ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Gender and Relationships»
  • Advice & Tips for Men in Relationships

Why Do Men Think That Women Want Pictures Of Their Private Body Parts? Expert Says Blame Their Moms!

Updated on June 7, 2011

Always Blame The Mom!

What is it about men? What is it that makes them think that women want to see pictures of their private body parts? While women may enjoy seeing a great six-pack and a rock solid chest, they really, for the most part, do not find it arousing to see any male body parts that are below the waist. The most recent example of sexting and scandal that has made Anthony Weiner a household name is a case in point. Why did he do it? No clue! Then I decided to ask an expert on the subject. Granted, he is a man, therefore he may have little expertise on any subject, but nevertheless, he does know how men think.

I asked the question. "Why do men think that women want these explicit photos?" The answer was surprising. "It is the fault of their mothers." What??!!! How is that possible? The response made me laugh, at first. Then, being a mother myself, I felt that I had to find out why moms were at fault. I said, "How can that be?" The answer was astounding! I didn't know if it could possibly be true, but here it is; and I quote, " When little boys are toddlers, say 2 or 3, or even 4, and they walk around constantly grabbing themselves, moms laugh. They say to their friends, "How cute is that!" Men always want women to think that they are still cute and still funny, still capable of making them laugh." I replied to this grown man (my son) that when he was little and constantly grabbed himself, I told his father to take him aside and tell him that this was not such a good idea, especially in the middle of the grocery store. His response: "And that is why I don't send pictures of myself to women." I asked if I could quote him and he replied, " Yes!" Then he left the house. Simple. It is the mom's fault! Everything that every adult does is their mom's fault, so why not this, also? Anthony Weiner's mother probably has no idea that she is to blame for her son's recent sexting indiscretions. Someone should let these moms know...

Moms all over the country have no idea that their laughter is a sign of approval. So moms, don't laugh, don't chuckle, and above all, do NOT say, "How cute is that!" when your toddler son grabs his privates, or you, too, will be blamed when your adult son who becomes a Congressman, is found to be sexting.

Men Are Visual, Women Are Not! At Least When It Comes To Explicit!

To men: Yes, we all know that you like pictures of women, both clothed and preferably, unclothed. Women, on the other hand, do NOT! They do not think it is funny, cute, or particularly arousing. There is a difference between a toddler and an adult. What is cute or funny when you are 2, is not so cute or funny when you are 30, 40, 50, or God forbid, 60!

To women: When you have a son, make sure that someone (a male would be advisable) tells that son that grabbing himself in the middle of the grocery store is not appropriate. If you don't, it will be all your fault!


Submit a Comment

  • Elani-Lee profile image

    Elani-Lee 5 years ago from Los Angeles

    I like to see pictures of my BF when he is far away from me. It keeps the relationship fresh, keeps the sex appeal alive, and keeps the sexual intimacy alive.

    I don't want to see pictures if I have never seen the live thing before. Some guys find this appropriate. I think the two things are very different.

  • profile image

    willie 5 years ago

    well, speak for yourselves, some of us want to see pictures. How the hell else are we to know if they work.

  • profile image

    Amber 5 years ago

    I want to see a picture.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 5 years ago from California, USA


    Please remember, even 20 nickels only adds up to a dollar and that does not make one wealthy! Don't flatter yourself--

  • TravelinAsia profile image

    TravelinAsia 5 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia

    If I had a nickel for everytime a woman asked to see my johnson I would be a wealthy man! Sexting seems to be the "in" thing these days. If you are a healthy sexually active young man, you prob keep a flattering photo of your favourite toy saved on your phone ... just in case.

  • profile image

    Gerald Long 6 years ago

    Ummm, whenever I send a jpg I have to include a magnifying glass and it has to be a 15 megapixel camera.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Thank you...

  • Sun360 profile image

    Sun360 6 years ago

    Nice hub which is well shared.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Dear SJKSJK,

    I agree! A really sick mom! But I am sure you know that we moms get blamed for nearly everything...

    Mark my words, someone will blame Weiner's childhood for this, somewhere down the road...Hope not, because it won't hold water, but...

  • SJKSJK profile image

    SJKSJK 6 years ago from delray beach, florida

    It would take a really sick mom to encourage this type of behavior. I think it comes from somewhere else most times.

  • Pamela N Red profile image

    Pamela N Red 6 years ago from Oklahoma

    I am guilty of many things regarding my sons. I have no idea if they send nekkid pictures. A mother is the last to know about some things. Thank God.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Hi, Pamela, I am happy to meet you!

