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Why Are Wedding Shower Gifts Just for the Bride?

Updated on September 9, 2015
A Unisex Wedding Shower
A Unisex Wedding Shower | Source

Men at a Bridal Shower

In this day and age, where we teach our children that the duties of the home are to be shared equally,

do we still have bridal showers only for the female friends and family? The poor groom is left is left out of the fun and the gifts. This article is going to exploit bridal shower etiquette in our culture and suggest that men be included in the celebration.

Who's Idea Was It?

The wedding shower is said to have originated in the 16th century.

It was originally given for a poor woman when her family could not afford the dowry or when her father did not approve of the marriage. In these circumstances, friends would hold a party and give gifts that equaled the dowry, giving her the opportunity to marry the man of her choice.


Wedding Shower of Today

Over the years, other traditions have emerged with different socio-economic groups; but the core custom of giving gifts to the bride in order to begin a household has remained the same. But in the meantime, our cultural views on the roles of the husband and wife have drastically changed. We no longer teach our young girls to be homemakers, we teach them to balance a home life with a career and husband. The days of men taking total fiscal responsibility for the family are gone and boys are taught independent living tasks just as much as the girls.

Bride and Groom Gifts - Why Not?

With that being said, why has the bridal shower tradition remained the same? With modern day home fronts being run equally by men and women, why are the men left out of the wedding shower gifts? Should they all not be a couples wedding shower? The presents given at the bridal shower are usually items to start the new household: crystal dinnerware, bedding ensemble and towels. Are they not shared by the new couple?

Best Gifts for Men and Women About to Get Married

Since the wedding shower is a time to give gifts, why not start a new tradition to include the new groom and bride? Just for fun, I have made a list of cool gifts for men and women.

  1. Everyone needs a tool box in their home. Although we traditionally think of this as "a male only gift", tool boxes will be used by both the bride and groom. You may even want to add some tools inside.
  2. Men love to grill. Why not buy the couple an inside or outside grill?
  3. Gym equipment is the perfect unisex gift for any shower. We all need to stay in shape. Weights and other small devices will put the happy couple on the road to good health.
  4. Every home needs a professional blender. I have one so powerful that I equate it with a power tool.
  5. An ottoman in the living room will provide years of resting your feet in the new home.

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Final Words

A suggestion to all the future bridal shower planners, why not make it unisex? Plan a large party with both female and male guests. You would be surprised how much fun they are rather than playing silly shower games. Always enjoy the event that you give.


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      Nancy Yager 2 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Personally, I welcome all of these changes. Having a large extended family I have attended at least 50 bridal showers. Anything a little different is a very good thing. Also many brides and grooms are on their second and third marriage, why not be more creative to celebrate this mew beginning?

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      Charito Maranan-Montecillo 2 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      Hi, Ms. Nancy! I think it's a good idea to have a unisex shower since both bride and groom will eventually manage the household together.

      In my culture, bridal showers - where both bride and groom are present - are now attended by women and men. But it's the bride who still receives the gifts.

      In some showers, they even hold wholesome adult party games related to marriage.

      It's fascinating to see how bridal showers have changed these days.

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      Nancy Yager 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      I agree Escobana, family and friends are the best gift of all.

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      Escobana 5 years ago from Valencia

      Good Hub! I agree that the most important thing is to enjoy that time.

      I actually think, getting married is very different here in Spain or Holland. Bridal showers aren't really common though gifts on the weddingday are.

      I'm getting married next year and we decided to cut out a lot of traditional things to have a very special ceremony on the island Ibiza.

      Since we invite people to stay with us for three days and two nights, we don't expect any gifts at all, since a part of the trip is covered and a part of it isn't. The best gift would be sharing those days with very close friends and a few familymembers.

      Shared your Hub, up and interesting!

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      Nancy Yager 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      Michelle Liew 5 years ago from Singapore

      Nice one, Lipnancy. True, everyone should be included, and this can be a pre-wedding party of sorts! Thanks for sharing! I share as well.

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      Nancy Yager 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      that's really great hub Nancy. nice ideas.

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      Nancy Yager 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Thanks for stopping by.

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      prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Very inspiring hub, especially for me who haven't married. I learn many things from you. Thanks for writing and share with us. Voted up!


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      Nancy Yager 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Glad you stopped by.

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      ignugent17 5 years ago

      This is very useful. This idea might come in handy.

      Voted up and more.!

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      Nancy Yager 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      Thanks Carol. Glad you stopped by.

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      carol stanley 5 years ago from Arizona

      Definitely an interesting thought. However most bridal shower gifts are for kitchen and decor (not always) and the bride is often the one who decides decor and spends more time in the kitchen. Great hub.