More than a Best Friend ... A Soul Mate
A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.— Jim Morrison
It's amazing! You meet someone, you click, you want to spend all your time with them. You probably think I'm talking about dating, right? Nope, I'm talking about when you meet the person who will become your best friend.
I know the phrase 'best friend' sounds juvenile. But, sometimes there is simply no better way to say it. If we are lucky, and I mean really lucky, at some point in our lives we will meet someone who we not only click with, but that we can and want to share everything with. We will find someone who is there for us no matter what; someone who will laugh with us, cry with us, hold our hand when we need it. And we'll want to do the same for them.
In my life my husband is my best friend for sure. He is my soul mate and the one person I can tell anything to. I love to spend time with him and just be with him. I never thought I would ever meet anyone who would make me feel that. That is until the day I met the woman I now consider my best friend and my secondary soul mate.
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Now, my best friend and I did not have your typical "love at first site" beginning. Just the opposite actually. We didn't like each other at all when we first met. We are both strong willed, strong personality type people. Oh yeah, and we are both Tauruses, our birthdays are literally two days apart. So, we definitely butted heads at first.
Then something changed. We were finally able to just spend time with each other without the influence of others. We talked, really talked. That's when the 'magic' happened. That's when the true connection started. Well, that's when we became best friends.
We were both military spouses. She had a toddler and a brand new baby, and our husbands were on duty all the time. So, I began to help her out. Then my life changed forever. My husband was taken to the emergency room while on duty, and he was diagnosed with a brain tumor that day. Who was there holding our hands and crying with us when the doctor spoke those words? She was. Who held my hand through the hours of waiting while he was in brain surgery? She was.
Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness.— Euripides
More than just a Best Friend ... A Soul Mate
Through the years we have been through a lot together. There have been many, many good times. There have been many bad times as well. Through it all we have been a constant in each other's lives. The military moved my husband and I to the Midwest and her to the Pacific Northwest. Then life moved her to the Southwest. We live thousands of miles away from each other, but that friendship and connection remains.
How? That's a good question. It stays constant because it has to. We are so much more than friends. We are sisters at heart. We are soul mates. That is a term that is often only used in a romantic sense. I don't believe that it has to be. I believe that if we are lucky we get one soul mate in our lifetime. However, if we are really lucky, we get more than one. I am one of those people that is truly lucky. I met my romantic soul mate in high school, and I never let him go. I met my other soul mate when I was 28, and I don't plan to let her go either.
We keep our connection alive across the distances because when something happens in our lives, good or bad, we are each others first call. She tells me about her life and her kids, I tell her about my life and my husband. We may not get to see each other every day any more, and that's really hard sometimes, but we are still a major part of each other's lives. Any long distance relationship takes work. We have to put in the effort. It goes both ways as well. We do go through weeks where we may not talk or text that often, but we'll still tag each other in stupid memes on Facebook and Instagram just to let the other know we are thinking of them.
Can a best friend be a soul mate? I think they can. I think anyone can be a soul mate. The very definition of soul mate is a person who is ideally suited for another. It's a person who literally connects to your soul, who touches that part of you that other's can't even see.
Do you have a best friend? A Soul Mate? When was the last time you told them you love them? Appreciate them? Need them? Why not do it today?
I used to believe in one true soul mate, but not anymore. I believe you can have a few.— Paul Walker
© 2018 Mandy Baker