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Why Women Want Rich Men

Updated on February 26, 2008

I'd like to shed some light on this subject for the men out there. It's well-known that men and women are largely predisposed to a certain gender-based pattern of thinking, and as a result, we analyze, process, and perceive life differently. We are simply wired that way from birth.

Although I cannot speak for all women, as a female myself, I feel qualified to speak on behalf of at least most women.

So, is it true that women only want rich men? Yes and no. It depends on the woman and her definition of "rich". Yes, it is true that there are many, many women out there that can be classified as "golddiggers" (some of them self-proclaimed) whose primary objective is to strictly date financially profound men in order to acquire as much of his capital as possible. These are the women that make the rest of us look bad. They're money-motivated, usually highly attractive and/or manipulative with no concept of independence or loyalty whatsoever. They prey on wealthy men because they depend on them for their own survival and use their looks or charm to gain a free ride through life at the man's expense, quickly disposing of and replacing him if the cash or jewelry flows short. They know their game, have mastered it and will fight dirty if necessary. This is not the kind of woman you want to plan a future with or bring home to Mom.

Scary, isn't it? The silver lining to this cloud is that I truly believe that those women are the exception, not the rule.

The majority of us do want rich men, myself included, but we want a man that is rich in integrity, humor and honesty instead of dollars. Don't get me wrong-I mean, nobody wants to reside under the local interstate in a corrugated cardboard abode, eating beans from a can watching the kids suffer from tuberculosis. Most women aren't likely to be attracted to a guy who lives in his grandmother's basement eating Slim-Jims and playing video games all day. There needs to be some ambition, drive or motivation to succeed...not necessarily to be rich, but succeed meaning motivation to utilize any skills or talents that exist in order to reach his full potential. This benefits the woman too, but it's a selfless desire; a good woman will notice something in a man--a certain spark or natural ability that she believes in, encouraging him to maximize on that feature so that HE can experience his own climax of achievement(My husband calls this "nagging").

The bottom line is this: True, strong women seek character, not carats.

And no, nice guys do not finish last. We marry them.


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      lulu 2 years ago

      just trying to find some info here. My friend (well was my friend) has recently been saying things like this. I saw a guy I liked on the street and told her he worked in a bar. She said oh, he has nice long legs, he would be good for a one night stand; but you can do better than that. I was shocked, since when is a man classified as only one night stand material. I told her no he is not good for JUST a one night stand. I could not believe it. Then the other day, we were in a store and she hit it off right away with this guy, they had a lot in common and she told us she found he was handsome and she gave him her number. Once back in the car, first thing she asks us is "do you think he has money". Female, but I can not stand another woman who is out for money only. People are people not just money buckets. It just disgusts me.

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      jay 2 years ago

      I have many

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      jen 3 years ago

      yes there is attractive sexy hot young women who still look for love ,,and im one of them im lucky to have a rich succesful bussiness men who have very big heart who cares and support me in every step of the way ! yes i need love and money at the same time in this erra why do i chose a nasty man who only knows to do is a shitty ! no way!!

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      zz 4 years ago

      So much of this is true about women wanting nothing but money. My ex fiancé left me just before Christmas and cited me being tight with money. I did hit some hard times in these past year but I was doing alright, was able to do nice things for her. I loved her more than anything and she even said I was her soul mate. She also earned more money that I did, but I was not bothered by that. Two weeks after she dumped me she is dating this very wealthy guy. He gives her expensive gifts to my knowledge, pays off her car, and buys her a ring much larger than I could afford. Just over two months after she dumps me she is engaged to this guy. It is true, true love is dead and doesn't matter anymore.

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      gk 4 years ago

      Every comment has truth to it. All there is in this world are needs and wants. And this is true of everyone. To have nothing is to be free but if you have drive and desire you will acquire and for woman drive and desire are attractive attributes so hand in hand one with the other just remember modern day women don't make good mothers,they are selfish they cry I just want to die I need a new life, hey look a rich guy, imagine the life we could live on his

      money and hey he's kinda cute and sometimes he's funny. The truth is ugly love is an act displayed when mutual needs and wants are met and when they are not met they will be found elsewhere. Give them nothing take them nowhere don't fall in love stupid and don't get married fuckem and fuckem off so my fellow brothers shed ur insecurities and live free wake up each morning with fresh possibilities for the day. Spend your earnings on living life and enjoy an assortment of women with no commitment. Peace

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      Very Seriously Speaking 4 years ago

      Well if only we had a REAL TIME MACHINE to send these LOSER WOMEN back in time to see what it was really like when many men and women had to STRUGGLE To SURVIVE.

