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Why Do Men Cheat? 10 reasons why guys turn into cheaters
If you're in a relationship with a man who has cheated on you, then I feel your pain. Men are pigs.
However, it's always a good thing to try to understand the reasons why men cheat, so you might spot these characteristics in a future mate after you kick the cheater to the curb and tell him to rot in hell.
Remember something about evolution: men are programmed to spread their seed as far and wide as possible whereas women are programmed to nurture and stay in one place to raise a family. That's just how its been for millenia.
So the first key to understanding why men cheat is that they're programmed to do it. However, we also live in the modern age, where men should be smart enough to understand that cheating and committed relationships do not go together. Thus, if a man cheats on you, he probably has a reason, though it might be a really bad one.
Here are a few reasons a man might cheat:
1. You Cheated First
If you're looking for reasons why your man cheated and you've been in a committed relationship for awhile but a few years ago you had a slight indiscretion but you guys got back together and suddenly you've figured out that he strayed as well recently and you're just completely beside yourself trying to figure out why after you guys reconciled, well, get a frickin' clue!
You cheated first!
Cheaters deserve each other. I suggest you find another guy and try to have a committed relationship with actual commitment. I am definitely not prone to blame the woman for what a man does, but if you're at fault, you're at fault. Oh sure, they're two entirely separate events. Tell yourself that if you need to. Unfortunately, once trust is broken, the floodgates to betrayal and revenge open up.
2. He's Hotter Than You
This is why should always go out with a guy who is uglier than you. Otherwise, hotter women than you are going to hit on him all the time and everyone knows that men cannot control themselves in this situation.
However, if you date a guy who's just a shade less attractive than you are, then you're a lot safer and he won't have these opportunities. (if your girlfriends are always telling you that you could "do better" or trying to set you up with guys they know even though they know you have a boyfriend, then you're on the right track)
3. You're Bad in Bed
If there's no sex inside the relationship, then there's going to be sex outside the relationship. And if the sex inside the relationship is bad, then he's going to go looking for good sex outside the relationship. In other words, make sure you're putting out or you're going to be putting him out. And if you're putting out, but not well, go get some lessons. The best thing you can do is ask him what he likes and what he needs from you in bed (and, of course, make sure he knows what you need). This is the best way to insure that he doesn't cheat.
4. It was Thursday
Guys don't really need a reason to cheat. They're guys. Thursday is frequently as good as reason as any to cheat on you.
5. You Smell Funny
You stopped using deodorent. You roll in manure. You don't shower. You're dead.
Men don't like it when their women start to smell funny, so if you smell funny, your many is likely to seek companionship elsewhere. This can also mean smelling funny downstairs, so make sure you've got that area of your body groomed and smelling good all the time. Remember, if ice cream smells like roadkill, a man is going to go buy his ice cream at another store.
6. It was Friday
7. He was Drunk
Everybody, man or woman, like to play this card. Personally, I'm not buying it. I've never been so drunk that I didn't realize sleeping with another person would probably piss off my committed partner nor have I ever been so drunk that I murdered somebody just for the fun of it. In other words, no matter how drunk I am, I know right from wrong. Does it lower your inhibitions? Sure it does. But I believe that anybody who says they were so drunk that they didn't know right from wrong is a liar in addition to being unfaithful.
What do you think is the most likely reason men cheat?
8. His Mother Didn't Give Him Enough Affection as a Child
When a man grows up not receiving enough affection from his mother, he becomes prone to having sex outside a relationship because he's continually seeking female approval. So, assuming your man hasn't already cheated, make sure you meet his mother and try to get a handle on whether they have an affectionate relationship or not. Do they hug when they see each other? Do they kiss goodbye? If his mother is an icy, cold bitch, there's a pretty good chance that he's going to look outside your relationship for some nookie.
9. He was Bored
Men get bored with women easily. This is something you want to remember for your entire life, because if a man is capable of cheating and feels desired by another woman, he'll be tempted. If you work to limit that temptation, no matter how you do it, you'll reduce his desire to cheat because he'll weigh the risks and rewards and if he's at all intelligent and you've done your due diligence, he'll come down on your side every time.
10. He's Stupid
If you're doing everything right, then there's always the chance you have hooked up with a man who is stupid because that's what we call people who get everything they want and then turn their back on it in favor of instant gratification. Count yourself lucky that you figured this out sooner rather than later, but don't beat yourself up. Next time, just make sure you put your man through a series of questions so that you have no doubt about his intelligence so you can eliminate the stupidity excuse. Ask simple questions like: "Who is the President of the United States?" and "How much is two plus two." If he doesn't answer those questions correctly, you can be happy when he doesn't call back, though at that point, you probably gave him a mystery number anyway.
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