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Why I Love To Write For Men Who Wear Lingerie

Updated on October 16, 2009

As anyone who reads my hubs will have noticed, I write a great deal of material for men who wear lingerie. Why? Because it's fun, because I think it is an important subject, perhaps not ostensibly but for the message which underlies it, and because the men who read these articles are, without a doubt, some of the loveliest men I have had the fortune to be read by.

Men who wear lingerie do tend to be more sensitive than the males, more aware of the way a female mind works. This is advantageous in relationships of all kinds. It shows in the way these men interact even online. Where writing about other topics will inevitably bring a slew of trolls, angry purists and general dissenters, (all of whom are amusing on one level or another), writing on mens lingerie, lingerie for men and related topics has been an almost singularly pleasurable experience.

The men who read these articles contribute and share from places they probably rarely get to share from in their daily lives, except in the case of the lucky ones who have wives or girlfriends who accept and support their lingerie 'habits'.

It is a pity that many men who wear lingerie feel marginalized and even more of a pity that some women think that a man who wears lingerie isn't a 'real man'. My experiences, both real and virtual, have lead to the discovery that there is nothing unmanly about men who wear lingerie, instead there is a multi dimensional depth.

Men who wear lingerie have had to question themselves. They've had to come to terms with a desire that puts them outside the realm of the normal. This process often leads them to be more understanding with regards to the foibles of others. How many people secretly harbour feelings or desires that they repress for fear of being judged. Women feel as much pressure as men to conform to an acceptable kind of femininity (in the case of men, masculinity). How freeing it is to experience a relationship where one can be what one wants to be, not what one is supposed to be.

That's why I love writing for men who wear lingerie. Because they are fun, expressive multidimensional creatures ready to engage in real conversation. This is not to say that men who don't wear lingerie are single dimensional neanderthals. Every man is different. However my experiences writing these articles have shown a lovely side to men who wear lingerie that deserves to be articulated.

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      Don Witten 8 years ago

      Excellent article!!!

      I enjoy everything you write!

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      Gunnau 8 years ago from Central Coast NSW Australia

      Hi Hope

      If i could jump down the wire that connects us over the thousands of miles to give you a hug right now i would.

      You are a great supporter and inspiration to us that love to wear lingerie and i don't know a man or woman that subscibes to your hub that don't look forward to reading your latest thoughts.

      In a time of fashion houses taking tentative steps towards something other than standard trousers, shirts and horrible suits, you inspire us to at least wear something nicer under the horrible clothing we are expected to wear.

      I personally thank you from the heart and hope (no pun intended) you will continue to write in support and inspire us all to wear what really feels good to us all. Man or Woman.

      I love you and wish you all the happieness in the world.

      Steve.

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      Gunnau 8 years ago from Central Coast NSW Australia

      Hi Hope

      If i could jump down the wire that connects us over the thousands of miles to give you a hug right now i would.

      You are a great supporter and inspiration to us that love to wear lingerie and i don't know a man or woman that subscibes to your hub that don't look forward to reading your latest thoughts.

      In a time of fashion houses taking tentative steps towards something other than standard trousers, shirts and horrible suits, you inspire us to at least wear something nicer under the horrible clothing we are expected to wear.

      I personally thank you from the heart and hope (no pun intended) you will continue to write in support and inspire us all to wear what really feels good to us all. Man or Woman.

      I love you and wish you all the happieness in the world.

      Steve.

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      LatexLeah 8 years ago

      You forgot to mention we generally like shopping, understand why women need 450 pairs of shoes and will sometimes even acknowledge that there is more than one shade of red. :)

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      SatinSatan 8 years ago

      Thank you Hope, my wife knows and approves bt it is nice to know you do to.

      X

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      Hope Alexander 8 years ago

      Hi guys :) I am glad you enjoy reading these articles as much as I enjoy writing them. I hope to continue doing so for a long time to come!

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      likewhatiam 8 years ago

      Hope you are the best I just wish all woman were as open minded as you are.Keep up the great Hubs our Queen of pantymen.

