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Why Women Are So Catty?

Updated on July 29, 2014

It is what it is...

How can we explain this? We will give it a try!

This would be the counterpart of 'boys will be boys' sort of..!

Honestly it would be hard to explain on this very complex subject, but this is our thought on the matter -- we are so bold!.

Women tend to speak more than us males. We have that one clear. Just think of those vocal chords that were set to a sharper level than ours, the 'homo-erectus-non-sapient.'

From the time we started to leave our caves for hunting and fishing, sisterhood of 'survival' was already in the making. A Paleolithic approach to "wait honey, Sarah and I are going to the bathroom to update some matters."

Women were supposed to behave and accept their roles as mothers, wives and important partners. However, why did they have to settle for trendy fashions like that overrated skirts? Why not those slacks or pants? Well, if you were Oscar Wilde, probably you could've gotten away with it, but not so easy if you, let's say, were a 13 years old born to an Amish family in Ole Lancaster Pennsylvania.

The Mall Syndrome

When our ladies and their female friends, walk through the mall, they exchange words like: "No she didn't!! You've seen that bitch wearing a mini-skirt with no under wear?" to the, "Who she think she is?" Women were prone to look around and express themselves with no reserves.

It is something close to having ultra x-ray vision for all. "Oh my...that was Charlie, going out with another woman. Let me take a picture with my cell. Finally I can show Paula that she was so wrong for not believing in me. I knew it! I EF-ing knew it!!"

Not of your business!!

If a girlfriend of yours is at that bathroom next to you and checks your 'Vera Wang' dressing and even plays with your blouse, jewelry, jackets... then that 'Sisterhood approach' will be rolled out on a red carpet.

But, let someone come in the bathroom, and give an honest opinion on your makeup, or just dare to criticize a non matching color from head to toe; most likely they will look at her like... 'are you talking to me?' or, "Why don't YOU mind your own business."

How about, "If you're not going to say something nice, then do not!...repeat, do not say anything at all!! Sarah, please, you better tell this lady to leave us alone. You know me well child! Save her life and tell her to leave us alone." Moral: sisterhood is just for 'BFFs'.


From sharing to gossiping and back to sharing...

Ever seen your little sister and her 'BFF' exchanging information, and shut up automatically, until they make sure you leave their room? If mom and your aunt did it, then it comes naturally.

What's the first thing you, as a woman do, when you see another femme, dressing scantily? Even if you don't say something, your brain starts to recreate these subtle, malicious thoughts: "Who is she trying to impress?" or the most hurtful one: "She is so desperate! I'm glad I'm not in her shoes!"


You raise your eyebrows to see-through brassieres. Just think of the Oscar's, what was your reaction to Jennifer Lopez, wearing a 'malfunctioning' dress code, for her latest boy toy?

That auto-thought

Believe it or not there is this perfect harmonious thinking that make women categorize other women in their looks (sloppy), the way they work, or even behave.

"She is so childish!" Women's brains are set up to see, evaluate, smell, and even do mental comparisons. For some, who honestly admit it, is a load, that is carried along with the partner's credit card on a Saturday afternoon.

So, saying this, it seems natural to have this default setting for women to be catty and critical. Women criticize other women because of 'how' they feel about themselves. Just think about it: They want to know how other women rank, who is better, prettier, stronger, or slightly more successful. And if possible use harsh remarks to get there. And some might deny it. Shh! the auto-thought is preset.


You males set boundaries, now deal with us, little bastards! (moving that neck in circles)

"we weren't 'supposed' to break stuff, right Charles? Now you deal with our suppressed egos!"

Women had to live in this double standard society from birth. Why instead of Charlie's Angels. we could've had, 'Charlize's Demons'? Or go back and see, 'Wonder man' or Hugh Hefner along with other two old timers, massaging Sophia Vergara's... you know, back?

From generation to generation women had to 'choke' down anger, swallow up aggression and competition, only to have it leak out in a catty or passive-aggressive or critical ways (self-critical and to others). Unjust limitations, and lower wages than their 'Macho' counterparts fed a subconscious evaluation of things in real timing.

Psychologically, women got tired and frustrated. Somehow THEY began to develop this subtle thinking, that every choice someone else made was in direct challenge to theirs. The outlet for many was to humiliate their counterparts publicly in the name of 'social status.'


Women are unique, and deserve respect from us males. If they are 'Catty,' just step back a few inches and let them be. Is a human condition, and at least they are already taking our s## on Superbowl Sunday. This will hardly ever change. Unless, perhaps, however, we let them make more money, and give up (me, you, and our President) that joint Bank Account for them to manage with no restrictions at all. After all, women are needed. They are our moms, sisters, girlfriends and partners on this earth. End of discussion!


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  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Hi Tammy,

    You know better, we drive like we are running out of time. The worst thing it can happen to us, is to see older cars going at 45 miles/hr. on a 65-70 miles/hr lane. If women are classy, then they are keeping the balance against the gossipers. Interesting mentioning.


  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Good to see you in here Rondha Waits,

    you seem to be a cool BFF. I guess what we wrote is pretty accurate and some ladies can relate. Take care and thnaks for stopping by. Will check your son's hubs


  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Hi Flora Breen Robison,

    Shame that women cannot get along, when they know better..! We men are still from mars, and have our brains between our...arms. Hope you get your problems straighten up and move on. Thanks for stopping by.


  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Lol! Martie Coetzer,

    Your comment gives so many good lessons for us men..and ladies with a sharpen paw. I agree that we men gossip as well, and it shows. When we go beyond the level of respect, we are just degrading ourselves. Thanks Martie!


