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Top Ten Reasons You Should Get Married Benefits Of Marriage

Updated on October 14, 2013

Is marriage necessary these days? Why should anyone consider marriage? Is marriage old fashioned and outdated? Here are a list of reasons why you should marry.

I’ve seen discussions in some forums talking about whether or not marriage is important or necessary anymore. Why should a person even consider it these days? Women are now self sufficient why do they need men? Men now know how to cook and keep house why do they need women?

It’s easy for young people to ask these questions especially those who came from broken homes seeing only bad that can come from marriage. Part of the problem is people’s views on marriage and what it really is. It’s not a prison sentence set out to control anyone. It’s a life long commitment to the person you love and want to be with the rest of your life. Not everyone finds that special someone but many of us have.

Believe it or not there are many very good reasons to get married and I thought I’d mention a few.


1) Two can live cheaper than one.

Roommates share some things but married people share even more.

Sharing a house, utilities, insurance, transportation, furniture, a bed and bedroom, appliances and other assets can save a couple a lot of money.

Filing your taxes jointly saves you a lot. You can’t do that if you are only living together. There are tax breaks for married people helping you keep more of your own money.

Couples that live together but aren't married often keep their money separate collecting interest individually so they don't see the same benefits as married couples.

Young men think getting married is expensive and having a wife will cost too much but studies show that it is more expensive for a man to be single. He has to wine, dine and entertain women hoping to get lucky. Attached guys go home to their wives and don't have to buy them a trinket or take them out all the time to get physical affection.



2) Insurance

Some states let you put another person on as a dependent whether you are married or not, but most will not. Companies give a break on your premiums for a spouse, which can save you a lot of money.

Some companies make you prove any children outside of marriage are yours before allowing you to add them on your account and some won't acknowledge any offspring born out of wedlock.


3) Stability for children

If you don’t plan to have kids this may not be a big deal but unless you practice several methods of contraception or are celibate there is always a chance of getting pregnant or getting someone else pregnant.

Kids need to have one place to call home; being shuffled back and forth between houses is disruptive. I know many families do this successfully but having one room to call their own and knowing where they will be each and everyday is a much better arrangement.



4) Hospital stay

Some states and hospitals will only let spouses and sometimes close family in the room during serious medical situations like the intensive care unit or recovery room. If your significant other has been in a car accident or is dying you may not be allowed in the room unless you are married.


5) Health


Men's health

Married men live longer than single men. There is a lot of speculation on this one from nurturing, to wives making sure they go to the doctor. I make sure my husband eats healthy so perhaps diet also has something to do with it. Single men are more apt to eat junk food and not go to the doctor.

Studies have shown that single men are more prone to alcoholism and drug abuse. Maybe a wife makes sure married men take better care of themselves or perhaps single guys are depressed. There's also the opinion that married men have more of a reason to stay off the bad stuff since he has a family to take care of.

In old age spouses take care of each other. Sure you can have a roommate but they won’t notice a spot on your back or other intimate parts of your body like a husband or wife will. Married people see little subtle differences in behavior and health others don’t see.


Women's health


Although women tend to make less money when married and she has the added housework, laundry and other responsibilities, women are less depressed and happier when married.

Females have an inborn need to take care of others and having a family gives her a feeling of purpose. Granted there are bad marriages in which a woman is not mentally healthy but overall women gain more benefits from monogamy than being single.


6) Assets-

People who are married automatically inherit any property belonging to their spouse.

Unmarried people only inherit things listed in a specific will. Unless you keep an updated will at all times your assets will go to your next of kin whether you want them to have it or not. (If you keep a will it must be notarized and depending on your state laws may have to be written by a lawyer to be valid.)

Leaving a house or money to a person who is not your spouse will cost them a huge tax penalty. The government looks at a spouse as already owning those things so there is no transfer tax but if you leave assets to a friend a big percentage of it goes to Uncle Sam.

Check with your state laws to learn the details but overall most married people don't even need a will to insure their assets go to their spouse.



7) Sexually Transmitted Diseases

I realize some husbands and wives cheat and can still bring home an STD but in most cases this does not occur.

I have dozens of friends and out of all of them only three have had spouses that stepped out on them. There are too many things you can catch that will change your life or even end it. Being with the same person every night gives peace of mind.



8) Healthy love life


When polled married men were more satisfied and enjoyed more frequency than single guys.

Women didn't show a noticeable different in satisfaction but married women felt more comfortable when having conjugal relations.

Knowing your partner's every move, needs and desires makes for a happier love life.



9) Stability

I talked about a child feeling more secure knowing where they will be each night; it is equally comforting for an adult knowing whom you will sleep with and feeling relaxed since they’ve seen every scar and blemish before.

The uncertainty of dating can be tiring and stressful always trying to impress another person. I’m not saying you don’t have to try with your husband or wife because you certainly do, but you can let your hair down, take your make up off and put on your comfy clothes without worrying about not looking good enough all the time.

Some think sleeping with the same person every night will get boring and old. That can happen but mostly people enjoy the familiarity of knowing a person’s likes and dislikes. You know your spouse’s wants and where all the “on” buttons are. With a new person you have to figure it out each time.

There is comfort in familiarity.


10) Home is where your spouse is.


There is a familiarity and warmth you feel with your marriage partner you don’t feel with anyone else. They are your family, your friend and your other half. Without them you don’t feel complete. Seeing their face, feeling their arms and breathing in their scent feels like home no matter where you are.

I’ve known military men who didn’t feel settled until his wife moved house, home and children to where he was stationed. The minute he walked in the door he felt at home even though he’d never been there before simply because his wife was there.


