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Why Do We Dislike Liars?

Updated on June 29, 2015

Liar Liar!

Everybody lies sometimes. Most feel little white lies are not a big deal. However, those who continually lie and seems to compelled to do so about both minor and large things has a serious problem.

Those in this classification are referred to as pathological liars. They lie to make themselves, look good or for personal gain. Sometimes to avoid consequences for something they know they did wrong. It often gets worse over time.

Truth is a standard based on an absolute solid foundation. Honesty reflects our inner character and faith, and helps us keep a clear conscience. It's also a trait many employers seek in their hiring practices.

What is truth?

Most everybody wants to know the same thing. Why do we expect less honesty from politicians than from ordinary folks? Why do we dislike liars? It’s a matter of trust. When a person lies it makes it difficult to believe anything else that individual ever says again. Some are so good it often takes a while to find out we have been lied to.

How can we know when we are being lied to? There is no guaranteed method, but there are frequent clues you can see that should make you suspicious, Here a few:

  • Changes in voice. A variation in voice or rate of speech.

  • Body language. Nervous fidgeting can indicate deception. When lying the person usually puts themselves in a state of stress. Adrenaline increases and the body tends to tense up.

  • Contradicting statements. Making statements crontradicting something they said earlier should raise a red flag. The normal speaking voice becomes slower. Their speech may also become slurred or they might even stutter.

  • Covering the mouth. Studies have shown children have a tendency to cover their mouths when they lie. Many adults do the same.

  • Hiding Hands. If a person abruptly hides their hands it might very well be a signal that person may be telling an untruth. Another signal is continually keeping eye contact. Actually the liar wants to look away, but reasons if they do they will be caught in a lie.

  • Rubbing or clenching fists. Rubbing hands or clenching of fists may indicate a person is experiencing stress. If a person is experiencing stress during a normal conversation it might indicate a person is lying.

So How Big a Problem is it?

Studies have shown most of us are terrible at spotting a liar. Lying is widespread. Studies have shown most people tell about two lies every day.

The Difference Between Being Misled and Lied to

Someone may mislead you truly believing what they said. Most of us have promised something we really meant, only to find later we couldn't deliver. The person on the receiving end may feel like they have been lied to.

How Can We Know?

But how can you know when a person is lying? Give them a chance to give themselves away by letting them talk. Find out how willing they are to talk about things about which you think they may be lying.

Research has revealed liars will tend to use fewer words when talking about something they are lying about. If they are lying, the more information they reveal, the more likely they are to contradict themselves. If someone willingly tells you everything about something but suddenly becomes less talkative or keeps repeating small bits of information, they might very well be trying to cover their tracks.

Most of us forget stuff like a name, or the time something happened.This is normal. Many can't recall small bits of information. However, the more honest you are, the more likely you are to admit you just can't remember. Liars, on the other hand, can seemingly immediately develop photograpic memory or recall unimportant details. Ask yourself “Do they seem anxious to change the subject?” A liar can lie as much by what they don't tell you also. Omitting information is still a lie.






















































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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 years ago

      Will do!

    • JY3502 profile imageAUTHOR

      John Young 

      3 years ago from Florence, South Carolina

      I think you're lying to me. LOL. No, you seem to have a keen insight into this topic Dashing I have so many more hubs, about 888 I think. I stopped after 814 or so for a few years because I was writing for a local church. But now I finished with that and have come back to hubpages. My readership has fallen considerably, but now is on the upswing. I have so many different topics, you need to check out my profile and take a look.

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 years ago

      I believe the main reason why we dislike being lied to is because it erodes our ability to trust and relax. It's also upsetting to discover that someone has made a "fool" out of us.

      Lies are designed to "fool" us and sometimes to impress us about another person. In other instances they're designed to avoid our anger or some type of repercussion towards them. They simply don't want to stop something they know you would disapprove of.

      Lying by omission or telling "half-truths" are the most difficult lies to recognize early. In the instance of lying by omission the person is allowing the (listener) to fill in the blanks or make assumptions without correcting them. This form of lying often allows them to come back with ; "I never said that!" Eventually we learn to listen to what is not said.

      Whenever someone uses half-truths it makes it easy for us to "assume" everything else connected with the story is true.

      Another factor that skews our trust radar is how we feel about that person. If it's someone we love we're likely to give them the benefit of doubt because we want to believe them.

      Some people swear by the "I'll trust anyone until they prove me wrong." philosophy and others go by the "Never trust anyone" philosophy. Both are at opposite extremes! Trusting is a calculated gamble.

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