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      ILoveLingerie 8 years ago

      Great article and I can only congratulate you on your attitude.

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      Jerry 8 years ago

      Thanks Hope, for all you do....

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      david 8 years ago

      Thank you Hope for writing all these articles. You are awesome.

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      Alison 8 years ago

      I couldn't agree more! Thank you.

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      Mikki 8 years ago

      Geeze Hope, you made my eyes water a bit.

      I've wondered what you get out of these conversations... perhaps I now have a bit more insight to your interest and seemingly limitless understanding of our conundrum. At some point in time we will all get to the point where we are blind to the foibles of others and more aware of our own growth.

      Your continuing fan,

      Mikki

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      Newbie 8 years ago

      Hi Hope,

      Wow! You've got me again! Your understanding of lingerie lovers like me is truely awesome.Thanks to you I am now living my life for me and wearing clothes that I like.

      Great stuff, and I look forward to more.

      Your Fan Forever,

      Newbie

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      Grateful 8 years ago

      Thanks to Hope Alexander. Its almost necessary for me to wear a bra despite being male. Hearing anyone who is respectful of that always makes me feel less stigmatized.

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      Still Hiding 7 years ago

      Hope,

      I just found your blog and must say it gives me some relief. I haven't "come clean" with my wife about my lingerie and cross dressing yet. She knows that I shave my legs and underarms. Funny that she'll comment when my armpit hair needs attention but "puts up" with my leg shaving. One of these days I may get up the courage to have "the conversation".

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      Seo 7 years ago

      What a sensitive, intelligent and attractive writer and person is hope! I have to agree with the other writers. Keep blogging.

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      Not quite ready to use an established internet moniker 7 years ago

      Hi, Hope. I stumbled across your writings a few weeks ago, and while there is a lot I'd like to say, let me start by saying this: thank you.

      I speak (write) from the perspective of someone who's pushing the big 3-0 age-wise, and has only within the last eight months or so really began to even entertain the idea of accepting having a lingerie fetish after roughly a decade of being really embroiled in it (although in actuality it goes back further than that, but ehn, minor details) and hating myself for it every step of the way. I cannot begin to describe how tremendously beneficial and self-confidence-building it is to see it not only be warmly accepted, but even encouraged by someone from the "other" side of the fence.

      After reading your writings, and having talked to a therapist about it (who told me I should embrace it) and confessed it to a close female friend (who not only accepted it totally but even discusses it with me openly now), I have resolved to work on self-acceptance by being more open about it. Posting this is a step in that direction.

      Thank you for giving me someplace to feel comfortable opening up in, and please, don't ever quit writing.

      Oh, also, I read the "am I a man or woman" post too. You're downright adorable. :)

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      indrag13 7 years ago

      I love you Hope, you are great!

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      AnotherGuy7 7 years ago

      I just came across this website tonight. My girlfriend recently found out I enjoyed wearing womens clothing and we have been struggling to figure out where to go from here since. I have thoroughly enjoyed your articles and I'm real glad that there is someone like you out there. Keep up the good fight and thanks.

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      Mike 7 years ago

      Hope,

      I love you. Don't get me wrong. I an IN love with my wife. After 20+ years, of being limited in my "enjoyment" to the occassional times she visted family. I finally decided that panties brough me to much joy, and confort to deny any longer. The "conversation" once I got the nerve, went far more easily than one would think. My beauitiful wife's only concern was that I not stretch HERS out ( I had pilfered a couple pair for the above mention opportunities ).

      I don't know if my wearing panties does anything for her ( turns her on ), but she always comments on my choice of the day??? I have found a new love for her, in her acceptance. And I think she, for myself in in my honesty, and trust in her to share this part of me.

      I am all man in every other way, and I have no desire for ( or delusions of ) looking, feeling, or being feminine. But there is something about wearing panties ( very feminine panties ) that brings me peace, comfort, and contentment. There is also an erotic aspect, but it is only a small part of wearing, shopping for, and admiring panties. nDeep down, I always knew these things, but your writings, ( and the responses ) have helped to make them clear in my mind.

      I don't think. I do love you.

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