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Why the Empty Promises

Updated on April 3, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Promises are not always fulfilled

· What makes you think the person will change and keep up to their promise?

You can't promise the weather that is unpredictable.

Promises made and not fulfilled is the correct way of explaining empty promises.

A promise an individual is not able to deliver.

Politicians make many promises but don't keep up to their word.

Empty promises can break relationships with your loved partner or a friend.

''He promised to make a change and did not try hard enough to make that change.''

I'' love my husband and he promised to never cheat on me again''

The above-mentioned is often mentioned but does not follow through for many people.

She cheated on him and broke her promise.

· Why do you want to give the other person another chance to fulfill a promise?

Sometimes people know about their weak promises, and would still go ahead and make some anyway, just to make the other person to feel happy.

A couple married for twenty years and the husband had made many promises to his wife, only, to not keep these promises.

He not keep up to his word of every promise.

Every promise made to wife over the years has just passed by, and she did not ask about it anymore.

The woman chose not to ask about the broken promises. She knew after the first few broken promises the rest won't be.

It would be a waste of energy getting into something that would make matters worse in conversation and in their relationship.

He promised he will stop gambling, and stop smoking, he won't get into unnecessary debt, or will try to enjoy himself and be relaxed.

He promises he will be there when she needed him.

All of what he mentioned did not come through for her.

She gave up on listening to his conversations and chose to live her way the way she knew best to keep that part away from her life.

It would have ruined her if she continued believing in someone who keeps on going back on his word.

People can make promises and break promises. The worst feeling of making a promise is when one is disappointed by the failed promise.

It can be heartbreaking if one believes the other will fulfill that promise especially, when they have no intention of doing so.

Most individuals can promise you the world but won't fulfill anything close to that of their word.

Relationships are not based on trying to repair the broken promises. Instead to make a difference is more of what a relationship requires.

Avoid making a promise you know won't be fulfilled that hurts others and you don't see it.

· Have you ever made a promise just to make someone happy but deep down you knew it won't be fulfilled?

Most promises are made but never kept.

I don't make a promise I know I can't keep.

Making the other person hope and wait for their promise to be fulfilled is a weak idea for any individual.

Don't give your word if you can't keep it.

A person who makes many unfulfilled promises is a failure to another.

It is challenging to keep a promise.

Promises can be made by your close families or friends, the people you trust the most, and believe, they too can let you down easily.

It can be unpleasant for both sides. You won't forget the experience easily, and it also hurts for a while.

· Are promises made to be broken?

Friendships are ruined when promises are broken.

If you think this person will change and keep up to their next promise, think again.

The many excuses made about why the promise has been broken can go on and on.

· Do you think it is worth your time and energy to keep on believing in their so-called promises?

Focus on your weaknesses and instead of hoping for a change from that person get into serious conversation and discuss it.

· How are you affected by the broken Promise?

Don't be afraid to express your feelings to the other person.

You may worry about losing the friendship you have with this person that can keep you from getting to the point.

· Breaking a promise in a relationship does this mean your partner does not love you?

· The person you are in love with is the person most likely to break promises to you it sounds untrue don’t it?

· Did you ever think that the person who loves you the most would break a promise to you?

· Why does this happen?

When couples take their marriage for granted after many years together, they fail to see what really matters, and tend to make promises and let go easily.

They get comfortable with their married lives or in a relationship and take each other for granted.

Making a promise is easy and not fulfilling it is even simpler to do.

Just mention it and forget about it.

Couples are driven by affection making them this way.

· For example, taking a vow how often is that promise kept?

Couples often don't get upset by broken promises.

The only kind of people who keep up to their promises are the obsessive people, those who are up-tight and go by the book.

The kinds of people who remember their promises made, and this has lots to do with ones personality but not as much to do with love.

It is normal to do something nice for your partner. Showing appreciation happens on the spur of the moment though keeping a promise it can be the hardest to do.

You get held up with a conference or another agenda and the promise made automatically falls away.

You must not forget that relationships are not the same in any way.

Couples fall in love with each other for what makes them unique. No person can be perfect everyone.

You can be the perfect person but not for many people only a few will find you the perfect kind.

Never sit down and compare your relationship to another, wrong idea.

Forget about comparing your relationship to your parent's or your friend's relationship promise yourself you will not go down that lane.

Promise yourself to respect others and be kind.