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      Ben 5 years ago

      i certainly wish that we could bring back the women like June Cleaver and Donna Reed were. the good old fashion women that were VERY COMMITTED to their men back then.

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      Levertis Steele 5 years ago from Southern Clime

      When the carats are more important than the character, there is a problem. Great hub!

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      Never Wrong Says 5 years ago

      i am a straight man that had been married at one time, and i was a very caring and loving husband that never mistreated my wife at all. i was very committed to her, and i thought that i was going to have a family with her too. she turned out to be the FILTHY WHORE that i never knew, and had i known i would have never married that PIG in the first place. lets face it, a woman that CHEATS is certainly no angel. she cheated on me with a much older man that had a lot of money, and i knew the man as well. i have to say that many women nowadays do like men that have a lot of money, which is very sad. many women just can't like a man for himself anymore today, and years ago many women accepted the man for who he was. now with so many women making a lot more money than many men do, they think that their shit don't stink. i was very happy with my life at the time when i was married, and now going out is a joke with so many LOW LIFE LOSER WOMEN that we have out there now. women have become so very selfish today, and since many of them have an attitude problem now it is much worse. just look at our parents and grandparents, they are a perfect example how very long marriages lasted back then, and many of them are still going strong today. and when they did have problems, most of them did work it out. finding a real good honest woman now is very difficult for me, especially that many of them today are into other women these days. but that is another story, and will save that one for Jerry Springer.

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      watergeek 5 years ago from Pasadena CA

      I'm 63 and never been married. I'm not that great looking, but well fit. Don't have money, do have lots of skills. I'm independent and honest. I've traveled, I'm smart. Why am I not married?

      I'm a female who doesn't want to be any man's mother or his servant. I don't want to cook and clean house for him (we can do it together), nor for his goals to snuff mine out. I don't want it to be all about sex. I don't want to get stuck in the so-typical situation where he has the ideas, I do the work, he takes the credit. That's my cynicism talking.

      I do want companionship, respect, and caring. I look at his fitness to see if he respects himself. And his decision-making to see if he does what he says he will. Is he a person I can trust? Does he have integrity? Lately I've noticed some pretty decent men out there.

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      josphine 5 years ago

      he help me to get marry with this wealthy man, and he can still help you with spiritual power contact him he can give you any rich man you want

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      RealMenStandAlone 5 years ago

      Sigh..I'll make this simple for the majority of the worlds immature "so called adults". What disgusts me is everything is looks for a man, as for women everything is shallow, greedy and callus behavior from a rich or well off man. The economy is shit and people are being the very animals I always seen them as. Ready to throw up pitch forks at anyone and take what their greedy hearts desire.

      I am a man who see's the many search results of google and comments like these as a clear insight to the mind of most of humanity. It is also why I still remain silent, unmotivated anymore for a woman etc. Then men most of you females choose are garbage. Man or woman it doesn't matter none of you will see through societies illusion, puts the poor man down, creates wars for it's control and greed etc, an until you fools consume it all you won't be happy. Exactly why I could care less to have children I'll save my unborn children the hassle of having to go through life uncovering how the world is corrupt gives jobs to the ass kissers, women are for the gold, men who have it look to screw as many women as possible and abuse them, stereotypes, bullshit religions etc. This earth is prison of the mind and I'd leave you all here to rot if I could and go to Mars with a big middle finger on the side of my spaceship and under it the words that say "fuck you earthlings, I'm better then you all" Enjoy my thoughts and kiss my ass all of you. Real men stand alone and at this point with the shit I went through with women you might as well throw me up with the rest of the majority, only want to screw ya and leave ya thank your so called animal instincts for my uncaring nature at 29 years of age and a virgin, I'm proud to be cause you're a sexually transmitted disease.

