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Why Do Rich And Powerful Men With So Much To Lose Risk It All For A Fling?

Updated on March 27, 2017

Why Do Rich Men Engage In A Fling?

It looks there is a relationship between adultery and financial status. Some rich married men or those in a relationship are always on the prowl to find a new female plaything. A study conducted by MSNBC showed that among men making more than $300,000 a year, 32% reported cheating, compared to 21% of men making less than $35,000 a year.

Liz Moyer, Forbes Staff wrote, “Almost half of America’s rich say they’re unhappy in marriage, a study found. What’s worse: More than that says they’ve been unfaithful in the last three years. Depending on whose data you use, statistics on infidelity for the general U.S. population have some stark contrasts. Anywhere from one-quarter to three-fourths of married men admit to having extramarital affairs, compared to a range of 10% to 40% of married women, the reverse of the more narrowly defined wealthy population.”

A study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology suggests that straight men who believe they're richer than their peers may feel more entitled to cheat on their romantic partners — and find fault with her appearance.

Similarly, in a blog post on Yahoo Health, Editor-in-Chief David Zinczenko references a study that revealed that men who earned more money had a higher likelihood of cheating than those who earned less.

Men like Anthony Weiner, Tiger Woods, Eliot Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, John Edwards, and former CIA Director General David Petraeus just to name a few are among a long line of rich philanderers. It could be heartbreaking when you discover that the one you have a crush on has strayed into the streets. If you’re in a relationship with a very rich man, spicing up the physical intimacy may not prevent cheating. Worse, buying into a wrong myth makes the wronged individuals blame themselves for their partner’s infidelity.

The big question is why rich men with pivotal professions, political career or business and important responsibilities commit adultery? Why do men with so much to lose — great positions, families and reputations — risk it all for a fling? Do married men act this way because they feel that their financial status entitle them to adultery? Do certain income brackets and industries breed certain socially unacceptable behaviors and character in men?

Why Rich Men Cheat?

Cash on hand may incline men to stray … but is that really all it takes? I’ve seen married millionaires disrespect any sort of monogamous vows after a few drinks, and heard millionaires woo women with a high-rolling lifestyle if they’ll be their side-fling. The question is, does wealth really make a man a cheater? Don’t get me wrong, women cheat as well. When selecting their prey, rich men typically choose women of lower status and achievement who will idolize them. With money, comes power. Power – and all that comes with it, is attractive to many women. And, sometimes, these women can become aggressive with their advances. Women have certain needs to be filled in relationships. Some of them require a man who will be a protector, provider and companion. In the modern world, this mostly means financial security. It's well established that money makes a significant difference in how attractive men appeal to women as longer-term mates. This makes rich men have overinflated sense of confidence that allows them to think they’ll get away with bad behavior. The more financial power people have, the more likely they are to cheat.

Some engage in cheating to nourish their ego. Having more money increases how much a man is worth in his eyes and of others. Under the impression his value is higher; a man may assume he could nab any woman of his choice. Finding fault with a current female partner's appearance and looking elsewhere likely reflect a man's increased appraisal of what he feels he deserves: he no longer appreciates just one partner, but multiple lovers, each of whom validates his assumed worth — or offer additional opportunities to spread his newly acquired influence. So what is really the problem? The crux of the matter is that when some men make money they become more experimental, especially if the sexual relationship at home is lukewarm. They can afford to seek excitement outside the home.

Loneliness might be another reason. Most rich men travel a lot –are often away from their families for days, even weeks, and sometimes they end up yearning for female companionship thousands of kilometers away from their wives offering them more opportunities to cheat. Others have done it for the excitement the risk gives.

For you to strike an emotional balance, you need to be emotionally available for your partner. Being a rich and handsome, he must have been faced with great temptation from women. This is the same problem with the sports men such as Tiger Woods, who are traveling around the world for competitions while their wives are at home. And these are rich men.

Rich men tend to be surrounded by people who protect them, idolize them, and even encourage their vices in order to remain inside their influential orbit. Having people in your inner circle who constantly approve of your actions can swell your ego. A sense of entitlement plays a part in why rich and high profile men like Arnold Schwarzenegger risk hurting their families and reputations for their sexual pursuits. They’ve lived their lives being told by everyone around them they’re special, they’re entitled to whatever they want. And if you’re being told that, why wouldn’t you believe it? And it can make you feel like the limits you once put on yourself are loosening. They might believe they’re impervious to getting caught or can conceal their transgressions because of the resources at their disposal.

However, there are also men who have the resources to have sex with as many women as they desire, but choose to remain faithful to one woman. There is always a steady stream of willing females lined up to be a side-fling, reinforcing that such adultery is acceptable and even rewarding. There are equally some women out there that don’t care how much money a man has, they have a moral compass and will not compromise that for material things. I give kudos to these classy women out there who don’t participate in perpetuating that infidelity.

Is Infidelity Not Found In Guys From The Middle To Lower Rungs Of The Socioeconomic Spectrum?

Men from the middle to the lower rungs of the socioeconomic level are equally into cheating. The only difference is that it is more prevalent with the rich. Cheating generally means that you are not fully satisfied with your current partner or you feel that something is missing in the relationship. When men cheat, it basically means that they are looking for something their girlfriend or wife is not providing. Often times, it comes down to sex. Men also like to explore and try new things. When people are in a relationship for a long time, they can't help but start taking their significant other for granted.

A man's partner may be particularly temperamental, cold, or avoidant herself; resentment may have been breeding within the couple he belongs to for weeks, months, maybe years; he may feel distressed at home, work, or within his family. Cheating in these cases may be a man's attempt to escape an arduous situation, regain some sense of control, or simply be reminded that someone desires him — that he's still wanted. Or he may just be bored. People in general – cheat when they want change.