    We are wired differently! I think I must explain. My son thinks it is funny that everyone always blames moms for every indiscretion their children are part of. It is something that we laugh about all the time. Sometimes I will say to him, "Did I cause this?" He laughs, because he knows that as a mom (maybe a slightly neurotic one), I feel guilt about almost everything. He will say to me, "No, you did not cause the earthquake half way around the world, mom!"

    He knew that telling me that moms cause bad behavior by men would get a reaction from me.

    I like a great male body as much as most women. In one of my comments, I mentioned that I dated a Chippendale's dancer. Too bad he was a schmuck, because he was quite gorgeous! Have always had a thing for firefighters, too! I may be in my 50's, but I must say, I am a fan of those firefighter calendars!

    When the paramedics had to come to take me to the hospital a few months ago, I was humiliated that I looked so sick! Probably because I was, but still...the vanity is still there! Even as a grandma!

    Thanks, Pamela! Am going to go check out your site!

  • Pamela N Red profile image

    Pamela N Red 6 years ago from Oklahoma

    I personally like seeing the male body but still find it offensive for guys to send women pictures of themselves naked without an invitation.

    I fail to see the correlation between thinking a young boy naked as cute and him wanting to send nude images of himself over the Internet. I think it has more to do with them thinking most women want what they want which is naked pictures. They don't realize women are wired differently.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Good Morning, Amillar!

    Don't think it would "stand up" in court, either, and also think no jury is gonna want to see it if it does!

    Hope you are well, those many miles across the Pond!

    By the way, our quinoa was wonderful! So much better than rice! Thank you!

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Dear Terry,

    When my mother was young, she worked as an aide at the famed Willowbrook, which was a mental facility in NY. The young boys and men would constantly flash her and all of the other female workers. You reminded me of that fact. When I was a young teenager, I was the victim of a flasher. I cried for days, but then I was only 14 and had spent my young years in Catholic schools, sheltered from everything. I must admit, my mother used to tell me that when a man does something like that, he needs to be in a mental hospital. You may be on to something!

    This was meant to be a humorous take on something that is not very funny. It has pleasantly surprised me that the men I know on Hub Pages find no humor in the subject. Thanks, Terry!

  • amillar profile image

    amillar 6 years ago from Scotland, UK

    That chap might want to blame his Mom, Jillian, but I doubt if it would stand up in court.

  • Terry.Hirneisen profile image

    Terry.Hirneisen 6 years ago from Shenandoah Valley

    I think it is a very small subset of the male population that imagines his genitalia are a turn on to women. Most of us know it is just plain stupid and mom has nothing to do with the lack of maturity for those that flaunt their package. Having an affair is understandable if not especially desirable, flaunting body parts is just plain stupid and should require the immediate admission to a mental institution for not less than one year.

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Dear Chef,

    Exactly! Blame moms! My son was being funny and knew that he would make me laugh, even when it isn't really a laughable thing. People rarely want to be accountable or blame their own shortcomings on themselves. We do have too many issues to waste on this sad commentary...

    Dear Randslam,

    Of course it isn't anyone's fault but his own and it has been an unnecessary distraction. Hope the whole story goes away soon. It will be replaced by another scandal within a short amount of time, I am sure. Thanks, Randslam!

  • randslam profile image

    Rand Zacharias 6 years ago from Kelowna, British Columbia

    The whole "Wiener" debacle is a sad tale that finds a man caught between his wiener and a soft place...that has become very hard for him.

    The sad truth of this obvious obsession by a man who has only been married for a year is the continuous need for the thrill of the hunt.

    This isn't difficult stuff to understand. You can't blame his mother. He, like so many politicians, preachers, community leaders and average joes before him--need to feel the thrill of some delusional connection to "the chase."

    Men have been doing this for time immemorial, which is why there were so many concubines and harems.

    This is just another sad distraction for the American public to waste time, effort, television waves and opinions in order to dismiss the real issues that plague our planet.

    It's a sad day for wieners everywhere, but honestly, where's the meat in this story?

  • chefsref profile image

    Lee Raynor 6 years ago from Citra Florida

    Hey Jillian

    Speaking for all the men out there, it's nice to have someone to blame for our character flaws, that's much easier than taking responsibility. Mom made me do it!

    Scandals just distract us from the important issues we face

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    I am just becoming acquainted with you and your writing via Fay, and I am so glad that she introduced me to you! Not only are your articles profound, your comments are equally impressive!

    The answer you provide is very, very funny, probably because it is so true!

    Gloria Steinem Is a very wise woman. I will never forget that during the height of the Women's Movement during the early '70's, men were amazed that someone who was "pretty" was a key leader of the movement. I was a teenager at the time and she, Betty Friedan and Bella Abzug had such an impact on my thinking.

    Then in the late '80's, she actually steered me towards an attorney from NOW that handled my mother's divorce. I haven't thought about her in several years. Thank you so much for reminding me of her quote and more importantly, for reminding me of her. You have made me smile!