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      Jane89 5 years ago

      Well I'm 27. Married a young man whom I was so in loved with. But he became an alcoholic. He started beating me for no reason. I started hating him. I have 2 children but I am in great shape. Very attractive too. I know that and I'm proud of that because I work hard for it. So I left his sorry ass and went to get an old rich man who treated me like a queen. Gave me everything I could ever ask for and more. My kids now have great life. I have a great life. Driving a 2010 Jaguar and a brand new Camaro SS. I now own apartments and a beach resort in my home country. Why suffer for love and be miserable? If you have children at risk, think twice. For love alone won't give you and your children a great life. We only live once to be poor lol.Lesson: Love is a game and I lost so many times but it taught me to be wiser. Life is too short for bullshit. There's a reason why our brain was placed much higher than our heart. Use your head. Teach your heart to stop being a fool. Teach your heart to love someone that you don't love. Because once you can do that, you'll know you can do anything! Just being honest here. Financial security won't break your heart.

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      Dogmeat 5 years ago

      90% of all americunts are social parassite who seek men for their goals, not for love...

      ..the remain 10% are married and ready to divorce!

      Stay alive! don't marry!

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      franko says 5 years ago

      women that only want to be with rich men, are certainly without a doubt such a FILTHY LOW LIFE today. GOD FORBID, if they were to just like a man for himself. i agree with the other person, who said that also. many women today, seem to just go after men with money. this is the easy way out for them, since many of these FILTHY PIGS do not want to work for their own money. so getting involved with a man that has money, makes their life a lot easier for them. SUCH LOSERS.

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      Vargas 5 years ago

      "a selfless desire"? Yeah sure. An oxymoron if I ever heard one. Look up Briffault's Law.

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      grace 6 years ago

      how are you doing am single and looking for a man that will make me happy not someone that will hurt my feelings you can try and send an email hope to hear from you soon


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      Pankaj Patel 6 years ago

      i want a rich woman in ahmedabad.because i urgent require money.for that i do any thing so mail me on

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      joe 6 years ago

      nice one meta!!!

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      Jace 6 years ago

      Very good experiment Jim. I'm sure for a good 90% of the women out there, it's true.

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      Jim 6 years ago

      Unfortunately, most of this is not true. Women on dating sites for instance will generally not even bother to look at a man's profile if he doesn't make at least $70,000 or $80,000. I did an experiment with this. I have a profile on a few sites and make a moderate income close to $50,000. Hardly any bites or responses from the ladies. I changed my income level to $80,000 and guess what happened...a few actually wrote back! A couple weeks later I posted it at $100,000 and I had more than a few winks and email responses. I think that proved a significant point.

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      Jace 6 years ago

      I personally do believe that there are some women that are good in character and strive to do things without the help of anyone, the same for men. Some do well and some do not...and are able to find someone of equal character to love. Unfortunately, there are not many women like this. Over the past 60 years, women have fought for their equal rights to men and I applaud the great efforts...congratulations, women now have no problem making damn good money and providing for there families as well if not better than the man involved. I was raised knowing that my mother and hers were the disciplinary and grew to respect women more than most men. After all, we are people first and foremost...we should be equal. But after 2 divorces in 14 years where in both they cheated on me...the first after we were together for 7 yrs. and she started making a little more money than I. The fact that I carried her ass for all the years before had never been brought up, but soon after she was doing better...she starts asking me what I'm gonna do to keep up with her and she became soooo materialistic. The second wife I tried to improve on...big mistake! She was worse, after a few years of trying to get pregnant, we got checked out...I was fine, she was not. She was depressed for a while and I allowed her to drag her ass on helping with our bills by just cleaning this much older rich guys house once a week and almost two years later find out from someone that she had been doing him the whole time and later found out that she was convinced that he could help her have a child but without me of course. I have to keep believing that there is still hope that I can find a real woman that believes in living equally. Come on ladies and gentlemen...we are living in the 20th century, not the 1800's! Start representing so that we can stop the cycle!