A healthy relationship can break from many broken promises.

· Mean what you say and avoid hurting the feelings of others surely you won't like it if someone disappointed you with a broken promise?

Open communication is best to get out what you feel about others.

· Promises are important and somewhat not important however, would you still keep your promise made to someone?

When you promise yourself for something you have always wanted, and when these promises don't come your way because of certain situations, then you just to got to live with it.

It is often not your fault. You tried your best and it did not work out, or you failed to comply with your actions from otter experiences.

· How many times have your parents made promises to you and have not kept up to their word?

You believed them and had high hopes but nothing came your way and it broke your heart.

Be able to take responsible and accept your act of broken promises.

All promises no matter how big or small it still has a great effect on a person's mind.

· What happens when a promise is broken?

You lose trust in that person and stopped believing in them.

The continuity of the same behavior makes relationships most difficult to cope with, and the same patterns fail your heart desires.

No simple apology will make it all good again. It takes time to get back on the right track of mind once your trust has been tampered with nothing can be the same for you.

Only time will tell.

There are no perfect beings on this earth, and promises made are meant to be broken. If only you could understand it from your point of view.

Promises are empty if not fulfilled. Promises are meant when spoken of, and is not always a good way to gain any relationship or friendship.

The personality trait plays an important role when it comes to making or breaking promises.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Suzanne for the vote useful so kind of you to stop by.

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      Suzanne Day 

      4 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      I think sometimes in our busy world, there are promises that just aren't kept, even though they mean to be. But important promises, made by lovers, I believe should always be kept. Voted useful.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. I appreciate your comments, thank you for the vote up and have a peasant day.

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      Dave 

      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Another great read with many valid points raised to make one think about promises. Yes they are sometimes broken often unintentionally as you have said, but many are sincere and kept, and these are the important ones. Voted up my friend , thank you for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Good Afternoon MsDora so glad you stopped by here and shared your comment thank you for the constant support. Have a pleasant Sunday.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, you raise many points here for consideration. Promises are broken sometimes, but it will help if there is a promise to communicate (including listening) when other promises do not come true.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway definitely a true statement here thank you.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      If we cannot keep our word to one another, the rest means nothing.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tobusiness you are so right. ''There are times when, however well meaning, we are left with no alternative and a promise must be broken, but such is life.''

      Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Eiddwen for the vote up have a pleasant weekend and I hope you are not affected by the bad weather

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Devika, another interesting and thought-provoking write. I try not to make promises if I can help it, but when I do, I would always do my best not to break it. There are times when, however well meaning, we are left with no alternative and a promise must be broken, but such is life.

      Nice work!

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      Eiddwen 

      4 years ago from Wales

      A wonderful hub leaving much food for thought.

      Thanks for sharing and voted up for sure DDE.

      Eddy.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Faith as usual you make the effort to stop by at my hubs and I so appreciate your time thank you for the vote up,shared and more.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jodah you are right ''Promising is different to agreeing.'' Thank yo for sharing your thoughts at my hubs I appreciate the effort.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker thank you and so true "because I have to do this work"

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      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Great hub, Devika! Yes, never promise something if there is any chance you cannot keep it. I would rather not make any promises, as broken promised certainly do destroy trust!

      Up and more and sharing

      Have a great weekend,

      Faith Reaper

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      John Hansen 

      4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      If there's one value I stick to, it's that I never make a promise if I don't intend to keep it. If I have 'promised' to do something I will do everything in my power to get it done. Only a huge catastrophe will stop me and in that case the other person will understand. But I will never promise anything if I think it's too difficult Or something I won't be able to follow through. Promising is different to agreeing. I will agree with something someone says....say "that's a good idea" or "yes, I suppose we could do that" or something to that effect, but that's not the same as promising to do something. Interesting hub, makes you think.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      One of the hardest parts of being a dad is breaking promises when circumstances change. Sometimes as simple as "because I have to do this work" is like a stake through your heart. So we learn to temper almost all promises.

      Great article

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kidscrafts have a great weekend and well said. Thank you!

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you have pleasant weekend!

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      kidscrafts 

      4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      I usually will give the benefit of the doubt when someone will not keep their promise. If that happens several time than I will not trust that person. As the quote says : "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me"!

      Enjoy your weekend, Devika!

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      We are only as good as our word. If we don't keep promises then what does that say about us as humans? Good food for thought here.

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