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When "NOT BRIDGING THE GAP" is much better

Updated on December 2, 2010

Another reflection.... when the relationship is not the right one for you, you will always encounter a gap which sometimes leads you to a long tunnel of loneliness........  but that gap that keeps you sad, may not need to be bridged in order for you to be happy.  Sadness may be temporary.....You just need to wait...

Distance is a gap

Measuring a distance

It can be long or short…….wide or narrow….big or small,…no matter what the size a distance is, it is still a gap….It is like a long straight line with an empty space in the middle. Anything with a gap still lacks something, it is still a barrier, that separates one from another…. A small gap can lead to misunderstanding, and a gap, whether big or small, if not being bridged, can lead to total disconnection. And when things disconnect, total loss of communication follows, forgetting painfully how well you used to connect., and how smooth the flow of communication was.

A person can encounter distances one after another and another and another….. a distance won’t hurt if both parties involve willingly bridge the gap. Time will come you’ll encounter your own distances too…. Some of them you would wish to bridge…. Some of them you think needs to be healed completely before putting both ends meet again, and there are some that you know, no matter how sad and painful, needs not to be recovered…a rare case of not putting a bridge between the gaps, sometimes the space is necessary for you to get over things that you once thought was valuable to you…

This distance in my life is the one that I would wish to stay forever…. Coz it separates me from the world that really never exists, from a Knight that only has an armour but not a real human being inside, from a feeling that puts me into spell, from a magic that is so superficial, and from sadness that I blamed to some other things but him…..

I had emprisoned my life in endless melancholy, with a false notion that a “distance” can make my misery more severe…. But when the “distance” I feared to encounter appeared, I just pass it quietly, as if I am expecting it to arrive all my life… Now I know, not all Distances are sad…. It is sometimes a misfortune in disguise.

My Distance no matter how far it separates me from the world that I used to know, will always remind me of a gap, the only gap that I never intend to bridge. A road with dead end….a condemn post that can’t anchor even a low weigh roof….that’s the effect that I want…..Eternal….No hope…..


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    • Maria Cecilia profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Cecilia 

      9 years ago from Philippines

      Marcoujor nice to see you in a non-dog hub of mine...anyways, one of the reasons why I love Peso so much is because among my dogs, he is the one with me when my life was full of challenges, when my mother was ill and died, during broken hearts and broken dreams,my dogs were there to give me light, which made me think that God sent them to me to be my Angels in disguise. Anyway I wish to recommend my "story of the portrait hub, I wrote that to honor my dogs... thanks for visiting

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      Maria Jordan 

      9 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Well, Maria Cecilia~~ I know now why dogs play a key role in your world... I have every intention of reading much more of your work... you have much to say~~ (sometimes you have to know when to fold 'em, as The Gambler would say...)~~ your art Is FABULOUS~~ I vote this AWESOME and THUMBS UP~~ thank you...!

    • Maria Cecilia profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Cecilia 

      10 years ago from Philippines

      thanks maam Lita, do everything that can make yu feel better. Let's just pray he'll realize his mistake sooner. thanks for visiting po

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      Lita C. Malicdem 

      10 years ago from Philippines

      The hub title intrigues me! Well, I'm putting extra time thinking on a gap made by my sibling. He did me wrong but is stubbornly not remorseful. Do I forgive one who doesn't want it? You're absolutely right- there are times in our life that "not bridging the gap" is better, especially if you are the victim. haha! Makes me feel all right now! Thank you! Take care!

    • Maria Cecilia profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Cecilia 

      10 years ago from Philippines

      Thanks GeneralHowitzer, nice to see you here

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      Gener Geminiano 

      10 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      Wow... awesome hub here Cecilia!

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      Maria Cecilia 

      10 years ago from Philippines

      you noticed my resentments in the past? hahahah

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      10 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =)

      Very thoughtful, miss Macel! I love your works... God bless! xoxo =)

    • Maria Cecilia profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Cecilia 

      10 years ago from Philippines

      Thanks Rotl, hope you will visit my other hubs too

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      10 years ago from Florida

      Very cool.. enjoyed reading it.

    • Maria Cecilia profile imageAUTHOR

      Maria Cecilia 

      10 years ago from Philippines

      Thanks Prairieprincess, hope you visit my other hubs too. yes I did the illustration, MS Paint, It's my obsession to support my article with my own illustrations and pictures. please see my other hub "How to make your article, hub and story more colorful and full or life

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      Sharilee Swaity 

      10 years ago from Canada

      I like this ... very interesting take on relationships ... and I love your illustrations! Did you do these yourself? Take care!


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