  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    I agree with you BarberGirl28,

    I took my own risk, in jumping on this issue. Was fun doing too.


  • tammyswallow profile image


    9 years ago from North Carolina

    I have noticed in the South, the women are really classy and the men get catty. The men do most of the gossiping too. I know things are much different in NJ.. you must have a very thick skin to live there, drive there... Interesting hub. Meooowww..

  • Rhonda Waits profile image

    Rhonda Musch 

    9 years ago from The Emerald Coast

    I certainly agree with this. Gotta go shop and call my BFF. Great hub and voted up and awesome.

    Sweet wishes Rhonda.

  • FloraBreenRobison profile image


    9 years ago

    When it comes to how women treat each other compared to how men treat each other, no doubt women can treat each other very badly. Men never do this to each other but rather argue over big things only.

    I've been treated worse by some women than I have by some men, actually. It goes against what some would expect that last sentence I made since you would think that women would understand what it is like to be women, but no.

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Hi pinkchic18, glad you enjoyed it. Was fun writing it too. Thanks for stopping by. Have a nice one


  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Hi Marcoujor,

    Cattiness is all over, and like you said, is actually instilled in both sexes, but 'purrly' appropiated by the femmes. We males, do not pull hairs or scratch faces. we aim for the target. You are such an awesome hub friend..and thsnks for your words of encouragement.


  • MartieCoetser profile image

    Martie Coetser 

    9 years ago from South Africa

    Lord, your observations are certainly indisputable. I honestly confess that when hurt or threatened I can literally feel my nails and teeth grow into claws and tusks.


    Some - many - women know how to control the cat in them. It is beneath their dignity to expose the cat in them.

    Only their BFF will know about the cat...

    And, of course, the man who is able to pull the cat by its tail out of them. He will see the most interesting cat no other man or woman will ever see. If he is clever and wise and treats the cat with the admiration and respect cats deserve, he will reap the benefits. If he is a nincompoop, he will suffer the consequences of his behavior.

    Also keep in mind that women - educated, strong women - are able to be just as professional and rational as men, performing on managerial level even better than men, while men are not at all able to be true, warm-blooded CATS.

    Imagine the emotions of a man with a real tiger purring in his arms?

    But yes, the common woman with a common alley-cat in her soul, is to be deplored. They normally don't have any interests besides their bodies and babies and the man they have in their claws. Everything else are threads to be attacked and demolished in a catty way.

    Great hub, voted up and interesting :)

  • barbergirl28 profile image

    Stacy Harris 

    9 years ago from Hemet, Ca

    This was a fun hub... glad that you as a male wrote it... can you imagine all the cat fights that might emerge if a women would have said this! LOL

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Thanks Marcie Goodfleish for those important thoughts on another delicate issue, that knocks everybody's door. Your points are important and quite welcome.


  • Vinaya Ghimire profile image

    Vinaya Ghimire 

    9 years ago from Nepal

    The Mall Syndrome and not of your business are some of the attitudes I have spotted in women. Your observation is very interesting.

  • Lord De Cross profile imageAUTHOR

    Joseph De Cross 

    9 years ago from New York

    Lol! AA Zavala!

    I can imagine you breaking apart a fight... all because, they didn't like the other's opinion. This is a real issue everywhere along with bullying, of course. We men take the issue with our fists, women will 'pull' each others intentions. Glad you stopped by my friend. have a good day. Where is the party Epi!


  • Pinkchic18 profile image

    Sarah Carlsley 

    9 years ago from Minnesota

    Interesting stuff! I thought that video was pretty funny too!

  • marcoujor profile image

    Maria Jordan 

    9 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

    Oh LORD,

    I can see clearly that you are a beautiful man. I love the way you ended your hub in particular.

    I once received the highest compliment in my life from the all male staff I supervised... "Maria, you are one of the boys." I happen to really like cats as animals. I, as a woman, despise cattiness in anyone.

    In my least favorite job ever, where I had to oversee 650 employees, there was perhaps a 50/ 50 ratio of men and women. I will humbly assert that I have direct evidence that cattiness exists in both feminine and masculine versions, at least in the healthcare system. I still prefer my cats to be my pets.

    I love your range of writing subjects. You are a risk taker and you give much food for thought to your readers.

    Have a fabulous day. Hugs, mar.

  • Marcy Goodfleisch profile image

    Marcy Goodfleisch 

    9 years ago from Planet Earth

    These are very interesting observations - I do think women are trained from childhood to view each other with a filter. This is largely to do with the massive dose of what's fashionable and stylish (including body shapes) that we are now subjected to. A few centuries ago, if you look at older literature, the qualities of women were discussed (she has a sweet manner, she is pure of heart, etc.). To be certain, there was still a focus on fashion, but it seems we have left out the other factors in current society.

    Something is bad wrong with our world when nine-year-old girls who are bone thin start thinking they're 'too fat.'

    Voted up, useful and interesting!

  • A.A. Zavala profile image

    Augustine A Zavala 

    9 years ago from Texas

    This is my perspective on the matter, as I've been fully trained and domesticated by women. I also supervise two shifts comprised primarily of women.

    Women tend to watch others, and will speak up with their opinions because there isn't much retribution against them. Men who voice their opinion to other guys understand that this could lead to arguments ending with a fist fight. We're cool with it because at least we can act on it.

    Cat fights are not as exciting or glamourous as they sound. Getting in the middle of one is much different than the fantasy also. I don't know why I'm thinking of cat fights, must have got distracted by the catty remarks of my employees.


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