South Africa.
A Jacaranda tree from South Africa. | Source
A view of the village
A view of the village | Source
The boats are parked along the bay.
The boats are parked along the bay. | Source

Life is Journey

My focus on my life

The busy days have taken me away from my computer.

I had felt rather tensed, and most rushed into the start of my summer job.

The heat has been unbearable, and has made me feel very tired.

However, I am enjoying my job, and meeting the different people is my way of keeping communication going from day- to-day.

All is under-control and going well as I had expected.

My fourth time of marriage to my husband is another special function ahead.

Lots to do and so excited!

  • How am I married four times to one man?

We first married 21 years ago as planned in an Indian ceremony, thereafter in court as the first mixed racial couple.

Some years later we married in Croatia on receiving my permanent residential documents. We registered at the Croatian Court.

In a few days we will be married in the local Catholic Church.

  • Four times to one person is that incredible or what?

My plans are simple, and happy moments do come when you least expect it.

I had a wonderful surprise a few days ago.

A couple stopped by at our home and was in search of more information for their family tree. In search of their roots from a Croatian family that was the best surprise that I have had in a while. I was very, very happy.

They stayed with for two days at our place and had found out what they came for to their destination.

Closure was part of their fantastic trip , they have learned where their ancestors had lived many, many years ago.

The whole conversation was very interesting.

I listened and laughed at so many parts of the conversations as they had explained. They had a good sense of humor.

It was a great experience to meet another family with the many differences.

My writing was put on hold in the past few days too much to cope take in.

I don't have much time to write due to the many upcoming events. It is very important that I stay with my commitment.

Life has given me what I did not know, and that allowed me to grow stronger, and to feel much happier in all my actions.

I have grown to realize my great gift of life, and of my efforts. I believe there is happiness all around me. I just have to take it all in with lots of work and patience.

My experiences have shown me great spirits. I did not know I had such spirits. It brought me to light when I did not know how to, and what to do.

I connect with certain people, and let my mind go free of all mixed thoughts.

If you want happiness you can get it from yourself, and not from others. Don't wait for someone to make you happy.

I see the true people when they show their true self to me.

It is a side that I did not think much of when in the moment. I need to relax more, and be more appreciated for what and who I have in my life. I can make me that better soul.

Spiritually I feel awesome!

I have learned more about the spiritual minds from other people.

When all seems to be well, you have to make it look well. Be calm and be yourself.

  • How do you feel when drinking a cup of tea?

  • Do you feel good about that moment?

Embrace each day, and don't take life for granted,

Enjoy the deep breathing and the fresh air taken in.

Open your heart to people, and find the goodness in you, and in others.

Avoid bickering, and smile at what you see, rather than bite someone's head off at every little conversation.

The truth will always set you free.

If you notice what is around you that will show you to love your life even more.

I opened my heart to people I had never met before, and I saw more than I had known from before.

They needed questions to be answered, and found what they were looking for to complete their family tree. Incredible it was and that is exactly what happened.

When it was time to go they left with no doubts.

People search for what they know needs to be complete in their lives, and once all is intact they move on with good closure.

  • What made you a Courageous person?

I have become a courageous person after the many struggles I have passed through in my own way. It brought me lightness, darkness, and purity. The worst for me was not knowing more about Croatia. I know so much more now, and know there is great potential for me.

The people who are close to me make me feel as one and very special. There aren't many people around me who can make me feel that way. It is rare to find the true people.

Never give up on your dreams, pursue what you think is going to make you the happiest.

I have experienced happy moments over the last few weeks, and those moments could get better. I am now climbing up the step ladder with ease, and have seen miracles come my way.

There was a time when I felt all was falling apart in my life. It was the unexpected happy moments that made me think positive of my new life here.

When you have a good laugh all you can think of is happy and joy.

You could feel negative when sadness comes your way.

Time, patience, and courage can make you that better person.

Your soul is what makes you noticed by others.

I have met a woman with great calmness in her soul, and she just wanted to embrace her special moments.

I gave that some thought and have decided to take her advice. It is meaningful and worthwhile.

Any individual can behave this way providing one sees themselves as the true person from inside-out.

A true soul is always open-hearted, kind to everyone, and does not show evil toward you.

I have met these people and felt great to have had them in my presence.

I deserve to be happy, and to have a social life.

I need another change and I have decided to spoil myself to having a hairdo in a different style.

Life and golden experiences have made me realize how much can remain the same, and can change in no time.

I don't look of my life in a negative way.

I make my decisions, and if I fail at a project I get on with it until I succeed. Giving up was never a choice, and still is not a choice for me.