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      so very much true 6 years ago

      i consider these women, low life filthy pigs in the first place. they will use men for money, half of the time anyway. god forbid, if they were to like a man for himself. that shows you how rotten many of them are today. women are good now, for lying, cheating, stealing, and just playing to many games. most of them are, and always will be losers. i lost a great deal of respect for these type of women, that are just no good anymore. lets not forget the ones that are whores, since this is how they make their living today. then we have the lesbians, and what a disease they are.

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      Mike 6 years ago

      this is totally bs. In reality, men only want rich girl friend. They pretend loving in the first place that's why they start fighting with their girl friend. They hooked up thinking that the girl is rich only to find out that the girl is exactly the same level as he is and he is bitching but stuck with. So, he is looking to kick her out of relationship. What women want is sex. They want bigger better and harder. there is nothing more that they are looking. They only pretend that they are looking for rich guys partially it's because they are pissed off at the guys who are not satisfied with her giving sex. It's total opposite in reality. Men are spoiled by mother with love so, they look for something better like a woman with a big house and expensive cars nothing else.

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      AUSTINE 6 years ago

      Ineed rich girls and women.

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      Jh 6 years ago

      I think this observation was true at one time but today's woman is too self indulgent to be honest with herself. Men with money are ugly acting beings due to there large available supply of women!

      It's become an ugly world, plain and simple

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      Tomas 6 years ago

      I want rich girls I want them in my house

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      mez 6 years ago

      The truth is that you neglected your original argument when you came out with this:-

      The majority of us do want rich men

      Women are motivated by the original cave-man mentality, where the man is the bread-winner.

      I heard a conversation in the shopping aisle the other day, it was between two middle aged mothers discussing a female offspring of marital age:-

      "Julia's met someone and he's proposed to her"

      "omg, what does he do?"

      first question i.e. "how much is he worth?"

      not oo are they in love, no.... what is his job and what does he earn

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      Raju 6 years ago

      I think there is nothing wrong with women going for rich guys. It is natural selection. Darwin stuff. Rich = powerful, better future for offspring. Money is the modern equivalent of strong muscles and sharp claws.

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      moses mwanza 7 years ago

      i am looking forloyal/ honest,rich women who just want to pay for hot romantic sex ( HIV negative ones )age is not an issue.

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      manoj 7 years ago

      i want a rich woman.because i urgent requre mony.for that i do any thing

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      meta 7 years ago

      men or women, if your lives revolve around having more money, then ur just a sad and weak pathetic fool..

      people like this just won´t get what life is all about..

      futile pieces of human shit..

      the need for money to buy expensive shit beyond the things there are necessary to maintain a "normal" life, only shows how empty people are

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      Mark Haedrich 7 years ago

      See guys are the same..i only date rich woman too so i can have a free ride..any woman who is crippled , ugly BUT very rich email me..i willl give you love till your money runs out..

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      John 7 years ago

      a man can be average in his income and never get laid.

      but if he has money and even if he is not that attractive,a woman will jump on his pony and ride it.

      when a woman say nice men do not finish last, women marry them, that is total BS.

      I see 60 yr old men married to 30 yr old women. why? the man is a doctor or lawyer.

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      Golf 7 years ago

      This is so F**#ing depressing...All those beautiful woman I fall in love with just want money...Might as well bang some prossies....

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      FLAnative 7 years ago

      I am a male, 45 stay in shape ect. I am not rich, but I have had relationships with all economic classes of women. I have dated everything from bartenders to doctors. I think that if you are truly looking for a relationship that works, judge people on who they are and not what they have. I have seen it over and over again, with my friends who are wealthy. they marry a women who is 20 years younger and wonder why they had an affair with there personal trainer. Guys you have to ask yourself this question. Would she be with me if I made 8k a year and not 800k? If the answer is no move on, why live a lie. I will admit that dating a person with money is nice, but it is nothing unless you truly have feelings for them. My current gf is making about 1.2 mill a year, but that's not why I am with her, I am with her because she is honest, loving and DOES NOT CARE WHAT I MAKE. Guys and girls don't be fools with money, find someone who love you for you, that's happiness that money cannot bye. peace

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      Yash 7 years ago

      Women are bitches and all they want is money and money alone.