Perhaps one of the most tragic misconceptions about cheating is that people stray because they have fallen out of love with their partners. But research shows that some men don’t cheat because they have fallen out of love with their partners. Rather, they cheat simply because they desire sex with someone else, even if they want to preserve their relationship. The reason cited most frequently is variety. For most people, monogamy does not necessarily provide a lifetime of sexual contentment.

Conclusion

Of course, with money comes confidence, and a confident man with opportunity will cheat more often than the same man with no confidence and less opportunity. Rich men may cheat for a variety of reasons. Too much money may be the straw that breaks the monogamous camel’s back. But the result is usually the same: Positions, reputations and families are irrevocably broken. The emotional scars of broken trust are often raw, often aggravated and sometimes takes years to heal.

However, life can resume after infidelity, if both partners make a concerted effort to rebuild trust, understand what went wrong in the first place, and agree to move forward. Your best bet isn't to avoid men who are wealthy for fear they can never be trusted, but rather you're much better off getting a feel for their character, doing your part to keep the relationship strong, and being sure to establish your own identity outside the relationship — so that, if it ruptures, you're not completely destabilized.

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      Anthony Modungwo 4 months ago from Benin

      Don't Taze Me Bro, If you have read this hub more careful you would have seen this statement concerning some rich men with moral compass, "However, there are also men who have the resources to have sex with as many women as they desire, but choose to remain faithful to one woman." The scandal that accompanied Bill Clinton's cheating and Tiger Woods would not have been if they were not rich and popular men. Most poor men do what they have done without much noise about it, so I still maintain that the rich and powerful men have more to lose.

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      Anthony Modungwo 4 months ago from Benin

      dashingscorpio thanks for a great contribution. The angle of murder really surprised me because that is taking things to the extreme. For women choosing between the rich and the poor, the answer is obvious. They will love the luxurious life even if they don't go for divorce and acquire part of his accumulated wealth.

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      dashingscorpio 4 months ago

      Being rich, famous, or both is likely to give any man more opportunities to cheat because there are lots of women who will throw themselves at such men. They don't care he is married.

      After every NBA game, rock concert, or whatever there women "waiting" for a chance to engage with rich powerful men. Many of them are physically extremely beautiful.

      In addition to women throwing themselves at rich men these guys tend to travel a lot for work or have justifiable reasons for being away from their wives on a regular basis for nights or weeks without causing suspicion. This provides opportunities.

      {Last but not least cheaters don't expect to get caught!}

      The primary goal of most cheaters is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side. Most cheaters have no desire to "replace" one relationship with another one.

      They're looking to "compliment" what they already have.

      In other instances some people cheat in order to stay or tolerate an unhappy marriage. Maybe the rich guy didn't have his wife sign a prenuptial agreement and finds himself in a sexless marriage. After having discussions with his wife there has been no change. He reviews his three options.

      1. Accept things as they are and forget about having sex again.

      2. Run down to the courthouse to file for divorce, split up assets as well as friends & family who choose sides, and become a weekend dad while paying child support and alimony.

      3. Find a woman who DOES want to have sex with him.

      It's no wonder why many men in that situation might find option #3 to be the most attractive.

      They assume they won't be caught and it allows them to maintain their living standard or status quo.

      Having said that some people go with option #4 which is becoming more and more common these days per news stories.

      4. They make arrangements to kill their spouse.

      These twisted people actually believe they will get away with murder, add more money to their wealth from life insurance policies, and keep everything they've accumulated over time.

      Murder makes cheating sound like a misdemeanor and it's also the ultimate example of "risking it all" if they get caught.

      Do rich people cheat more?

      I can't say for sure but I know they have more opportunity to cheat. Imagine being Beyoncé, Denzel Washington, Margot Robbie, or Brad Pitt and you've just had a heated argument with your significant other.

      You know if you walked into any nightclub you could instantly find a stranger willing to go to a hotel with you in a heartbeat.

      It must take a lot of love and self-discipline not to indulge.

      On the flip side it must be very hard to be married to someone who is rich, famous, or considered "hot looking" and have an argument that causes them storm out of the house.

      Everywhere they go there will be open arms waiting for them!

      Nevertheless I believe most women would prefer to be with a rich man over a poor man. If the rich husband cheats they can always take a healthy portion of his net worth.

      Truth be told many (poor) guys cheat too!

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      Paula 4 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      "Risking it all for a fling," is by no means exclusive to rich and powerful men. WHY do they do it? Because multiple partners and spreading their seed is inborn since the dawn of time. Even evolution, civilization, installment of morality, education & creation of laws & rules by man, can be powerful enough to break through the heredity of Genetics, an all-powerful natural tendency and urge.

      While I agree with the excellent comment from Taze, my response is based strictly on the basic instincts of human beings since their introduction to the Universe.

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      Banned cause of pissants promisem and deantraylor 4 months ago from TWO OF THE MANY LYING LIB CRYBABIES OF HUB PAGES

      Sure the richer and more influential a man the more opportunity there is to cheat, however you ask why do they cheat when they have so much to lose. The answer to your question is in your question.

      It has nothing to do with having so much to lose it has everything to do with their moral character which it seems you haven't even considered from what you write here. The only reference you make to morality is that some women "have a moral compass and will not compromise that for material things" as if men don't have a moral compass and women who don't are the reason men don't.

      Plain and simple, a man without the moral characters of fidelity and honesty will always succumb to temptation and cheat and temptation is obviously increased with wealth and popularity and having so much to lose, materially speaking, honestly has nothing to do with it. There is nothing more valuable than one's character and that is the most anyone has to lose. If they don't have character they have nothing to lose to start with.