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Why Would You Be Friends With Benefits?

Updated on February 25, 2015
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Is there a problem with having sex just because?


This is a pretty common relationship in this day and age. Most people know someone that has done this or is doing it. Having intimacy without dating, or without a relationship. Is there ever any harm in this or is it just all fun and games? I know a lot of people who see no wrong in this. I am not talking about a one-night stand; I am talking about frequent get together’s as friends with benefits. Many people fall to this level when they break up with their boyfriend or girlfriend, or just are sick of trying to find that special person. Being friends with benefits can get complicated especially when that person used to be in a relationship with you.

I believe this kind of relationship should really be avoided because it does not help you move on, and just prevents you from finding love with someone who would matter.

Using someone to fulfill your sexual needs just for fun isn’t exactly ideal. What if you met someone you were actually interested in and they find out while you went on a date you were with this other person? That could certainly ruin an opportunity. If you are having benefits with your old boyfriend or girlfriend this can really make it harder to get over them. So many people do this just to hold on to that person. Usually these relationships come about because of the aggravation of failed relationships. But do we really want to waste our lives with someone we aren’t going to be with? It is so different to have sexual benefits with someone you have never been involved with than someone who was deeply involved because that adds emotions regardless if they are welcome or not.

Everyone is different in their views on life and relationships. I always find that there is no purpose to being with someone you are not going to be with in the long run because I don’t want to waste years of my life. Intimacy is not the same without love. Just being with someone only to sleep with them seems kind of promiscuous to me. Have you ever had a friend with benefits? Was there any purpose to this, and how long did it last? Do you feel embarrassed or regretful? Eventually this ends, so what is the point? It can be nearly impossible to have sex without developing feelings or feeling awkward. I know that I would never consider having a person in my life just for this, but many people disagree.

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