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      sunshine -) 7 years ago

      Lets be realistic people...!! Mutually Beneficial relationships are replacing 'love'.. We've all been in love and eventually had our hearts broken.. so sorry but F*** that. I've lost faith in love and finding a real gentleman/loyal/loving man. Instead, I seek arrangements with older guys who want me a young, attractive trophy on their arm, who doesn't complicate their lives but only assists with enjoying life! In return they help me financially, are a friend and show me that life can really be exciting and the world is a beautiful place just waiting to be explored.

      Nothing is for nothing is a quote that is sooooo true!!!

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      JoeJoey 7 years ago

      I completely agree with " Love creates money". It all comes down to $$$$. And looks are very important to WOMEN.Not so important compared to a men,but stil important. I'll break it down for you. For a MAN, his CAREER, What he brings home,what he owns all are VERY VERY IMPORTANT.

      For WOMEN, their looks - meaning attractiveness, beautiful, prety, hot,etc. Off course a women's personality is important too.

      But, in short, MEN need $$$ to get a HOT WOMEN. and HOT WOMEN need to look good to get a $$$ MAN!

      Women will tell you, money is not important,its bullshit.Men will say, I don't like SEX.Its bull shit too.End of the day, for MEN, please work hard, smart to get the MONEY.Buy a nice house,car and have property.

      Women, if you are unattractive, go work out,dressup well and am sure men will come.

      It's sad but true that REAl/TRUE love has gone away! I still hope there is an attratcive women who is still loking for true love. But, I think its gone! What do you think

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      ben 7 years ago

      It's all about money and social status.

      or having really low expectations.

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      LOVES CREATES MONEY  7 years ago


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      Mad 8 years ago

      What a load of crap!

      For's all about the MONEY

      For's all about the action

      The Truth hurts....I used to believe in hollywood/Snow white style is dead

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      Leo 8 years ago

      I don't think anyone wants to be poor,uneducated,ugly,


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      kiran suri 8 years ago

      i want rich sexy good honest woman

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      Janet Reamolud 9 years ago

      I heard a saying a few years ago that I agree 100% with (though there are exceptions, and the saying is a bit crass)

      "When a man meets a woman for the first time, the first thing he notices is the size of her breasts and the shape of her ass, when a woman meets a man for the first time , the first thing she notices is the size of his wallet and the shape of his bank account".

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      Gerry 9 years ago

      It's encouraging to read this. I'm 43, educated and gainfully employed...but I'm not rich...not by a long shot. I'm saving my money. My car is old...but it's clean, runs well, and paid for. My apartment is small, but neat, and I have everything I need. I have interests, know a lot about the world and can hold an intelligent conversation about just about anything. And, I'm not half bad looking. Yet...I can't get a date in this town to save my life. I'm beginning to think that all women are looking for these days is a cash cow. They all want to emulate the Sex and the City girls. It's nice to see that there women out there who don't fit that mold. only question is how do I meet these women????

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      Bob 9 years ago

      That second sentence was supposed to read "you've allowed me to ADD a lot to my list."

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      Bob 9 years ago

      This article was great, and for me it has an absolute ring of truth. As a 54 year old artist (musician/composer/author/educator) I often consider what I have have to offer women, and you've allowed me to a lot much to my list. I have "intuited" a lot of what you've written as true for myself; it is very reassuring to see it in print, coming from a woman. Great piece.

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      Al Stevenson 10 years ago from Niagara Falls Area Canada

      Perhaps a follow up with the fine detailed means and circumstances to which yourself and husband bent destiny to become one as the saying goes... your life of learning has only just begun...



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      L Ring 10 years ago from Southern USA

      Same here--my husband and I were both in the process of building a life when we met(in our early 20's), so we didn't have much until we married and worked together as a team. We've been married for almost 2 yrs now. We appreciate the things we worked hard for because we did it together. Not to mention, we recently found out that the tax break is excellent when you're married! ;)

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      WeddingConsultant 10 years ago from DC Metro Area

      I like your hub here. It's good for everyone to know that women desire good character over dollars. Lord knows that's why MY wife chose me! haha