ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Why She Put You In The Friend Zone

Updated on May 6, 2014

I have a friend that is always being put in the friend zone, I’m starting to feel bad for him. It’s nothing against him personally; as one of his buds I know he would treat a girl right, but he never gets the chance.

The same thing happens to him every time: he meets a girl, spends time with them for a few weeks, and when he wants to take to the next level, she hits him with the “You’re great, but I think of you as just a friend” bomb.

That statement always hurts. Like being stabbed with a rusty knife, putting your hand on a salt-filled stove, being a Cubs’ fan, it’s the worst thing. It does happen to the best of us, but it shouldn’t happen all the time. Here is probably the reason why you have the same chance with her as her brother.

You Waited Too Long

These days, thanks to the internet and mobile apps, dating multiple people at the same time is very common. I almost guarantee you that the girl you’re on this first date with is probably seeing 1 or more guys. Dating is becoming less the way to find and more of a game of survivor; it’s competitive, dirty, and going on way longer than it should. It could be very likely that you’re the one that she likes the most, but if you wait too long to make that move and make her yours, this will be the only time that she’ll take the man that comes first.

You Made Yourself Too Available


Woman are notorious for wanting things they can’t have; the dress they can’t afford, the really fattening cheesecake, Ryan Gosling shirtless serving them a margarita. The same goes with guys. The more you make yourself available, the more she’ll get bored with you. The object is to leaving wanting more, keep her intrigued.

Do not make her your number one priority. For example, when you start seeing her, don’t take her out on a Friday or Saturday night. Try a weekend afternoon or weekday night, but make her believe you have bigger priorities on the weekends. She’ll want to know what’s your nightlife is like and it’ll keep you on her mind.

You’re Too Nice

“Nice guys finish last.” Huge cliché, making the Hulk look like Tyrion Lannister with his legs cut off huge, but there’s usually a reason why these are clichés, because they’re true. Always texting and asking how her day was, being a shoulder to cry on; you think this is going to get her picturing you as the perfect guy for her, but all she is saying is that she’s so lucky to have such a great friend available to her.

I’m not saying be a full on asshole to her, I’m suggesting do not go out of your way to do things for her. If it’s something that takes no effort on your part, than do it, besides that don’t bother. Most guys are doing whatever they can to get her attention, not doing so will make you stand out and it’ll intrigued her as to why.

You Put Her On A Pedistal

Or as I call it Helen of Troy Syndrome. Men sometimes hold woman up as some higher life form that we cannot are worthy of. When we do this, we have already lost the battle. A woman will know when she can take advantage of you and she take it as far as she can.

You need to treat as just another person. If you two are at a bar together, have her pay for a round. She'll know that just can't get anything for you without giving something back.

You Weren’t Confident Enough To Flirt

You want to sleep with this woman? You have to put in the notion that you want to sleep with this woman. You have to get her thinking that you can more than friends with her and that takes flirting. Find ways to touch her, grab her hand, whisper in her ear. Body contact will create some sexual tension, it will get her thinking about other body parts of yours.

Make her laugh. Most woman say what they look for in a man is humor. You’ll keep her attention you can keep a smile on her face.

Make the bold moves. Tell her she looks sexy in that dress, invite her to your apartment after the bar. Make sure she knows that you are interesting in her as more friend.

Have you been put in the friend zone?

See results

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)