  • profile image

    THAT Mary Ann 6 years ago

    In answer to the question in the title..."Because what's in their dreams is always bigger than what's in their pants."

    Gloria Steinem did, however, warn women wisely,


  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Dear Peter,

    You are right, of course. Men and women are just different. I fell in love with my husband because he made me laugh--constantly--. Even if I was sobbing hysterically about something, within seconds he would have me laughing just as hard. Women love funny! I don't know why, but we do. My son grew up with 3 women. His dad died when he was 6 and his sisters were 10 and 4. Two sisters and me, poor guy! He jokes all the time that even the dogs and cats were female! Maybe a lot of mothers don't convey to their sons what women are like in terms of anything but being a cook, a maid and a caretaker.

    My son could be correct in a way. I don't know too many moms that actually tell their sons that kindness, humor, honesty and integrity are the things that women really want. Maybe if we all really talked honestly to our sons, we could all end up being from the same planet. Thanks, Peter!

    Dear Credence2,

    Congressman Weiner has pissed me off! He has always been such a fighter! He has been a Democrat that I wanted as my own Congressman because he never backed down and he has been very vocal in his support of things I believe in. I won't tell him to resign, but I think that his stupidity and deception may forever ruin his effectiveness as an advocate. He is 45 years old and I have no clue what led him to do this. I am really disappointed because he now leaves a void, regardless of whether he steps down. I can't defend him, period.

    You are right, Credence2. Most of us know what vulgarity is. Sad that some choose to be vulgar...What a waste!

    Thank you, Credence! Aloha!

  • Credence2 profile image

    Credence2 6 years ago from Florida (Space Coast)

    Bill Mahr never seems to run out of comic material. What are the astronomical odds that a man named "Wiener" would get nailed in a scandal of this nature? To be fair not all guys are hooked on this as a way to get off. This man is an embarrassment to the male gender, the Democratic Party and Congress, in general. Yet he has the nerve to tell the world he won't step down when he gets caught with his britches down? There is that fine line between eroticism and vulgarity, most of us know the latter when we see it

    Best regards, Credence2

  • PETER LUMETTA profile image

    PETER LUMETTA 6 years ago from KENAI, ALAKSA

    Hi Jillian, Unfortunately men assume that women are driven to sex by sexual things, like exposing yourself. After all if a women takes her top off in the bar isn't she asking for it? Women are more cerebral when it comes to sex. Men use the small head not the big one to interpret sexual behavior. So your right "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" the end. Peter

  • HattieMattieMae profile image

    HattieMattieMae 6 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

    Yeap so true. Have to agree some women do like that stuff, but that is whole other breed from you and I. lol

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Dear Hattie,

    I actually talked about this with my son(had to force him-he hates talking to me about things like this) again tonight. He is in his early 30's and has many friends that have young sons. He told me that his opinion was not based on what I did or how I reacted when he was young, but, instead based his view on what he says he sees quite often.

    Plus, he likes to give me crap or get a rise out of me. He thinks he is hysterically funny and I must admit, he did inherit his dad's sense of humor.

    Some men do think it turns women on or they would not be sending the pictures. They are idiots! When I was young, I dated a Chippendale's dancer. He was gorgeous, but while on stage, the men never took off all of their clothes. I think if they had, they would not have been so popular. That is probably the difference. Men may just think that women think the same way they do, when we don't. It is probably part of the whole "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" psychology.

    Thanks, Hattie!

  • HattieMattieMae profile image

    HattieMattieMae 6 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

    lol I have to admit I laughed, but I laways made sure my son understood that was not appropriate in public. I don't think you can blame mom's. I think it is some men just think it turns on women, and like you I feel it is not appropriate, and really turns me off! I rather not talk to the guy again. No matter how nice he is, just there are some things I don't need to know, unless it is my significant other. Lord, I think I'd have to have serious talk with my son if he ever does that in the future. lol

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 6 years ago from California, USA

    Dear Fay,

    My almost 3 year old grandson thinks the same. I won't, however, roll over as quickly as you. I get blamed for enough things as a mom. I refuse to get blamed as a grandma, too! Or at least they could be a little respectful and not blame me until I am long gone; then I don't have to hear it! Unless of course, they come up with a way to Tweet whichever place I end up; then it will be non-stop abuse, I am sure!

    The main problem with men is that they still think that they are cute and funny as they grow up! Maybe funny, but not so cute!

  • profile image

    Fay Paxton 6 years ago

    So what else is new. Mothers are to blame for everything else, why not this. My two year old grandson thinks his little member is funny. His reactions are hilarious. So when he's grows up and runs around exposing himself, blame it on Grammy.