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What are some unique and satisfying kissing techniques?
My first kiss came in the first grade. I actually liked the girl and we were great friends. I also liked kissing, so we roller skated on the side walks and when she got mad I'd buy her Double Bubble bubble gum.
A Long Time
It has been a long time since those days and Double Bubble is harder to find and doesn't come in those small wax paper wrapped pieces; hard enough to withstand a nuclear blast. But kissing has gotten better because I know a lot more about love. You see, kissing without love is like frosting with out cake and the key to being a great kisser is the same key to being a great lover: You must love her. If you are kissing for your own pleasure you have already failed.
She Must Be Number 1
If you make her number one in your priorities, your queen, and you adore her in every since. If you are willing to suffer loss for her gain then you are ready to discuss technique.
Alright go back and read from the beginning and quit skipping ahead. The most important technique to a good kiss is to keep your lips relaxed and responsive to her desires. Do not approach kissing as if you were just back from 40 days on the Sahara Desert with your lips buried 6 inches into a snow cone. The idea is to coax from her what she would like and respond to that.
No Cat Butts
My wife calls them cat butt kisses--that's when you pucker your lips up like you just sucked a lemon spritzed with battery acid. This signals to her that you are not into the kiss and that you are probably watching the game over her shoulder with one eye.
Men Like Fireworks
Women like them two but they want the fuse lit first and they want it to fizz for a while before it hits the powder. If you go straight for the fireworks you will leave her behind and eventually she will resent you for that. Going for the big bang right away in a kiss signals to her that you are more interested in the big bang than in her. Ladies want a man who is interested in them, invested in there emotional reality, not in just their lips. Remember, ladies are very integrated and holistic. They do not see a difference between kissing and some one loving them--unless it is one of these "hooking up" deals--in which case you can just use the techniques. I would tell you though that you are missing the real gold if you are only into the kissing and not the loving.