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- Advice & Tips for Men in Relationships
What irritates men in relationships
Partners invading personal space
Both men and women need their space for personal development, which both must learn to respect. When men don't have that personal space they often complain that they feel suffocated. It doesn't mean that you are not wanted though.
Men often claim that their women are jealous. However, it is important to examine what the reason is for that behavior, men could be putting it on themselves and causing the insecurity in the first place. Suspicious behavior will lead to jealously in most cases.
Speaking in code
Men often use the phrase "No one understands women", however experts say that what happens is that the emotional reading of men is much poorer than women, which doesn't allow the understanding of the subtle messages relayed by women. "Men can't read the air" as Japanese women often say - Kuuki ga yomenai.
Many men feel uncomfortable when a woman is too sentimental, probably because society encourages a man to be stronger. This is why some men find it difficult to manage their own emotions, compared to women. No need to be too proud, expressing feeling gets you more respect and trust.
The endless shopping
Men tend to be more direct when they want to buy something. Many men like to buy the first thing they see and not usually entertain other options. This why some men may be irritated when they go shopping with their partners, who usually love to "window shop" and walk around for hours.
Most women need their partners to give them security, but many men do not feel comfortable with this simple role.
This depends on personality but in general men tend to be more concrete, and prefer not to be engaged in long conversations. Women may be more likely to take time to go into deeper detail with topics and discussions.
Using sex as a weapon
According experts in the field, women find it difficult to separate emotion and mood from the body, which can be a problem for some men. Having a dispute or argument can often result in a men been deprived of physical contact.
Other reasons that get to men
Criticizing other women
Men tend to be more reserved and less explicit than women, so they may feel a little comfortable if their partners speak ill of other women, due to appearance, fashion, personality etc..
Changing agreement terms
After reaching an agreement with your partner, many men may become upset when his partner tries to renegotiate the situation and wants to move beyond the boundaries that had been previously agreed.
Compare with others
What really hurts the male ego is that when women compare them unfavorably with other men. This is like a low blow for a lot of men.
Downgrade your interests
Some women try to degrade the hobbies and interests of their partners, simply because they like them. E.g. purposely not showing any interest in things like Sport, Gym, games etc. One reason is because the men are not able to involve their partners in their hobby.
That eagerness to ask everything in detail and bring up questions and inquisitions around suspected lie, can be very daunting for a man. The man also needs to understand what caused the women to feel this way.
Although there are very orderly men around, some women's obsession for re-organizing what was already in place can irritate some men. Mutual confirmation is needed here on both parts.
The insistent questions
The questions like: How do I look? May seem like a simple questions but sometimes a difficult one to answer. Some men may be afraid to respond the wrong way, therefore give a generic answer e.g. "You look fine" let's go. Women want to know your real opinion without being offended of course.