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What Modern Women want in their Men

Updated on October 21, 2015
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Anamika S. Jain has been a social media consultant for six years. She has written more than 200 articles on relationships and dating.

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All these terms listed above receive millions of searches in Google every month. But in reality does the concept of ‘perfect man’ exist? Well, I think they do… in fairy tales and in Mills and Boons.

It is said that a woman’s mind is a mystery which cannot be read. This is indeed true. I had this discussion with some of my friends and got several interesting answers all of which is difficult to put in here. Moreover, I hadn’t taken notes. For some their Mr. Right should be ‘tall, dark and handsome’ and some want their men ‘rugged, bit of stubble, rough hands and one that smells like a man’ or in other words ‘a man with an exciting wild side’. While I cannot speak for all women, I am listing below some characteristics majority of women want in a man.

What Women want in their Men?
What Women want in their Men?

Qualities Women look in Men

Given below are some characteristics or qualities women look men.

  1. Maintain a Groomed Look: The ideal man should be hygienic in all aspects. Every thing he wears or carries should be clean, including his shoes and hankies. He should be well dressed, have a good haircut which suits his personality, tidy and cut nails and smelling nice. Poor hygiene, awful attire, body odor, annoying habits and repulsive breath is enough to turn off any woman. In short, the way a man carries himself is what all woman would notice first.
  2. Have a Sense of Humor: It does not mean that woman wants their men to be jokers but Woman love men who can make them laugh. Woman are emotional creatures they like being happy and enjoy light and joyous moments. However, a sense of humor cannot stand alone. A good sense of humor along with confidence and positive outlook can trigger the right buttons in a woman.
  3. Care for her and Offer her Surprises: Woman love surprises. It does not mean that you have to show up with another woman in your arm. Predictable men bore them to hell. Women like gifts. Gift your Partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings, give things what she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care and would be always there for her. Woman like men who would devote time for her. This can get a woman attracted to you forever.
  4. Be Reliable, Responsible and Supportive: Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Woman likes men who can be their emotional support or a shoulder when they need to cry. They also want their man to be responsible and financially stable.Modern woman wants her man to stand on his on legs and not be influenced by friends, parents, colleague’s etc. The Modern Woman who maintains a proper balance with home and work expects support from her man in all aspects. An Ideal Man needs to be sensitive to the requirements of the partner, treat her as an equal, understand when she needs to stay late at work, help with housework and contribute to the expenses. Woman can’t stand men who under estimate them or think they are superior. Good camaraderie and conversation are qualities which can be used to charm a lady.
  5. Love, Understanding and Honesty: Every woman needs to feel loved. Offering surprises is part of her definition of love but she also needs the words and want to show her that you love her. Women want their men to understand her spoken and unspoken requirements. She needs you to respect her and not treat her like an instrument. She wants you to share her opinion and listen to her too. Woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not t do it again. Hiding things and dishonesty infuriates her. Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their man’s life.
  6. Offer Protection: A woman need to feel safe and secured with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don't need to be a muscle man but atleast when you are with her others should not be making passes at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady when she is with you. She also likes it when you open doors for her or pulls up a chair for her to sit while you are at a restaurant.
  7. Fidelity and Skilled in Bed: The Modern woman knows what she wants in the bedroom and don’t like men who cannot get it up. At the same time she expects her man to be faithful to her and her alone. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationship and if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn off.

Finally, I think many women unconsciously also look for the traits her father has in her partner. I did too!


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    Disillusioned 3 years ago from Kerala, India

    Good list!

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    Alan 5 years ago

    "The Modern woman...don’t like men who cannot get it up." Don't like that!? Holy sh** you act like it's lifting his arm and placing is around your neck. Very harsh if he's ill or something. You might re-think such crude statement. DO you think he's having even less fun than you along with confusion? You'd be correct. Perhaps you meant men who generally don't want to engage in sex because they are getting too sedentary?

    Other than that your list is nice, and I learned about you from another great article you wrote on how a wife can please her husband. You receive unfair recent comments from women, so I'll head over there to try my hand in explanation - of why your article really was respectful to both genders, and latogether awesome. Good night, Anamika!

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    Teehee 6 years ago

    Disgruntled, you know what your whining sounds just like? ;)

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    Shadab 6 years ago

    Thats a heck lot of work. I would rather enjoy my game on tv.

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    Disgruntled 6 years ago

    Women are not over grown babies. Whoever wrote this, (let me guess a man or a very bitter woman?), shouldn't use that analogy. Its very offensive. While the other ideas are sound...comparing women to babies is very immature and rude. If you want respect try using a different analogy.

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    Victor Mavedzenge 6 years ago from Oakland, California


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    cooldude2460 7 years ago

    hwy. thats a really nice list.but women are demanding a lot.i guess i have to start workin on that from today itself to fulfill all those big demands....... ah.. ill get too tired by then......

    anyways have u ever thought what men want from women. girls always want so much and give in very little. thats why most relationships end in break up. when will these girls start working hard in lives

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    jamie 8 years ago

    wow, fairytale fantasy as usual

    women want everything and give very little

    no wonder so many men, give up these days

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    Coolmon2009 8 years ago from Texas, USA

    Very nice Hub !!! Thank you for inviting me to read it. I am your fan now - Looking forward to reading many more of your hubs.

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Thanks for the appreciation acer laptop.

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    acer laptop 8 years ago

    Great Hub you have here :) Please check out my website would love to network!

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Thanks for the visit Hawkesdream!

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    Hawkesdream 8 years ago from Cornwall

    just about covered it all!

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    I know. Thanks for the visit jayb23

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    jayb23 8 years ago from India

    Nice hub, but women are far too demanding lol :-)

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Yes, those are much valued qualities too. Thanks for adding up.

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    LondonGirl 8 years ago from London

    Compassion and empathy are high on my list - but I agree with all yours, too!

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    I am happy you think so Raven King! Thanks for the visit.

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    Raven King 8 years ago from Cabin Fever

    Great list Anamika!

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Thanks for the appreciation aniketgore.

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    aniketgore 8 years ago from India

    nice list.

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Thanks for the encouragement amd comment Be Successful.

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    Be Successful 8 years ago from UK

    Great hub and sooooo true. Thank you for your insights.

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Hmm.. Interesting! Thanks for the Comment.

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    Rajeev A 8 years ago

    Well, if women can offer what men want, they may be able to have what they want.

    A survey conducted by US NBC show said this is what men want from women:

    1. Back them up when they take risks

    2. Right to keep secrets

    3. A right to have a good night out

    4. Give them a heads up when you just want to vent (and not problem solve)

    5. Freedom to be themselves

    See, how different things are!

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    Anamika S 8 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

    Thanks for the appreciation Army_Infantry_Mom

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    Army_Infantry_Mom 8 years ago

    Great Hub !!!!! Truthful but Entertaining !!!