- Gender and Relationships
Why Cheater's Cheat
Author: W. K. Hayes
Why Cheater's, cheat
Generally, a man with wondering eyes has several reasons why they pursue multiple women. A low self-esteem, absence of a mother's love or even a ego trip. Ultimately, most men become cheaters simply because the relationship has fizzled out for them and they do not know how to break it off or even realize that they need to.
Unfortunately, most men do not understand what real love is, the difference between being in love and loving someone. It is very possible to love someone without being in love with that person, thus cheating steps in.
If a man, or woman, feels that they need to see someone else because of some need they have, was not being met then, they should have the courage to end it with the person they are with. The alternative to this would be for the man or woman to talk about their feelings and the fact that they are lacking something in the relationship.
Unfortunately, most men are not in touch with their feelings and do not understand the importance of getting in touch with those feelings. Another reason people cheat on the other half is due to aging. As people get older, they begin feeling as though they have become less attractive which, is far from the truth.
One of the biggest things I've noticed, from my own experiences is that a man may feel alone on the inside while never letting it show on the outside. Trying talking with you man. Spend time with him and be attentive. Listen to what he is saying without turning it into an argument.
The number one reason a man cheats on a woman is that she forgets he is there. She will get wrapped up in her own little world here's a huge secret when it comes to men...we love attention more than women do.
Never would have guessed, huh? If you start to feel even the slightest distance between yourself and your loved one...sit down and talk about it. Try showing more attention. A man loves it when his woman shows him love. Many, many women get comfortable in a relationship and simply stop caring. Then when things go wrong, they wonder why.
Well, that is the number one reason why and it is the number one reason why cheaters, cheat. Spend time with each other. Make each other feel wanted. Women, stop waiting for your man to come to you. A man likes to be taken, too.
A man likes his woman to come along and give him a kiss for no reason. It does not take wearing lingerie and candles...something as simple as a hug and kiss will keep your man very happy and at home.
If you can tell something is bothering him, ask him about. Refrain from asking him, “What is your problem”? Instead, act as if you care, by asking, “You look troubled, are you okay”?