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    • SpiffyD profile image

      SpiffyD 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Beautiful. Those are the points that are often forgotten in debates about marriage. I'm sure that there's a counterpoint to every one of the points, but they are strong arguments in favour of marriage. Voted up, useful and interesting.

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      Charlotte B Plum 5 years ago

      This is definitely true, I do agree with what you say. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

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      Amanda 5 years ago

      Exactly why we should allow homosexual marriage across the US. Ewhy should they not g

      get these benefits?

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      50 Caliber 5 years ago from Arizona

      Pamela, an interesting article with valid points in many ways, I think, for me, the answers are in my rule book, that seems to be considered out dated and of little value in regard to this topic that is widely disputed in these days of secular rules and views. I choose the Biblical stance here and it includes many of your views but it is a topic of hard lines in the sand that are in full disregard in the US today. I find it a sad situation for many and I also find celibacy my best choice because I found a few decades back that the honoring of vows had ended in large by all sides of the issue. I realize that there are exceptions to that statement but they are like rare gems, hard to find. Thanks for a thoughtful read, 50

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks for reading, Spiffy and Charlotte.

      Amanda, this is exactly why so many homosexual people are trying to get the laws changed. It is really sad to see a couple separated at the end simply because they are not legally married.

      Dusty, marriage isn't for everyone but for some of us it's a happy way of life.

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      QudsiaP1 5 years ago

      Very strategically placed points. Well done.

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      Rose Clearfield 5 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

      This is SUCH a great topic for this day and age where marriage and traditional family values take a back seat for so many people. Thanks for posting!

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      Angie Jardine 5 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

      Good points, Pamela ... and these are exactly why my marriage is so comfortable, only I didn't have the wit to put it so clearly.

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      marellen 5 years ago

      Pam..more good advice for your book....Great advice..

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      WillStarr 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      There are host of good reasons, and surprisingly, romance is not be the most important. If more marriages were based on the old fashioned, common sense reasons, like you have listed here, there would be far fewer divorces.

      Excellent and thoughtful hub.

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks for reading Qudsia.

      Randomcreative, it does seem that marriage is not longer important to many.

      Glad to hear your marriage is going strong, Angie.

      Thanks, marellen.

      Will, romance is only a small part of marriage. After the honeymoon there are years of love and commitment but we have to work at it.

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      Lisa Kroulik 5 years ago from Minnesota

      I agree with what you have written. At my last job, I was one of the few people in my group of friends who was actually married and not just living together. Although the women said they didn't care, I know the lack of commitment bothered them and they wanted what I have.

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      Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

      Very nicely done Pamela. You have many great reasons to get married ....and your points are very very true...voted up and useful.

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Nybride, I think a lot of people would like to be in a happy union but not sure how to go about it.

      Thanks for reading, Cogerson.

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      Glenn Stok 5 years ago from Long Island, NY

      Very nicely done. Extremely good points you've made. Voted up and useful.

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks, Glenn.

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      Thomas Silvia 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      All great points and advice in this well written hub !

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      Nellieanna Hay 5 years ago from TEXAS

      Pamela - this is both so beautiful and practical, I'm truly blown away. You're right on all counts. I've long felt sad that so much so-called 'humor' is gender-bashing, poking fun of and contempt on marriage, lowering expectations and hope for finding compatibility and joy with a person who 'fits' and shares the aim to build a home. I've experienced both a terrible marriage and an ideal one. Of course, the difference was mostly in being more alert and better prepared to make the wiser choices myself. But even with the terrible one, my own goal and purpose was to see it through to the "death part" promise. It just wasn't possible. But if one goes into marriage as merely a tentative possibility - it is almost doomed to crash and burn with the first few challenges which are inevitable when melding two lives into a harmony rather than being a power-position for the use of one of the people involved or just a continuous dual cacophony & battleground. It does require intention, work and real love. Obviously the way young folks jump into it with no preparation can become a boomerang, with kids the ones hit by it the worst.

      By the way - I love that Beatles "And I Love Her"!

      As you say so beautifully, though - a good marriage is a precious and wonderful relationship. Bravo! Voting and rating it UP!

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks, Kashmir.

      Nellie, I walked down the aisle to that song, I love it too. Thanks for reading.

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      Nellieanna Hay 5 years ago from TEXAS

      An ideal wedding song! :-)

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      fashion 5 years ago

      An interesting article with valid points in some ways.

      I like it

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks for reading, fashion.

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      prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Very inspiring hub, Pamela. I hope I can get married soon. But I should find my soul mate to fill my heart. But thanks to remind me about this. I got new motivation now. Well done and I give my vote to you. Have a nice weekend, cheers...

      Prasetio

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thanks for reading, Prasetio and good luck finding your mate.

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      Binaya.Ghimire 5 years ago

      I'm single and I found your hub very amusing.

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      Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

      Binaya, someday you may find that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. You never know.

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      Care Bear 4 years ago from Idaho

      Well, according to the comments here, this was posted quite a while ago... But I just have to say that I completely agree with everything you said. I am very happily married to the man of my dreams and each of the points you mentioned is valid and true.

      It must have been in a comment to this hub, but I think I read on this page somewhere that marriage shouldn't necessarily be based on romance. I think I agree with this even more than the points that were brought up in the hub itself. I think the best relationships often begin with friendship and trust and a mutual willingness to get to know each other casually.

      Thanks for your thoughts!

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      Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma

      Thank you for reading, Care Bear. Sex is important and that is part of romance so I have to say it's pretty important to keep it alive even though it won't be at the top of the list.

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