I want what I have been dreaming of for a long time, my new home. A dream that I know will soon come true. It has been a while of planning, and of discussions and have now come to the stage of building our home.

You grow with change, or with time, with love and care.

Life is what you make of it!

If you choose to blame others for your own wrong doing that kind of behavior won't let you go further than your own present position.

What you see is what you get.

Your moods and appearance does show a lot about your personality.

Don't ignore the goodness in people.

You will be surprised of what you may find from the open-hearted people.

Their good conversations can make you see it all from their souls.

It happened to me, and now I am taken aback from all that I had experienced in the last few days.

I feel things have gone forward though it has been a while since I have relaxed, and focused on me.

The small ceremony will be a delightful moment for us both. The fourth time around, and the many years together has proved my blessed life.

Life is what you make of it.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sladjana, thank you

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      4 years ago

      Go to Brela Croatia as It's one of Croatia's best beaches with calltrsyine water lapping at coves that stretch for 6km. And the beaches are sandy! (the sand is more like gravel but it's easy on your feet)Each cove of Brela Beach is like a private hideaway, fringed by pine trees and invisible to any road and all but a few hotels. Even the town of Brela is a delight with its subtropical greenery and appealing mixture of old and new houses. Small wonder that Brela is a top sight and that Forbes magazine rated Brela Beach as the 6th best beach in the world and the best beach in Europe

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you jtrader I appreciate your coments

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      4 years ago

      No problem ;-)

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you as always you make the effort to stop by I appreciate all comments from you. Interesting thought about sharing the photos with you unfortunately I am not obliged to.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway great words from you thank you very much for all comments

    • jtrader profile image


      4 years ago

      Just a reminder to share one of the photos from the 4th wedding with us, if you feel like doing so ;-) All the best to you and your hubby

    • FlourishAnyway profile image


      4 years ago from USA

      It is remarkable that you are married four times to the same man. I wish you happiness not only for your ceremony but also for your many years ahead together.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Interesting indeed! Thank you

    • jtrader profile image


      4 years ago

      It must have been interesting to hear all of that couple's stories.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      cecileportilla thank you kindly

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi AliciaC thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker thank you very much

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ARUN KANTI thank you very much

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      4 years ago from United States

      That's quite awesome to be married to the same man 4 times. Thanks for sharing your experiences and wisdom with people, life and happiness.

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      Cecile Portilla 

      4 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      Congratulations on your upcoming fourth marriage to the same man DDE. I totally agree with you that life is what you make it!

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a lovely hub, Devika. The idea of having four marriages to the man you love is wonderful! As always, I enjoy seeing your pictures of Croatia very much. There are so many places that I want to see in the world, including Croatia, but I know that I will never have the time or money to go everywhere that I want to. I appreciate seeing photos of other countries very much. Thanks for sharing the good advice, too.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very interesting and intriguing, thank you.

    • ARUN KANTI profile image


      4 years ago from KOLKATA

      What a wonderful experience of being married four times to the same person! Thank you for sharing your experience.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito thank you very much I appreciate your votes up and shared.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jodah thank you kindly and I appreciate your kind words.

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      John Hansen 

      4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Devika, have a great 4th wedding ceremony. That is a good achievement. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

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      4 years ago from USA

      Hi DDE, congratulations on your upcoming marriage. I hope it's a beautiful ceremony. Voted up and shared.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you for such a pleasant comment I am so glad you came by have a lovely Sunday.

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      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Congratulations on your 'wedding day' to you and your husband, which can only bring you further happiness. If you are as committed to your summer commitments as you are to your writing there will be no problems.Best of Luck with everything you do.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      RachaelOhalloran thank you and it feels great to have had so many years together I appreciate your kind words.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi sallybea thank you very much glad to see you come by.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sunilkunnoth2012 thank you kindly for such encouraging words.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you

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      Rachael O'Halloran 

      4 years ago from United States

      DDE, have a wonderful celebration on your marriage day.

      4 times to the same person? How great is that! It is awesome!

      You have had the benefit of many new experiences since I've started reading your hubs and each new one shows more about your life. It is a pleasure to know you. Happy Wedding Day :)

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 

      4 years ago from Norfolk


      I hope you both have a wonderful marriage ceremony. My best wishes for the years ahead. May they be filled with love and happiness.


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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 

      4 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      I often feel your every article has a poetical expression. It is a blessing. Readers love to read your lines as if they are reading a song. You have wonderful experience. You have the power of expressing them in a beautiful way. Your marriage story was so interesting. Thank you for sharing.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love that you are married four times to the same man...what a wonderful story that is. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us.


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